My Parents Found Out

[xXoblivionXx]

Well my counselor actually told my dad about a month ago but not till about yesterday did we really talked about it. In the end, I couldn't take it anymore, started crying, and told them what I really thought. That I'm a bad person, that I'm not good enough, that my faith isn't as good as I want it to be. I had to say at the end of the conversation I felt quite relieved

But today when I was in the car with my mom she told me that she didn't buy it and told me to tell her what was really wrong. I told them everything! Well, almost everything. Everything that mattered. I just can't believe that she thinks I'm lying to her. When I tell her why I cut, actually I told them that I scratch myself. She says that it doesn't make sense. Why would you torture yourself for making a mistake, just ask God for forgiveness and try to be better next time.

If it were that simple I wouldn't be like this right now. It was really hard for me to tell you guys what was wrong but now you guys don't believe me. And worse, you told me that "it's not a big deal" that I was over reacting and started hurting myself. What kind of parents are you? If I don't have you guys then I truly have no one. :(

[VerizoniPhone]

Sweetie, they just dont want to believe it. After i told my parents I was gay my mom went into denial. Its just a persons way to cope. They dont want to believe it so they literally believe something else. I would get your whole family into a counseling session so everyone can blert out everything they want and the leave the professional to figure out a solution. Your parents love you and they just want you to be happy. <3

[xarvon1412]

Maybe it's just my biased view of God speaking but I think you did everything in your power to tell God what was wrong. I can't believe that your parents (or parent?) would just blow your problem off like that. I think what Verizon was saying is right, maybe it's just a denial stage. It's probably a big shock, I know it was for my parents. I know that without your parents you feel like you have nobody, but if you ever need to talk I can be here for you. Your parents I think really do love you, but this is hard on them, not that they're making it any easier on you though. It is a big deal, and they'll come to terms with that. Don't worry.

[candabear17]

This may sound worse than it's meant to be, but parents can't handle the idea that there's something wrong with their kid. They think it's their fault and are generally just not sure what to do. I was in the hospital a while ago for a suicide attempt and my mom came to see me. She told me that she wasn't mad or disappointed in me, she just didn't know what to do. In reality, parents can't do anything for us but stand by us which is hard for them because they want to help. Just try to have some understanding for them even though it's hard. The shock will wear off eventually and things will get better. Just be patient with them.