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December 18th, 2012, 04:54 PM
Ok, so basically what I mean by "Goals" is what I would like to get done, obviously referring to my sexuality. Ever since I was about 11, I created some crazy 3-point plan on how I would deal with my sexuality, and I just wanted to know if I'm like weird, or if there is something I should be doing that I'm not.

Step 1: Accepting

This first one actually took me quite a while. For the longest time I thought to myself that me liking boys was just some crazy phase, or that I was just weird. Not until I learned more about labels like "Gay" and "Bi" etc, and figured out what I am. I knew, deep down, that I was bi, but I had a hard time coming to terms with it. I never spoke about it to anyone, and I felt weird even having this "fight" with my thoughts and feelings. But, after about 2 years, I finally accepted the fact that I was bi, and had to live my life, from that point forward, as a bisexual teenager.

Step 2: Coming Out

I'm currently in this step of my "overall plan", in which I think is the most important step. I personally never thought I would find the need to tell anyone that I was bi, but now I do. This guilt, it just seems to affect you, and sway your emotions. It makes you feel like your lying to everyone, and especially to yourself. And, with realizing this, I also realized that I would have to find a way to tell people about my sexuality.

- At the time of writing this post, I have officially came out to 2 people, my best friend, and another good friend that I know I can trust. They've been overall supportive, and it didn't seem to change their perspective of me like I had imagined. Even with the content I have now, I still know that I eventually have to tell the people that I may not trust as much, and that's when it'll get tough for me. -

Step 3: Live With It

So, by the time I get to this step, I'd have accepted myself, and officially came out of my "closet". So, then would be the best time to live with my new sexuality, and enjoy it. Maybe find other people in my situation to share my experiences with. Get a girlfriend/boyfriend. Just live my life knowing I don't have to worry about it anymore.

And that's how I truly feel about it, my 3 goals on how to deal with MY sexuality. If you know anything else I could try, or to help make my experiences better, please tell me. All comments and answers are appreciated. :yes:

Troy35216
December 18th, 2012, 05:01 PM
wow. was it scary telling your 2 friends?

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December 18th, 2012, 05:16 PM
wow. was it scary telling your 2 friends?

The first time, not so much. I knew I could trust her, the only problem was actually saying it.... or typing it. (it was through text). She just said "Really?", and I said yeah, and she just went with it. We're best buds now :yes:

The second was today, actually, and once again I couldn't "say" it, so I mouthed out the words to him. He's my best friend, so I didn't expect him to judge me or anything. All he said was "how did I know" and "I won't judge you".

So, it is kind of hard to actually get yourself to do it, but the result usually isn't so bad. :D

Twilly F. Sniper
December 21st, 2012, 09:50 AM
I have a similar plan, still in step 2. Came out to pretty much the whole school, starting with 10 people. Not quite to my family yet.