getting my girl off

[Trinity_15]

Hi. When me and my girlfriend have sex, i can never seem to give her an orgasm, i want to but just can't seem to do it.

Any of you guys/girls have some advice. it frustrates her and me.

[ReginaGeorge]

Don't just reply on you doing the standard in and out for five minutes. Contrary to popular belief *cough*porn*cough* not all women can orgasm from penetration alone.

Talk to her! Find out what she likes. I can't stress this enough: talk.

Foreplay. Kiss, roll around, just general touching, neck biting/kissing, taking each others clothes off etc. If you already do it, do more, if you think you already do enough, do more, and do different things. Again, talk, find out things that she likes, if she doesn't know, get some suggestions, and act them out. See if they float her boat. Try oral sex on her before penetration as well.

As for during, touch her if you don't, don't just thrust like an animal, show affection, touch and play with her breasts if she wants, don't just grope them, that can hurt if you're too rough, unless she likes that. AGAIN: TALK. Trace her body, play with her hair, breathe on neck. I don't know, find what she likes.

Also, when going for the gold, use your hand on her at the same time your penis is. Find the sensitive spot called a clitoris, and massage it. Some women cannot orgasm without it being stimulated. Try different speeds and pressures, listen to her and find what works.

Hope this helps.

[its.me.akshay]

dude... try to excite her... tease her around... do loads of foreplay... make her ta beg for your dick... it will take time to master... but do it realy slow... loads of kissing... playing with her boobs... oral sex... try the sensitive parts too... back of her neck... behind her ears... nice wet kiss... below her boobs... round her thighs... and the clitoris... try finger f***ing her and try reaching the g-spot... that would guarantee an orgasm... try it... :)

[Amy_I_am]

dude... try to excite her... tease her around... do loads of foreplay... make her ta beg for your dick... it will take time to master... but do it realy slow... loads of kissing... playing with her boobs... oral sex... try the sensitive parts too... back of her neck... behind her ears... nice wet kiss... below her boobs... round her thighs... and the clitoris... try finger f***ing her and try reaching the g-spot... that would guarantee an orgasm... try it... :)

Sorry mate, but if girls have managed to convince you that you can guarantee them an orgasm like that, they've been playing you. Mental state plays even more of a part than physical stimulation in reaching orgasm.

Trinity: As NotSoSilentHill said, find out what her fantasies are and incorporate that into your foreplay and sex. Make her feel good both mentally and physically.

[Josie95]

Most girls can't reach orgasm through penetration alone. For us an orgasm is as much mental as it is physical so it takes a lot to get her mentally ready to have one. You been given some great advice here already. USE IT! If you remember nothing else, remember three things. One, you can never have too much foreplay. Two, it's likely she's going to need clitoral 'help' to get there. And three, communication is critical. Find out what works for her.

Oh, one other thing is try to help her relax a little. If you both are frustrated and she's feeling under pressure to have an orgasm that can be a mental block that is causing her to have an even harder time.

Sorry we're so complicated but we can't help it. :whoops:

Ok, you're a guy, think of it kind of like sports. You can't just go out there and randomly kick the ball around or whatever and expect to win the game. There's strategy, and technique, and teamwork that has to be learned before you can be successful. Learning is the hard part, but once you know it, you know it. And believe you'll be glad when you do. ;)

[StoppingTime]

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