SQLguy
December 17th, 2012, 10:34 PM
Here is the TLDR version: Male, 15, never had a serious relationship...lonely.
Well, I am currently 15 years old...my issues started in February of 2011, I became really interested in a girl for the first time ever, took me until June to man up to tell her I like her (i was in eighth grade) and her response, "Im Sorry, I don't like you like that, im really sorry dont take this the wrong way, you're a really good friend, but its just that, we are friends." Looks wise she was very sub par, I had feelings for her but the physical attraction just wasnt there. I found out about a year later that she was in the closet. Then I started going after this girl who is pretty hot, we talked every day and got along famously, only she had a boyfriend, and suffers from codependency, I waited close to a year for a chance to get with her, and I ultimately gave up in June of 2012. At that point I finished freshman year in an all boys school, I didn't know any girls, and I was socially screwed.
Then over the summer of 2012 I had one of the most messed up experiences in my life. I am a big nerd, i run websites, and write programs. While I was out of town I met a kid who was a big nerd like me, and I helped him set up a server remotely, and to thank me, he invited me to hang out with him and a few of his friends that evening. One of his friends was this girl, she wasnt pretty at all, but she got an instant crush on me. The next night, just she and I hung out kinda clubbing, (i had no one else to hang out with) and we danced a bit and talked for a while. The night was over when her mom found us at 2 am talking, sitting in a gazebo in the middle of the woods. (We did not do anything, i was not attracted to her at that time). So i saw her the next day, I was getting ready to go home, we hugged goodbye and parted ways. So a few days later, it was like 3 am on the fourth of july, we were texting cuz we couldnt sleep, through the conversation she admitted she had feelings for me, I lied saying I liked her too, and she was like "Ok so we are together now" and I am like "sure why not lol." So that continues for a month, the last weekend of July I go back there and we chill some more, I have my first kiss with her, at midnight, deep in the woods. Nothing special 2 seconds on the lips, we were both so dumb we didnt even close our eyes. Later that night i kissed her again, same deal, a little longer though. The next day i was leaving, i was not gonna see her again for at least a year, we kissed and hugged, and before I was two hundred feet away from her, she sent me a breakup text...whatever.
So now its december, i am depressed, i really want a girlfriend, and I am really attracted to this one girl who goes to an all girls school. I talk to her on facebook, but I have never met her in person (she is not fake or like some 40 year old dude pretending to be her, I have friends at school who have met her and hung out with her, and one of her ex's goes to my school). She is really shy like me, and a big music nerd. She has this punk kind of style, just in the way she looks, but she acts cheerful and is very nice. She has told me that she really likes talking to me, and that I am fun to talk to, and that I am super nice. I updated my profile picture the other day, and she was 1 of 2 girls that liked it. I have her phone number and we are contacts on ooVoo, ive never called her, and we've never gone on ooVoo. I am just kinda worried that the conversation will fade off and an awkward silence would ensue.
My long term goals for her are, I would really like to go out with her. I need advice and a logical course of action that could lead up to the point where I could hang out, or go on a date with her. I have a semi formal the first week of march, that I want to ask her too. I want to pop that question in like the second week of January because that would give ample time for arrangements to be made etc.
Any advice for my situation would be very very greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading this, and thank you in advance any replies.
Well, I am currently 15 years old...my issues started in February of 2011, I became really interested in a girl for the first time ever, took me until June to man up to tell her I like her (i was in eighth grade) and her response, "Im Sorry, I don't like you like that, im really sorry dont take this the wrong way, you're a really good friend, but its just that, we are friends." Looks wise she was very sub par, I had feelings for her but the physical attraction just wasnt there. I found out about a year later that she was in the closet. Then I started going after this girl who is pretty hot, we talked every day and got along famously, only she had a boyfriend, and suffers from codependency, I waited close to a year for a chance to get with her, and I ultimately gave up in June of 2012. At that point I finished freshman year in an all boys school, I didn't know any girls, and I was socially screwed.
Then over the summer of 2012 I had one of the most messed up experiences in my life. I am a big nerd, i run websites, and write programs. While I was out of town I met a kid who was a big nerd like me, and I helped him set up a server remotely, and to thank me, he invited me to hang out with him and a few of his friends that evening. One of his friends was this girl, she wasnt pretty at all, but she got an instant crush on me. The next night, just she and I hung out kinda clubbing, (i had no one else to hang out with) and we danced a bit and talked for a while. The night was over when her mom found us at 2 am talking, sitting in a gazebo in the middle of the woods. (We did not do anything, i was not attracted to her at that time). So i saw her the next day, I was getting ready to go home, we hugged goodbye and parted ways. So a few days later, it was like 3 am on the fourth of july, we were texting cuz we couldnt sleep, through the conversation she admitted she had feelings for me, I lied saying I liked her too, and she was like "Ok so we are together now" and I am like "sure why not lol." So that continues for a month, the last weekend of July I go back there and we chill some more, I have my first kiss with her, at midnight, deep in the woods. Nothing special 2 seconds on the lips, we were both so dumb we didnt even close our eyes. Later that night i kissed her again, same deal, a little longer though. The next day i was leaving, i was not gonna see her again for at least a year, we kissed and hugged, and before I was two hundred feet away from her, she sent me a breakup text...whatever.
So now its december, i am depressed, i really want a girlfriend, and I am really attracted to this one girl who goes to an all girls school. I talk to her on facebook, but I have never met her in person (she is not fake or like some 40 year old dude pretending to be her, I have friends at school who have met her and hung out with her, and one of her ex's goes to my school). She is really shy like me, and a big music nerd. She has this punk kind of style, just in the way she looks, but she acts cheerful and is very nice. She has told me that she really likes talking to me, and that I am fun to talk to, and that I am super nice. I updated my profile picture the other day, and she was 1 of 2 girls that liked it. I have her phone number and we are contacts on ooVoo, ive never called her, and we've never gone on ooVoo. I am just kinda worried that the conversation will fade off and an awkward silence would ensue.
My long term goals for her are, I would really like to go out with her. I need advice and a logical course of action that could lead up to the point where I could hang out, or go on a date with her. I have a semi formal the first week of march, that I want to ask her too. I want to pop that question in like the second week of January because that would give ample time for arrangements to be made etc.
Any advice for my situation would be very very greatly appreciated. Thank you for reading this, and thank you in advance any replies.