Scared

[AutumnDae]

So last night was my school's homecoming dance. It was great. So, I didn't have a date or anything, but I was okay with that. But, my friend, Lindsey, has a boyfriend, Sean. That'll help explain this. Sean's friend Jake, is really nice. I knew him since last year, when I was on his same soccer team. We aren't really THAT close, but if we were at a party together, we could talk, and not have it be awkward. So I walked up to Jake last night, and punched him jokingly in the arm-shoulder area. And he punches me REALLY hard back. So as this was happening the song changes to a slow song. He asks me to dance. Without even thinking about it I say yes. You only live once right? So we dance, and I tell him I am going to sue him for punching me. Everything is great at this point. So, the song ends, and we go our separate ways.

So the last song of the night, my toe (my toenail is loose, and is going to fall off) started hurting. So I just say "Ow! My toe hurts SO bad" and he asks why. I tell him the whole story, and then he just laughs. "You really are a klutz aren't you?" So the song is ending, and we kinda just walk away from each other. I give him his tie back that I had been wearing, he gives me my money that I had been holding.

I'm not really sure if I like him. I am kind of afraid to. And then I think about, me and Lindsey, hanging out with Sean and Jake. Jake lives near Lindsey, so that would be great. When I think about it, I really like him. He's so nice and everything. And then I get to thinking "I don't know, do I really like him? Or do I just want a boyfriend at this point?"

So any ideas? Should I keep getting close to him? Or should I ignore the fact that we are the only people we danced with all night.

[Serenity]

Hey if you're feeling an attraction to him and there's no reason to not go for it, what's stopping you? If, as DE said, you get a vibe that he's the violent type, then obviously I say absofreakinglutely NOT. If he was just joking around and you feel like you could have a solid relationship with him, definitely see if it leads to anything. Like you said, you only live once, right? :daisy:

[Underground_Network]

Hey if you're feeling an attraction to him and there's no reason to not go for it, what's stopping you? If, as DE said, you get a vibe that he's the violent type, then obviously I say absofreakinglutely NOT. If he was just joking around and you feel like you could have a solid relationship with him, definitely see if it leads to anything. Like you said, you only live once, right? :daisy:

QFT

[AutumnDae]

He definitely wasn't being serious when he punched me back. It was more of a "you punched me, I'll punch you harder back" type of punch. Just jokingly.

Now that its the school week again, I don't really know how to talk to him, I mean, I could walk up to him, and say hi, although that sounds stupid to me.......

[bbychop]

just walking up to him and saying hi is just a first step. nothing big, nothing small. if you have thought about it further and actually realized you do like him and it is not just to have a boyfriend, i would say go for it. you are right, you only live once. make the best of it.

[AutumnDae]

Well my friend has these "questions" to answer to see if you really like someone, so he asked me, and as it turns out I answered yes to all of them. So I am thinking that I am gonna go up and talk to him tomorrow. See if they have a soccer game, and go if they do. And talk to him there. Maybe he'll ask me out. =]

[Gumleaf]

just as long as the primary reason is that you want to be with him because you like him then i think it might be worthwhile giving it a go. you made a good point when you said that you might only want to be with him because you want a boyfriend. its important that thats not the reason you get close to him because then the relationship will probably fall apart in time because it wasn't based on real feelings for him. i suggest that you think about it and work out what your real feelings for him are. good luck!

[northskater110]

i think you should go out with him. he seems like a nice guy, and fun to be around with.

but u must make the final decision, cuz we cant really make it for u

[AutumnDae]

Yea, he is really nice, and we have a lot in common. I was thinking about this like all day. I don't feel weird around him. Like I don't feel stupid when I say something that makes no sense.

I usually get really nervous like that, and the only guy that I am completely comfortable around is my best friend, Logan.

But around Jake, I can be myself. Not have to act like a stereo typical girl.

[AutumnDae]

Update: Lindsey talked to Jake on the soccer bus. I was sitting with Lindsey. She says "So Jake, do you have a girlfriend?" "Nope." "Do you have someone specific that you like?" "Not really." "Do you want to go out with Autumn" "I don't really want a relationship right now...." "Oh. Okay."

Is that supposed to mean he doesn't like me?

[Smeller]

Not really unless he stars avoidin you cuz he freaked out..
In some cases a guy really tells the truth when they say that, its just isnt his priority right now he's probably not ready or just really doesnt want a relationship

[AutumnDae]

yea. he did get out of a relationship like 2 weeks ago. and I don't think that it was a very good one. I will just have to wait him out.