How to become asexual?

[Forsakenbymyself]

Ok, i'll make it short. No girl is attracted to me, and i start to get tired of having to masturbate to satisfy my sexual needs. I wish i could have just a normal sexual life, kissing your partner and bla bla bla but, as i have already stated, nobody seems to care for me.
So basically, having to choke your sexuality because you can't express it it's very tiring. How do i stop feeling attracted to girls, in general?

[Lost in the Echo]

You can't just become asexual, just like you can't just become heterosexual or homosexual.
You're just born the way you are.
Also, asexual means that you have absolutely no physical or emotional attraction towards anyone of any gender, but from what you said, you clearly seem to have an attraction towards girls, so you can't be asexual.

Also, stop stressing over this.
One day you will find a girl who is attracted to you and likes you.
It may take time, but it will happen. :)

[Forsakenbymyself]

Also, stop stressing over this.
One day you will find a girl who is attracted to you and likes you.
It may take time, but it will happen. :)

Yeah.... but it's just that i can't keep up with my sexual needs....how can i do it, then?

[Lost in the Echo]

Yeah.... but it's just that i can't keep up with my sexual needs....how can i do it, then?

Are you asking about how to keep up with your current sexual needs, or about keeping up with them in a relationship?

As for now, masturbation should relieve your sexual urges/desires.
Once you're in a relationship, if the person is ready, you could have sex.
Also, there are way more important things than sex, so don't spend too much time thinking about sex.
Do something productive and meaningful with your life.

[Forsakenbymyself]

Are you asking about how to keep up with your current sexual needs, or about keeping up with them in a relationship?

As for now, masturbation should relieve your sexual urges/desires.
Once you're in a relationship, if the person is ready, you could have sex.
Also, there are way more important things than sex, so don't spend too much time thinking about sex.
Do something productive and meaningful with your life.

It doesn't actually. It doesn't satisfy my need for somebody to have a deep relationship with in my life (and sexual relationship,too).

Also, it's so frustrating to see people younger than me already having stable relationships....

[Troy35216]

sounds like you need to find new ways to masturbate if the way you do it now doesn't satisfy your urges.

[Lost in the Echo]

It doesn't actually. It doesn't satisfy my need for somebody to have a deep relationship with in my life (and sexual relationship,too).

Also, it's so frustrating to see people younger than me already having stable relationships....

Well everybody is different, life leads a different path for everybody.
Like I said, eventually you will find somebody you love, or that person may find you.
Just be patient and don't rush anything.
Don't be jealous of others, that will get you nowhere in life.
Concentrate on your life, don't waste time being envious of other people.
Focus all of your attention on your life.
One day, you'll be in a relationship with someone you love, sooner or later it will happen.
Just stop stressing and rushing this, you have to be patient.

[jegoss02]

Okay. Stop looking at other people to base your life off of. It doesn't work. When some else is your compass, you won't agree with it and end up losing your own self image. You won't know what you like an what you don't like. You'll become ignorant of any other way and it won't be yours. So be yourself. Plus, those people you are out there with their "stable" relationships are probably only in it for sex and it won't last. And the same will happen to you if you try to find a partner that only fills that desire. What you an everyone in this whole freaking world needs is a good partner who would be a best fit. You need someone who will care for you, not only physically, but emotionally as well.

[West Coast Sheriff]

Ok, i'll make it short. No girl is attracted to me, and i start to get tired of having to masturbate to satisfy my sexual needs. I wish i could have just a normal sexual life, kissing your partner and bla bla bla but, as i have already stated, nobody seems to care for me.
So basically, having to choke your sexuality because you can't express it it's very tiring. How do i stop feeling attracted to girls, in general?

A persons sexuality is something they are born with, you can't just change it.

[Ryhanna]

You can't 'become' asexual. You're just born that way.

Why do you think it is that no girl is attracted to you? Is it something that you can change? Have you asked a girl out. You might be surprised. I think you're longing for the closeness and intimacy of a relationship, not sex. Instead of trying to drown out your sexual desires, try getting to know a girl and asking her out.

[Mortal Coil]

Okay, as an asexual I'd like to tell you that sexuality, or lack thereof, is not a choice. In fact, because of the circumstances that led to my asexual identity being realized, I'm almost offended.
But this isn't about me, so here's my two cents:
I hate to say this, but it honestly sounds like you have a sex addiction if you actually can't stop. Try a little experiment where you go one day without beating off. Just try it. If you actually cannot go for a day without it, you may well be addicted and you should seek help or at the very least make a conscious effort to control it.

[Lost in the Echo]

Okay, as an asexual I'd like to tell you that sexuality, or lack thereof, is not a choice. In fact, because of the circumstances that led to my asexual identity being realized, I'm almost offended.
But this isn't about me, so here's my two cents:
I hate to say this, but it honestly sounds like you have a sex addiction if you actually can't stop. Try a little experiment where you go one day without beating off. Just try it. If you actually cannot go for a day without it, you may well be addicted and you should seek help or at the very least make a conscious effort to control it.

I can see where you're coming from on this, but I don't think it's a sex addiction.
From what the guy said, I assume he's a virgin, and i'm pretty sure you have to have had sex, to become a sex addict.

If he's still in puberty, I think he is really horny because of his hormones raging, which happens during puberty, and is quite normal.

[Mortal Coil]

I can see where you're coming from on this, but I don't think it's a sex addiction.
From what the guy said, I assume he's a virgin, and i'm pretty sure you have to have had sex, to become a sex addict.

If he's still in puberty, I think he is really horny because of his hormones raging, which happens during puberty, and is quite normal.

You actually don't have to have sex in order to be a sex addict. It's an addiction to sexual pleasure, i.e. orgasms.
(wow I'm saying the word sex a lot aren't I)
you're right, hormones do make people crazily horny, so I've heard, but human beings are not slaves to our hormones and there is still a difference between healthy male sexuality/"being horny and hormonal," and being trapped in this kind of situation.
But I may well be wrong, of course.

[Twilly F. Sniper]

A persons sexuality is something they are born with, you can't just change it.

This is the answer.

[Eth_94123]

Ok, i'll make it short. No girl is attracted to me, and i start to get tired of having to masturbate to satisfy my sexual needs. I wish i could have just a normal sexual life, kissing your partner and bla bla bla but, as i have already stated, nobody seems to care for me.
So basically, having to choke your sexuality because you can't express it it's very tiring. How do i stop feeling attracted to girls, in general?

You can just stop liking girls if the feeling is there then there is no stopping it :/

[Lovelife090994]

I disagree to some of the comments. No one is born with an inate sense of their sexuality. It is influenced and by choice. You can change if you so desire. We are all human thus all in control of our bodies. Your choice!