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Acro34
December 12th, 2012, 11:19 PM
About five months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of about five months because she had moved away. We had a great run, she was my first girlfriend and I truly loved her and had many emotional experiences with her. It was a very traumatic proc, ess, neither of us wanted to end it but I felt as though it was right because a long distance relationship just doesn't seem right to me, I don't think it would work. Anyways, it just seems harder to feel infatuated for a girl. I know the girl would seem like somebody I would like definitely like, and I am very physically attracted to them but I just don't feel all mushy and gooey inside.

I met the girl I dated over thanksgiving because she was back here to see family for a few days. We kissed and such but it just didn't seem to have much feeling or meaning (there still was definitely some but it just seemed confusing).

Does this, so to speak, lacking of infatuation seem normal and logical? This is all just very confusing for me. I've come to the point of questioning my sexuality because of this, although I'm pretty sure I'm straight.

Thank you for your time.

IAMWILL
December 13th, 2012, 07:34 PM
I think you kinda answered your own question already. You probably feel a lack of infatuation so to speak because the girl that you broke up with was your first real girlfriend, and you really liked her. Losing something like that is very difficult, and emotions only become heightened during puberty. She was special to you, and I'd guess you feel right now like there is no one else out there that can fit her shoes. I also think the breakup was harsher on you because, just going off what you described, you guys had zero reason to break up besides moving away, which makes it really hard to let her go when the thought of breaking up never occurred beforehand.

Its probably going to take a little time to get over this one, but you just need to accept that its over, and almost certainly you will never date her again. Try and distract yourself with school or sports or friends, and it will fade away. Whatever you do, don't make the mistake of holding on to her, because that will get you nowhere.