Have you ever felt like YOU were the bully?

[UnknownError]

idk this is weird, it's just something I've been thinking about. Definitely not any more, but in the past I feel like at some point I was the bully to someone. I've said some REALLY mean stuff to people and did some mean things that I regret. If I say something mean now then I usually apologise or try to make up an excuse for it or something because I feel really bad. Especially if you know the person is upset. It just really makes me feel shit how at some point I've probably made someone not want to come to school or something like that. Idk I was just thinking about it and hia8dsuaherih yeah. I've said/did alot of things that I wish I hadnt and I just wanted to get it off my chest lol.

[Desuetude]

I've been thinking about this actually, I feel I have been to my sister. I can't control the irritability and she's one of the closest people to me as were together a lot so she gets most of the shit that comes out after school. It's horrible thinking that after all these years of being bullied I inflict that on someone else but I don't know how else to control my emotions. I'm going to try and make an effort to stop, I think it's just gotten to a point where we're both used to it, now she's older she's started to give me some of the same treatment back anyway.

[OrKing]

Yeah, I've thought about this a ton over the years, and I've definitely done and said some things that I really freaking regret in the past, but I do take a little comfort in the fact that I do regret them. Hopefully that means I'm not as much of a prick anymore and maybe the next time a situation similar to the ones I've experienced and done or said regretful things in the past comes up I'm not as much of a dick.

[Mortal Coil]

Yeah. I've been an asshole to my brother, no doubt about that. And sometimes I've been mean to kids in my class (like I'd tell them the wrong definitions of words to see if they believed me.) I don't do it any more, but I had my time.

[Ryhanna]

I've definitely done and said things to people that I'm not proud of and deeply regret. It always seems to be the people closest to me who I hurt. Sometimes I just saw awful things to them because I feel so horrible about myself. It's hard, and I hate that my instinct is to treat people the way that others treat me.

[CharlieFinley]

I'm an ass to people whose only crimes were creating a situation that allowed me to be an ass. For example, if you're wrong about something, I don't have to dislike you to be brutal about it -- if I don't have any particular positive feelings associated with you, I'll rip you apart. I may feel horrible about it afterwards, and I may try to justify it to myself as being for the target's own good, but I know that it's very unkind of me.

I recall one time that I was in an argument on Spacebattles.com, and the person posting was not using anything that resembled correct English. I asked him if English was his first language. My purpose truly was to see if I could in good conscience attack his English, but it turned out that English was, in fact, his first language, and my question, being sincerely asked because I was unsure, was more hurtful to him than a thousand snide comments would have been.

[abp1999]

Yes one time I was really mean to this girl in the gym locker room. I don't want to get too detailed as it was nasty and I feel like a terrible person for it. I apologized the next day to her!!

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Everyone has said mean things every now and again - including me - but if you can apologize and look past it, then it should work out fine. And if you can't, don't let it bother you so much, or you'll feel just as lousy as the person you were talking about.

Why make yourself sad/angry, when you can make yourself and that person happy?

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

I dont go and pick out people. Only thing I would do is go at people for going at me, and I do it there, but they never are offended and I cant do come-backs. So Its useless, they do all the harm... I dont hurt them. They are dicks anyways.

[Abyssal Echo]

nope I'm way to submissive to be a bully

[Lost in the Echo]

Yeah, we've all done shit we regret doing, but you just have to try to make up for it, and move on with your life.

[Skyline]

No, I can't really bully someone... I'm too seclusive and submissive to start anything with anyone. (my 200th :D)

[Jakeisamazing]

I felt like a bully when I made my bf cry once...

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

I already posted above... Crap! I didnt see!

[Fiction]

Yes, and some of it I don't regret in the slightest. I was accused of bullying at primary school. But it was too a girl who obviously thought she was perfect and God's gift to parents, so I just put her in her place. It was fun, i'm not going to lie, but then i'm not sure i'd count it as bullying. I was bullied as a child and it was much worse than anything that I did to her. Maybe the "bullying" was just her overprotective mother's view.

[workingatperfect]

I've felt like I have at times, but in most cases it was that someone said something to me and I just came back at them much harsher than necessary, I never started anything with someone. I can be pretty rude to my older brother sometimes though and while I don't see it exactly as bullying, it does make me feel pretty bad.