Freaked me Out

[Compy386]

So, over the summer, I went to band camp for the first time, and our section instructor was this big man who I'll call D. About halfway through the camp, I was following him around, helping him with chores and things, and we went into his room to drop some stuff off. Well, turns out he wanted to lay down, so I sat in a chair facing him, and we talked for a while. I told him things I've never told anyone, and I don't know why. That was scary, but then, he started telling me about how he was "gender indifferent", how he didn't care who he had sex with, how he was cheating on his girlfriend with a man, and involved with a student volunteer at the college the camp was at. After all that, he talked about how he gave all his straight friends blow jobs and how he was soo good at it. At this point, I was pretty uncomfortable with where this was going, but then he said how he wanted to give me a blow job, and how he thought I was so handsome. This really freaked me out, because he was all rubbing my shoulders and asking me if I was comfortable, which I wasn't at ALL, but I didn't say that. I somehow escaped, and later he got mad at me for "blowing him off", and was really strict on me for the rest of the camp, staring at me, and generally creeping me out.

Advice? I'm really just not sure how to deal with this.

[PinkFloyd]

You need to talk to someone like your mom, dad, grandma, grandpa, school principal, or any other person you trust. Tell them what you said in this thread. Im so sorry you had to be put through this, man...

-Rob

[Noirtier]

The first thing I want to say is, TELL AN ADULT NOW. What he did was NOT right, what he is doing is NOT right, and in all honesty he's a predator. He's abusing his position of authority, and you need to tell someone everything that he said. Tell your parents, and tell the head of the band camp. Because chances are if he tried that with you, he's tried it with other kids as well. And the fact that you said he made you uncomfortable, as well as everything else you said he was doing, that's really a red flag in my mind. I'm sorry that happened to you, at least it didn't go any further than it did, but please, for your own sake and the sake of others, tell an adult.

[niceguy44]

I'm sorry you ha to go through that mate but consider yourself lucky that's as far as it went. things could have been worse. tell some adult you trust about what happened. who knows how many other guys he's done that to.

[Mortal Coil]

This is a form of sexual abuse, especially given the power dynamic. It's perfectly natural for you to feel this way. I'd suggest getting a therapist and working through this. You'll probably need some catharsis before you can really get over this.

I'm sorry this happened to you, that's sick. Stay strong.

[unusedaccount]

So, over the summer, I went to band camp for the first time, and our section instructor was this big man who I'll call D. About halfway through the camp, I was following him around, helping him with chores and things, and we went into his room to drop some stuff off. Well, turns out he wanted to lay down, so I sat in a chair facing him, and we talked for a while. I told him things I've never told anyone, and I don't know why. That was scary, but then, he started telling me about how he was "gender indifferent", how he didn't care who he had sex with, how he was cheating on his girlfriend with a man, and involved with a student volunteer at the college the camp was at. After all that, he talked about how he gave all his straight friends blow jobs and how he was soo good at it. At this point, I was pretty uncomfortable with where this was going, but then he said how he wanted to give me a blow job, and how he thought I was so handsome. This really freaked me out, because he was all rubbing my shoulders and asking me if I was comfortable, which I wasn't at ALL, but I didn't say that. I somehow escaped, and later he got mad at me for "blowing him off", and was really strict on me for the rest of the camp, staring at me, and generally creeping me out.

Advice? I'm really just not sure how to deal with this.

Report him. If I was in your situation I would have gone to the police and filed a report straight away. Him trapping you in that situation is completely inappropriate and completely wrong.