Oh no.

[Smeagol]

Oh well, here we go again. I am going to a small, private all girls school... nobody knows I'm bi. I know that I plagued you all with a useless question earlier about a guy. This is about a girl this time. Anyways, she's super smart. Nice, funny, beautiful :) And she's bi. The thing is, she may or may not have a girlfriend. It's rumored she's going out with this other girl, but nobody actually knows. I don't really want to ask, because I'd blurt out the reason I asked either way. I could be a secret admirer... but then I'd never be able to get an answer and leaving a message like "put a sticky note with a yes or a no on the stairwell" is idiotic. What am I to do?

[DerBear]

Well a few ways to find out would be if she had facebook I know a lot of people put up their relationship statuses on facebook. However if she hasn't done so or doesn't have facebook then that option isn't useful.

You could ask her indirectly, you know you are chatting about things and then you get onto the topic of boyfriends/girlfriends. This way you could talk to her without actually mentioning your own sexuality.

Failure to do all that you could simply just ask her. I mean I know you said you didn't want to but I mean really I think if you told her she'd keep it quiet considering that she has probably been in the same situation you have been.

[Smeagol]

She doesn't have Facebook :/ And neither do I, actually. I want to talk to her about sexuality... just because, I mean, I doubt theres many people here at school who understand what it's like to be other than homosexual (seeing as there are less gay people than straight people in the world and the same is likely to hold true for a school with not very many people in it). Maybe I should just talk about it first with her, just to talk about it, and see how it goes from there? I don't really know.