My girlfriend is pregnant

[Texas warrior]

So I met this girl on Omegle a month ago. We talked and I asked her to be my girlfriend, she said yes. But two weeks before she meet me she broke up with her boyfriend. And know come to find out she is pregnant with his kid. When she told me I felt shell shocked, I can just imagine what she is going though. I have know idea what to do, do I be blunt and tell her she can't support the child? And I don't know how my mom is going to react, I am not sure I am going to tell her but I want to see my girlfriend in the spring, she lives in PA.
I just don't know what to do :(

[DerBear]

Sorry you met this girl on omegle and you haven't even met her face to face? You haven't got any confirmation that she is pregnant? Anything like that at all other than just her word on it?

I am sorry but this doesn't sound like a very good basis for a relationship. I mean from your post it sounds like you haven't met her. Like you were planning too but then this pregnancy thing got in the way. If so, then I'd wonder more if what she is saying is true I mean you have no conformation other than her word that she is pregnant. I mean if its early on their will be no tell tail sign that she is.

Overall I am just skeptical about this entire thing. If you reply to my questions that I have asked above then maybe I can give more specific advice but right now the entire thing just sounds very sketchy.

I think she is either telling the truth or she is playing you. I mean the whole internet relations thing (meeting people through the internet) is always a sketchy thing.

[FreeFall]

I'm with DerBear. You never met, known each other for, what, a little over a month? You're 16, long distance too? Where do you see this relationship going? How do you see it going?

And what do you mean by, "do I be blunt and tell her she can't support the child"? I don't think that's really your place to say such a thing.

You do realize, you'll be growing up too fast here and are going to be in over your head? You cannot simply have your girlfriend once/if the child's born right? You'll have to think of her kid too. What's best for the kid. You'll have to be a good "father" figure to the baby, and not just "mommy's boyfriend on the computer". If her ex has rights to the baby and is using them, you'll have to deal with him too. It's his kid, he's also a parent so if you want to feed the baby some ice-cream (which do not do, it's not healthy btw) both parents have to be in agreement. You do not get to replace him as the father if he's present in the baby's life and is good as a dad. You do not get to ask her for "alone" time if ever. You do not get input on parenting unless asked. You are not allowed to give your opinion on the baby and how it acts unless it's positive, or else you'll be scrutinizing what she's doing as a mother. Unless of course she's like beating her child but that's different.
You're not allowed to be distant from her child. That would hurt both of them. That you love mommy more than you care for the baby, her flesh and blood. I know it's not your kid but do not ignore it either.

If she gives it up for adoption, can and will you support her? If she has an abortion, will and can you support her? If she miscarries, can and will you support her?
If she tries to shove partial responsibility and fatherly duties onto you, can and will you remind her she's the mother and you"ll do what you can but not pretend to be her baby's dad when she knows who it is? Can you deal with her pain? Labor? Exams? Morning sickness? All that pregnancy fun?
Are you ready to step into a pseudo "step father" role if the relationship lasts until the baby can walk and talk? Can you accept that if you two don't work out, the baby loses their "father figure" Mommy was dating, and you lose the connection and bond you built to the baby?

What if the baby thing is made up? How well do you know this girl who lives states away, whom you met on Omegle, but never met in real life, for a little over a month? How would you handle knowing such an attention seeking, lying girl?

Just be prepared. Many tough roads ahead, but if you know your place in this puzzle then all has hope.

[Stronk Serb]

Have you met her? If not, make sure it is true, if you met her, see what YOU want. Are you looking to spend time with a person you love, or taking cere of her and her ex's child, having to deal with her ex over the baby, having to raise extra money for it, having to change it's diapers, having to feed it, it is a hard job and you and your girlfriend will not have any time alone. If you do not want to be more of a father figure, break up with her.

[Texas warrior]

Well my girlfriend just got back from the doctor, she is most likely going to lose the baby. I just feel so bad for her.............

[FreeFall]

Not to seem insensitive but that seems pretty sketchy to me, but mainly because I don't know the timeline.
You meet her a month ago, what week is she at? And when did she find out she was pregnant? The earliest you have to go in for an ultrasound is 6-7 weeks, latest for the first is 10 weeks. That's the time range of when you can see the fetus/first forms of it. 1 month is 4 weeks, you can't see anything that looks like a fetus. 6 weeks is a month and a half. So things aren't adding up to me, she had to have been pregnant before or during the break-up unless she went in because of problems. But after a month, of course there are exceptions, a woman figures out she must be pregnant, so I'm confused about this timeline.
Of course if she or any pregnant woman is having problems, they can go in at any time. So was she? Have you seen her growing mound, ultrasound or test? Anything to prove her baby? Hard to believe but at 6 weeks there is a "pop". I'm only asking because it's "hey I'm pregnant!" then "I may lose the baby." And again, I don't know the timeline.

Anyways, don't treat her like her baby's already dead but don't be that sparkle, rainbows unicorn that acts like the baby will be here in 8 -7 months. Just let her say what she wants, support her and be her shoulder to cry on.

[Texas warrior]

Anyways, don't treat her like her baby's already dead but don't be that sparkle, rainbows unicorn that acts like the baby will be here in 8 -7 months. Just let her say what she wants, support her and be her shoulder to cry on.

This is the kind of advice I am looking for, thank you.

[Swagging god]

I just found this forum today, it has really helped me just one week my girlfriend of a little over a month tells me she is 3 months pregnant w her best male friends child. I'm not sure about how much she should be showing but she sent me a pic of her sitting in a chair w a blanket and I think she is showing a little. I'm ok with it but the baby daddy wants to marry her, but she loves me and I love her.