Dating someone HIV positive

[Brody 8100]

so this girl and i have just started dating about a month a ago (we have been bestfriends for about a year) , she is the most amazing girl ever and when ever im with her it makes me incredibly happy and i feel on top of the world on top her making me feel amazing she is so amazingly hot and beautiful but still acts like a guy and its so awesome. All this is so amazing. But during last summer she was the victim of a rapist, she has since pretty much gotten over it, but yesterday she a letter saying that her rapist was HIV positive and its highly likely she is. I think i truely do love her but i just dont know what to do with relationship.

[StoppingTime]

I fixed the spelling for you. :P

And as for your question, I think it's best to just wait and see right now. She doesn't know anything for sure yet, so don't make decisions on possibilities.
WHen she does get the results back, regardless of what they are, just be supportive, and kind to her.
If she is HIV positive, she'll clearly be under a lot of stress. That time is crucial in a relationship -- whether you'll still be there when she's going through all this. Of course, it's going to be hard on you too.
As long as you stay healthy and okay, and are able to maintain the relationship after initially hearing the news, that would be ideal.

Of course, once things have calmed down a little, you can discuss where you see the relationship going, and whether or not to continue it. Nobody here can make that decision for you.

[Smeagol]

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/thomas-p-connelly-dds/kissing-and-hiv_b_1082254.html

I think that this article has a lot of information for you that will help you. But basically, she needs support. If you were diagnosed with HIV, would you want her to break up with you? And also, wait and see what her test results are. Anyways, I wish you both the best of luck!

[FreeFall]

Wait. No. She "got over" her rape? Did you word that wrong, did she say that herself with those very words? Or are you treating rape like falling face first in front of a crowd on stage? One does not "get over" rape, it's not like a break up or peeing your pants by accident. You only learn to cope with it, to over come it, to deal with it. Rape's a horrible crime, violates the very essences of her humanity and self, took away her security and sense of safety. How did she manage to just "get over it"? And a year ago even?

Please, unless I'm totally wrong, do not assume she has "gotten over" her rape. Do not assume she's totally ok and moved on from it. That's the most uncomforting and unsupportive thing you can do. To shove such a thing like in the back of the closet so to speak. Again, I may be wrong, but something did not sit well with me reading that.

Also, you love her, she makes you happy, you're on top of the world, but oh no! She may possibly be HIV positive! And gotten it from being raped, double whammy. So you, with the girl you adore who was raped in mind, her health possibly stolen, are at a point and thinking of yourself? How about you support her. Sure, do not stay where you will be miserable, that helps no one. But to bail on a girl who's rapist may literally have stolen so much from her, who you says puts you on top of the world? It's not her fault.
She didn't ask to be raped, she didn't ask her rapist have HIV, she didn't ask for her rapist to possibly give it to her, she didn't have to be violated in such an awful way, she didn't ask for her world to potentially flip.
This is possibly the second scariest thing to happen to her since her rape. She needs, she should have, had an STD screening.

But what will you do if she's positive too? Stay, support her, or leave and play a game of "who isn't HIV positive"? And if she's negative, you get to keep your happy world?

If you stay, and she's positive, educate yourself thoroughly on HIV. Learn about it, learn about how it affects those who have it, learn how it could affect you and how it can affect you as her boyfriend. Learn how you could get it, and take the extreme precautions necessary.

You do not HAVE to stay with her, you're probably scared and freaked out right now, but try to think of her for a moment and calm yourself. Think long, think hard and you'll get where you want to be.