school counselor knows...

[unsaidwords]

My friend is going to the school counselor to talk about her own problems. She also self-harms and has self-esteems issues, so it's good for her. Days ago she begged me to give her my tools in order for me to stop. She didn't threw them away because I told her not to, so she kept them in her bag. The school counselor told her to open her purse and saw my things. I don't blame her... I would've said the truth as well if it was me... But right now the school counselor knows about it and i'm terrified. I told my friend I was thinking about going there to talk to the school counselor, but i'm scared... I'm scared of what she'll say, of what she'll do...
Don't know if i'm making any sense, but I told my friend I would go this week to talk to the school counselor and i'm just... to scared to do it!

She also is considering not going because the school counselor wants to take away her things. When she "asked" me to give her mine, she got angry when I didn't... and know that someone wants to do it for her, she gets upset and calls it "stupid". Makes no sense at all! She complains I lie to her about my self-harm, but she never NEVER tells me anything...

Sorry i'm venting it's just that it's too much... Found out two more people know about my self-harm and it hurts because every time I get to school she just yells "did you do it? show me your wrists" and gets angry if i refuse. She's a good friend but lately hasn't helped me a lot :(

[Mynick]

Hello Diana,
Personally i think you both should talk, she's probably nervous too. If you don't like the fact that she checks your wrists, you should ask her to stop, tell her that in that way she's putting more pressure on you. She felt the same thing you did, when you asked her to give you her things. What you could do is, every day both check your wrists, it's easy to overcome self-harm (or at least try) with hepl from someone we trust, and since you both do it it would benefit both.
As for the conselor, he will probably talk with you, ask you what triggers you and stuff. It can be alot easier if you go together.
Hope it helps.

[unsaidwords]

Thing is my friend doesn't show me what she did, she doesn't even tell me what she did, i just know she did it, i just know that she hurt herself in some way... She says it's better for me if I don't see it - but then goes and pulls my sleeves up or peeks inside them in front of everyone. And I've asked her a few times to stop checking my wrists or plainly asking me when we're surrounded by people "if i've done it again", but she only answers "it's for your own good". I don't want to do the same to her. It makes me feel like a freak, so I don't want her to feel the same.
Yeah... My friend says the counselor is nice and really listens and cares about the students.
Thank you.

[Mynick]

Thing is my friend doesn't show me what she did, she doesn't even tell me what she did, i just know she did it, i just know that she hurt herself in some way... She says it's better for me if I don't see it - but then goes and pulls my sleeves up or peeks inside them in front of everyone. And I've asked her a few times to stop checking my wrists or plainly asking me when we're surrounded by people "if i've done it again", but she only answers "it's for your own good". I don't want to do the same to her. It makes me feel like a freak, so I don't want her to feel the same.
Yeah... My friend says the counselor is nice and really listens and cares about the students.
Thank you.
That kinda sucks, you need to talk with there to stop doing it, especially in front of every one.

[Troy35216]

if everyone says the counselor is nice you should talk to her at least once and see for yourself. if you don't like her then don't go back but at least you tried. but cutting isn't good so if you don't like her maybe you could find someone else?

[unsaidwords]

That kinda sucks, you need to talk with there to stop doing it, especially in front of every one.

Yeah... i've tried, and my friend - the one who did it - she realized it was wrong. She was just upset because i was lying to her...

if everyone says the counselor is nice you should talk to her at least once and see for yourself. if you don't like her then don't go back but at least you tried. but cutting isn't good so if you don't like her maybe you could find someone else?

I guess. I'm a bit scared of going there, but i'll give it a try.

Thanks.

[Conqueror of Hearts]

I think you shouldnt be scared. At least you know youre not the only one who do that , at least you know she already talked about same issue with your friend. Just go there , maybe it will be helpfull, maybe youll want to go back there, you never know. So good luck and try to be strong.

[jayyy-lmao]

Go to the counseller. Talk. Your friend seems to be addicted to cutting, even when it isn;t her who's even doing it. I think you just need to both talk to eachother and the counseller. It really helps.