Gay-Straight Alliance Help

[Wonder.]

I really want to join the GSA at my school because it might be interesting but I haven't told my parents I'm gay yet. I never hang out with friends so it would definitely be suspicious if I just all of a sudden start "hanging out with friends after school". I don't know what to do about it. I am temped to just join and tell my parents I joined the GSA and if they ask if I'm gay just tell them that I am. I'm pretty sure they already know but I'm still a little scared of my dad's reaction. He's a little homophobic but he tries his best to hide it because my mom and sister are supportive of the LGBT community. Also, my grandma would be a problem too. I see her everyday after school so if I do come out, then I would have to deal with her. I don't think she would bring it up but I know for a fact she would treat me differently.

I just want to join GSA...

[PinkFloyd]

I think you should come out to your parents. If anyone has a problem, just tell them to accept you for who you are. If they have a problem, then whatever. It sounds like you really wanna join the gsa, so do it! Good luck, man

- Rob

[ReginaGeorge]

Join the group! If you don't want to come out yet, then remember it's called a Gay-STRAIGHT alliance. You do not have to be gay to join.

The fact that your mum and sister are supportive of LGBT people is a major positive. You can come out if you decide to, if not, you can just tell them you're on the LGBT community's side and straight, or that you're going to help a friend, while there might be some suspicion, they will most likely believe you because they feel that same way.

Do you even really need to tell them you're joining right away? You can just join, and the group can help you feel more confident in yourself until you're ready to tell them a little later on. Don't plan to not tell them, because secrets should be avoided, especially if they will support the content of the secret.

Don't weigh on the negatives, focus on the positives of coming out. You don't have to hide, you'll have a weight off your shoulders, your Mum and your sister will love and support you through it, you don't have to do it alone + more. Your Dad's reaction could be better than you think, same with your Grandma's. If not, most people come around to it. I'm not trying to get your hopes up, but don't prepare for the worst, because it may not happen.

[Abyssal Echo]

I agree with NotSoSilentHill go ahead and join no need to rush things come out when you're ready.