how do i deal with my step mom??

[Bri-Bri]

im sure im not the first person to not like their step mom.
But im not sure I can take it anymore.
she has been around for the last 10 years. I haven't liked her since the beginning. when my real mom got thrown in jail, I had to stay with my dad and step mom. I was so upset about it, I would cry myself to sleep every night. I was 7 and I had never been away from my mom for more then a day or so. but finally one night me step mom came in a grabed my shoulders tightly and held me against my bed and got all in my face. telling me " your mommy is gone, she was being fucking stupid. im your new mommy so get over it and stop your fucking crying." and let go and left. from then on I have hated her with a passion.
up till now she has treated me like I am shit. gives me a look like im the stupidest person in the world every time I talk. when I mention something about my everyday life im looked down upon because its not a "well educated statement"
what do I do??????? cuz im ready to do something and it wont be very nice!

[GoldenSnitch]

Well, that sucks. Sorry. Try to act like she isn't there and ignore her when she asks you for something. I'm not good with Step relatives so...

[DerBear]

You're at the point of hating her aren't you?

Well let me tell you something about hate. It causes stress, anger, sadness, feeling of emptiness, tired and energy consuming. So if you hate her, why let her get to you in all these areas?

You dislike her so why don't you reserve that energy into doing something other than hating her. Act as if she is like a bug on the windshield of your life.

Honestly hating her isn't going to do anything other than upset and cause you more grief. I ain't suggesting that you act best friends with her but just ignore her 99% of the time and then when you do have to acknowledge her think of something positive in your life.

I know this advice sounds "easier said than done" but honestly it works. It worked for me when I hated someone with a passion and letting go of all that anger and pent up emotion really makes you feel better and makes you feel like a different person. Honestly it works.

Stay positive and if you ever need to rant then feel free to drop me a visitor message or private message.

[Bri-Bri]

Well, that sucks. Sorry. Try to act like she isn't there and ignore her when she asks you for something. I'm not good with Step relatives so...

i do ignore her. im in my room 99.5% of my time at home because i dont want to deal with her.but then i get this whole lecture from her about how i should really be where everyone else so i can "interact"

[GoldenSnitch]

Tell your Dad about it. If he doesn't care, then make a file of all the bad things she has done to you.

[CharlieFinley]

One thing you could do is make more "educated" comments. It's very hard for someone to show you contempt when you've given the impression of being their intellectual equal. I'm not saying this is your fault for not doing so, just that it is possible for you to do so now.