I'm to nice to people. I need to be more tough. HELP!?

[Silverado96]

I am too nice to people. I never even get mad I mean I do but I never show it. I have 'SAD' ( Social Anxiety Disorder ) Maybe that's the reason... People are mean to me and I am not 'tough' enough to stand for my self. You know what I mean? They're making fun of me or something and I wish I could just beat the **** out of them but I can't. First off I'm a guy that is skinnier than some girls I weight 107 pounds. Like last time I went with so called "friends" to the bathroom in school just because I needed to and they were going there too anyways so ok I was pissing and they splashed the water on me I was all wet and when I tried to splash water at them one of them said " DO IT ONE MORE TIME AND ILL BEAT YOUR A** ) Wow... So they can do this to me but I cant to them? I think the biggest problem is that they KNOW that I'm weak and won't do anything and that's why they continue to do it. Also I borrow people money and they don't pay back. I also think it's because they just know that I won't do anything about it. I really wish I could just KILL all of them. Nah just kidding but I really wish I could become more tough somehow. I hate my life because of this. I don't even have real friends. They only hit me up when I have money. They don't even pick up their phone from me, they only do when they want to but usually they just ignore me. And I'm not talking about the same people. Most of my friends do this to me. I feel like everyone can just rob me, beat me and do anything they want to me because I simply just can't stand for my self. I HATE IT. Please any advice?

[ayelove100]

I am too nice to people. I never even get mad I mean I do but I never show it. I have 'SAD' ( Social Anxiety Disorder ) Maybe that's the reason... People are mean to me and I am not 'tough' enough to stand for my self. You know what I mean? They're making fun of me or something and I wish I could just beat the **** out of them but I can't. First off I'm a guy that is skinnier than some girls I weight 107 pounds. Like last time I went with so called "friends" to the bathroom in school just because I needed to and they were going there too anyways so ok I was pissing and they splashed the water on me I was all wet and when I tried to splash water at them one of them said " DO IT ONE MORE TIME AND ILL BEAT YOUR A** ) Wow... So they can do this to me but I cant to them? I think the biggest problem is that they KNOW that I'm weak and won't do anything and that's why they continue to do it. Also I borrow people money and they don't pay back. I also think it's because they just know that I won't do anything about it. I really wish I could just KILL all of them. Nah just kidding but I really wish I could become more tough somehow. I hate my life because of this. I don't even have real friends. They only hit me up when I have money. They don't even pick up their phone from me, they only do when they want to but usually they just ignore me. And I'm not talking about the same people. Most of my friends do this to me. I feel like everyone can just rob me, beat me and do anything they want to me because I simply just can't stand for my self. I HATE IT. Please any advice?

You need to show them that ur tough. I know it might be hard because one of my friends is really nice to the point ppl take advantage of her. She said im the only true friend to her since im always standing up for her. You are a guy so you need to show them that ur tough and that u wont let them do that to you. and when their like imma beat ur a** up, u need to come back at them and make a fool out of them. Try going into sports that will let u gain musles and eventually you will get ur anger out on them and they wont mess with you. Dont lend anyone money again. Be like nah im not gonna give u any money until u pay me back or r u so cheap u cant and they wil get embarrased and pay back. But if u know for sure they are gonna beat u up, dont say that, just say, nah i wont lend u until u pay me back. And eventually they will, if they dont then lesson learned and dont lend them anymore. I am soo sorry u are going through this. If u are really angry the talk to a guidance coundeler. And if u dont want to there is another option. Its cyber school. I have been in it cause i was traveling and its just like u do all of school online. U get up whenever u want and just finish the anssighnments that r due and when u have testing (Final test like CAVA) u go to a place and take it. Cyber school is the best choice. :) hope u get better and i wish u the best of luck

[Matt_2012]

Being schooled on the net isn't the greatest idea, especially when you find it hard to make friends. I hated school and ever since i left i miss it heaps, because its like one of the easiest ways to make friends. Even though it never really happened for me.

Just stand up to them, don't let them know you have money. When they come to you for money tell them to fuck off and go mooch off someone else.
I can relate to what your going through heaps.

[its.me.akshay]

I am too nice to people. I never even get mad I mean I do but I never show it. I have 'SAD' ( Social Anxiety Disorder ) Maybe that's the reason... People are mean to me and I am not 'tough' enough to stand for my self. You know what I mean? They're making fun of me or something and I wish I could just beat the **** out of them but I can't. First off I'm a guy that is skinnier than some girls I weight 107 pounds. Like last time I went with so called "friends" to the bathroom in school just because I needed to and they were going there too anyways so ok I was pissing and they splashed the water on me I was all wet and when I tried to splash water at them one of them said " DO IT ONE MORE TIME AND ILL BEAT YOUR A** ) Wow... So they can do this to me but I cant to them? I think the biggest problem is that they KNOW that I'm weak and won't do anything and that's why they continue to do it. Also I borrow people money and they don't pay back. I also think it's because they just know that I won't do anything about it. I really wish I could just KILL all of them. Nah just kidding but I really wish I could become more tough somehow. I hate my life because of this. I don't even have real friends. They only hit me up when I have money. They don't even pick up their phone from me, they only do when they want to but usually they just ignore me. And I'm not talking about the same people. Most of my friends do this to me. I feel like everyone can just rob me, beat me and do anything they want to me because I simply just can't stand for my self. I HATE IT. Please any advice?

dude... know something.... i am just 108 pounds... i once felt like what you fell right now... and i know how it feels... you know something... being a coward is not the solution for the thing you have here... throw some punches... even if they beat you up... its not a problem... you can bounce back again... once you see your bruises youll feel that agony... temper... rising in you... hit the gym with the same feelings... at home do pushups... some 50 of them would help.... you would change in no time... life is not the same everytime.... u change it... coz u dont know what will happen afterwards... and everything doesnt happen as it does today... and keep one thing in kind 'bullies-theyre cowards... one who hits first is the weaker among you'
so dont be like whining for how you are (i once did that) try to change... cause life is what you choose.... try your best... aim it... and achieve!! id be there anytime you want.... pm me!

[Troy35216]

sign up for martial arts. not so you can beat people up but for the self confidence. it worked for my bro. he wasn't getting picked on or hit or anything but had no friends and people hit on him for money they never paid back just like you. my mom signed him up for karate lessons and even tho he hated it for the first 3 months and she had to make him go after that he really liked it but the main thing is he was like a different person. he has never been in a fight or anything but no one messes with him now and he has friends and stuff

[TheSocialInspector]

I feel you, I have the same problem, though it is not as severe.

[Stronk Serb]

I had a same problem, had to change schools because of it. In my new school, I acted tough, at the beginning of the 2nd semester, some of the bullies extorted me, saying I need to buy them newest non-cracked video games in one week or they would beat me up. I said "NO, SEE YOU IN ONE WEEK AFTER SCHOOL!!!!" . They continued until I told them to fuck off 4 days after, they never dared to come at me, and there were 7 of them. Be ready to fight, even if you lose, it shows you got teeth that bite, and bullies do not like getting bitten. Do push-ups, train martial arts and practice with weighted gloves (to get that heavy handed punch). Also do not forget to act tough.

[LiamC]

I used to be kind of same (less severe though), I would never show when someone was annoying me and it got to the point where people could walk all over me. I didn't like that, and slowly I've changed and now I can say things to people's faces, say no etc. and it's a lot better!

Maybe you will change in time? I hope you do because I know how it sucks :(