pmm98
December 6th, 2012, 08:28 PM
So I understand that it is a "stereotype" for a guy to have only guy friends and not be able to be friends with members of the opposite sex.
Let me describe my personality to you; I'm a straight, 14 year old male. I am not an athletic type, I am much more creative. I have great talking skills and am really good at giving advice and "pep talks". I'm a pretty normal kid, I like photography but like I mentioned hate sports and I am pretty terrible at them. Since I was a little kid, I've always had more girl friends than guy friends. It didn't really start to matter until a certain age, maybe 10 or 11, when it started to draw peoples attention and people started saying I was gay. This was never the case. I didn't have all that many guy friends though.
I'm a freshman in high school, I have a healthy amount of friends and a ton of acquaintances. Friends meaning people I would share some personal information with and acquaintances meaning people I would feel comfortable being around as long there was a mutual friend with us to keep the conversation going. Amongst my group of friends I have probably an equal mix of guys and girls. Amongst my acquaintances, even more of an equal mix. The reason I feel that I have probably more girl friends than guy friends is because if you put me into a room full of jocks, I would be totally out of place and awkward. I would have nothing to say and no connection with any of them. Put me in a room with a group of girls that I don't know at all I would also feel really out of place and awkward.
If you put me into a room with a mix of girls I know and don't know, I would be able to hold conversation with the girls I do know but wouldn't care to meet the ones I don't. Put me into a room full of "gamers", guy or girl, and I would feel totally comfortable to make some new friends or strike up conversation. However, I haven't really found any people like that. The guy friends I do have are pretty neutral who you can just talk about whatever with. Since photography is fairly new to me, I might feel slightly unsure of what to say in a conversation but I wouldn't mind learning. I'm sure I am being paranoid, but I thought I would take the time to ask about this because as I'm sure others would agree that once you get into high school, "friends", start becoming more of a concern to you. I don't care to have more guy friends necessarily, I don't feel like there is something wrong with me and there is a problem I need to take care of. Friends are just friends to me, boy or girl. That's not to say I wouldn't mind more guy friends, but I don't feel weird about having a fair amount of girl friends either. I've even fallen into some relationships with girls I really cared for due to being friends with a girl or falling for a girl I was friends with.
Is this normal? Are there other guys like this? Sorry for the length of the post, I just wanted to make sure I gave enough detail for you guys to help me out with this.
Let me describe my personality to you; I'm a straight, 14 year old male. I am not an athletic type, I am much more creative. I have great talking skills and am really good at giving advice and "pep talks". I'm a pretty normal kid, I like photography but like I mentioned hate sports and I am pretty terrible at them. Since I was a little kid, I've always had more girl friends than guy friends. It didn't really start to matter until a certain age, maybe 10 or 11, when it started to draw peoples attention and people started saying I was gay. This was never the case. I didn't have all that many guy friends though.
I'm a freshman in high school, I have a healthy amount of friends and a ton of acquaintances. Friends meaning people I would share some personal information with and acquaintances meaning people I would feel comfortable being around as long there was a mutual friend with us to keep the conversation going. Amongst my group of friends I have probably an equal mix of guys and girls. Amongst my acquaintances, even more of an equal mix. The reason I feel that I have probably more girl friends than guy friends is because if you put me into a room full of jocks, I would be totally out of place and awkward. I would have nothing to say and no connection with any of them. Put me in a room with a group of girls that I don't know at all I would also feel really out of place and awkward.
If you put me into a room with a mix of girls I know and don't know, I would be able to hold conversation with the girls I do know but wouldn't care to meet the ones I don't. Put me into a room full of "gamers", guy or girl, and I would feel totally comfortable to make some new friends or strike up conversation. However, I haven't really found any people like that. The guy friends I do have are pretty neutral who you can just talk about whatever with. Since photography is fairly new to me, I might feel slightly unsure of what to say in a conversation but I wouldn't mind learning. I'm sure I am being paranoid, but I thought I would take the time to ask about this because as I'm sure others would agree that once you get into high school, "friends", start becoming more of a concern to you. I don't care to have more guy friends necessarily, I don't feel like there is something wrong with me and there is a problem I need to take care of. Friends are just friends to me, boy or girl. That's not to say I wouldn't mind more guy friends, but I don't feel weird about having a fair amount of girl friends either. I've even fallen into some relationships with girls I really cared for due to being friends with a girl or falling for a girl I was friends with.
Is this normal? Are there other guys like this? Sorry for the length of the post, I just wanted to make sure I gave enough detail for you guys to help me out with this.