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December 6th, 2012, 05:53 PM
Ok, so I have this crazy crush on a guy in my class. I just realized to myself that I was bi, but I still never had an actual crush on a guy before. I've known him for quite a while, being in the same school since 1st grade (currently in 8th). Just last year, I used to be very annoyed by him because he used to "tease" me, touch me, and rub my leg. It made me feel awkward at times, but then I realized I kind of liked it ;). Anyway, not the point. I didn't really like talking to him, and I never even though of ever liking him, not even a little.

But now we started to talk, and I know him on a better level then I did last year. Sooner or later, when I admitted to myself that I was bi, I also realized that I had a crush on him. Idk, it's just something about him. Fast forward to now when I end up having to help him in math, be his partner in projects, etc. It's awkward sometimes because I have some weird idea in the back of my head to tell him all of this in one really crazy sentence, but that wouldn't work so well.

Thus, leading me to the actual problem here; keeping it a secret. Now, some people would think that I should talk about it, but I don't really think I have anyone to trust. Most of my classmates, even friends, are homophobic jackasses. (Even though i'm technically not a homo, I dont think it really makes a difference to them.) And if I told him, then I would be faced with the same problems of judgement from my peers.

And, finally, problem #2; I'm starting to think it's obvious I like him. Last year, I gave clear signs to people that I nearly hated him. And now, all of a sudden, I become fast friends with him. And I think people notice this. A long time ago, people already suspected me of being gay (for reasons I don't want to get into) and I denied it, but I dont think I was very convincing. (He also has his share of "questionable" experiences, where people think he's gay also.) And I wont get into what happens in the locker room :rolleyes:

So, should I just let it die and move on, or actually talk about it with someone? Face the judgement of my peers, or hide in the closet? I'm pretty lost here :what:

FergusDunn
December 6th, 2012, 06:14 PM
So, should I just let it die and move on, or actually talk about it with someone?


I think actually talking to someone would be good - its good to explore how you feel and why.

If that someone can be trusted and that does not mean faceing judgment

A crush is a crush and its not uncommon for classmates to hate one term or semester and be best buddies the next or other way round.

People change - its growing up


But do try and have someone to talk to

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December 6th, 2012, 06:27 PM
I think actually talking to someone would be good - its good to explore how you feel and why.

If that someone can be trusted and that does not mean faceing judgment

A crush is a crush and its not uncommon for classmates to hate one term or semester and be best buddies the next or other way round.

People change - its growing up


But do try and have someone to talk to

Yes, I suppose I could try and tell my friends, but I can just imagine how this could affect the rest of my 8th grade year, and the rest of my life. I could be over-exaggerating, but I'm not too sure. I wouldn't want to have another reason for people to talk about me behind my back. Not sure, I'm having a battle between my heart and my mind here.

FergusDunn
December 6th, 2012, 06:49 PM
Yes, I suppose I could try and tell my friends, but I can just imagine how this could affect the rest of my 8th grade year, and the rest of my life. I could be over-exaggerating, but I'm not too sure. I wouldn't want to have another reason for people to talk about me behind my back. Not sure, I'm having a battle between my heart and my mind here.



I did not mean talk with your friends at school - is there anyone else you can thin off -

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December 6th, 2012, 07:17 PM
My parents? *shudders*

Siblings? Even worse.

Nope, can't really think of anyone. Of course I have out of school friends, but I don't trust them nearly as much.

JJSSHH
December 7th, 2012, 06:21 PM
Let it ride out for a little while longer. See what happens. Best of Luck :D

Lost in the Echo
December 7th, 2012, 06:27 PM
Let it ride out for a little while longer. See what happens. Best of Luck :D

Yeah, I agree.

You probably should wait a while and see if you still have these feelings for him, if you do, then whenever you think the time is right, tell him how you feel about him.

Abyssal Echo
December 7th, 2012, 08:23 PM
Yeah, I agree.

You probably should wait a while and see if you still have these feelings for him, if you do, then whenever you think the time is right, tell him how you feel about him.

yeah I agree with Bo. it maybe just hormones So I'd wait

alexkun
December 11th, 2012, 10:41 PM
I understand what you're going through, and i can tell you for sure the only thing that really matters is your happiness. You dont have to care about anything people might say or think about you, just listen to yourself. i know you want to talk to him, well, do it, go out somewhere with him and have a long talk until you get everything straighten up, hold his hand and dont look back, close your ears, close your eyes and close your heart to all the people that only wants to hurt you.. and be happy, like i said, earlier, your happiness is what matters..

:)