Why I am gay?

[codyF13]

Hey guys, sorry if I am repeating threads, but I am really worry about this. Why I am gay?. I am a 13 y.o boy and since ages I was attracted to boys. But I don’t know why. What happened to me? I just born this way? Someone molested me and I don’t remember? I am not a girly boy, I don’t like to dress like a girl o do girls stuff. For me girls are totally boring. My best friends are straight, I play soccer, xbox, I have a lil bro living with my dad. I swear I can’t remember something from my past related to being gay or having gay experiences. I am gay. I Know that. I like boys, I am not curious, or even BI. Why this happened to me? I heard If you have some relative gays, maybe it was transmitted from my genes..is that right? But I do not have any gay relatives. I am just a regular boy. Of course nobody knows this. Last year I had a gay experience with my best friend from the soccer team. I liked it. That’s it. I don’t want to change, but Why I am gay? Why I can’t be like my friends that are chasing girls or BJ/HJ from them? They come home for sleepovers, and we talk about girls…and “oh yes would be great having a a BJ from Susan or Patty”.. We just play xbox, never watch porn stuff cuz I don’t like that..I am just playing my str8 role. My escape is Skype there I can be myself, nobody knows me. I don’t want to come out either. No way. Catholic school.:confused:

[sdude]

I know, it doesn't seem fair to be different, but the sooner you are able to accept it for yourself, the happier you will be. I totally get the Catholic thing, and understand why you may feel the need to keep hidden...make it your own time, for now, try to find friends to talk to, including myself if you wish...and help were friends can. Yes, you were born to be the way you are...gay or straight...and you can't change who you are..it's part of you. Courage to you my cute friend!!!

[Gandalf]

Hey guys, sorry if I am repeating threads, but I am really worry about this. Why I am gay?. I am a 13 y.o boy and since ages I was attracted to boys. But I don’t know why. What happened to me? I just born this way? Someone molested me and I don’t remember? I am not a girly boy, I don’t like to dress like a girl o do girls stuff. For me girls are totally boring. My best friends are straight, I play soccer, xbox, I have a lil bro living with my dad. I swear I can’t remember something from my past related to being gay or having gay experiences. I am gay. I Know that. I like boys, I am not curious, or even BI. Why this happened to me? I heard If you have some relative gays, maybe it was transmitted from my genes..is that right? But I do not have any gay relatives. I am just a regular boy. Of course nobody knows this. Last year I had a gay experience with my best friend from the soccer team. I liked it. That’s it. I don’t want to change, but Why I am gay? Why I can’t be like my friends that are chasing girls or BJ/HJ from them? They come home for sleepovers, and we talk about girls…and “oh yes would be great having a a BJ from Susan or Patty”.. We just play xbox, never watch porn stuff cuz I don’t like that..I am just playing my str8 role. My escape is Skype there I can be myself, nobody knows me. I don’t want to come out either. No way. Catholic school.:confused:

Nobody on Earth could explain why you're gay, most people either believe it's either random at birth or that there are environmental reasons, none are certain and there probably isn't a gay gene.

I would doubt you were abused in anyway because abuse leaves scares whether you realise it's happening or not, and you specifically mention being an average or normal boy and besides that, there isn't a correlation between abuse and sexuality anyway.

Furthermore, experimenting with a friend does not have any effect on your sexuality whatsoever other than letting you experience something and decide whether you like it or not.

It's good that you don't want to change, it shows acceptance of yourself and you mentioned skype, well that's good as long as your not doing anything you might regret later and in regard to your friends, I know from experience that hanging around with people discussing sex that might not be appealing to you is awkward, but just remember even if it's not until university, one day you will be able to be open and honest and it's upto you entirely to decide when that is.
Hope I helped, :)

[FergusDunn]

Hey guys, sorry if I am repeating threads, but I am really worry about this. Why I am gay?. I am a 13 y.o boy and since ages I was attracted to boys. But I don’t know why. What happened to me? I just born this way? Someone molested me and I don’t remember? I am not a girly boy, I don’t like to dress like a girl o do girls stuff. For me girls are totally boring. My best friends are straight, I play soccer, xbox, I have a lil bro living with my dad. I swear I can’t remember something from my past related to being gay or having gay experiences. I am gay. I Know that. I like boys, I am not curious, or even BI. Why this happened to me? I heard If you have some relative gays, maybe it was transmitted from my genes..is that right? But I do not have any gay relatives. I am just a regular boy. Of course nobody knows this. Last year I had a gay experience with my best friend from the soccer team. I liked it. That’s it. I don’t want to change, but Why I am gay? Why I can’t be like my friends that are chasing girls or BJ/HJ from them? They come home for sleepovers, and we talk about girls…and “oh yes would be great having a a BJ from Susan or Patty”.. We just play xbox, never watch porn stuff cuz I don’t like that..I am just playing my str8 role. My escape is Skype there I can be myself, nobody knows me. I don’t want to come out either. No way. Catholic school.:confused:


I guess no one can explain gay or straight - and how you feel now may change. I am not saying - you just feel gay now noway.

Being gay is not about a choice -

Maybe some of your friends are gay also - maybe they have yet to discover that --

Its a big step comeing out so you just be as you are for now and make any decisions later - when YOU choose.

I guess all boy in puberty have lots of questions and sexuality is one - perhaps there is some form of help/advice open to you.

Its a big time is it not - but its good you accept how you are and questioning this is good also - as is asking questions.

I saw your other post that you have not hit puberty yet - so maybe when you do some questions will just kinda answer themselves.


Dont worry about repeating threads cos I think questions like yours need individual answers - not just you going thru other posts.

[teen.jpg]

Youre gay because you like boys? There is no "cause" for gay, its a sexuality, not a disorder. I think you are misinformed. There is no gay gene. Its just who you are. Deal with it, and learn to live with it...

[StoppingTime]

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