Should I make a move?

[LaG SkiLLeD]

So there's a bisexual kid in my school. He asked me out last summer and I said no(although I am curious). I know he likes me because he used to text me sometimes saying stuff like that. Apparently now he has a boyfriend in another town but I want to experiment with him. Should I ask him or what?

Thanks :)

[Abyssal Echo]

I don't want to seem mean but you had your chance and you turned him down. I think that since he has a bf you should leave him alone.

[Lost in the Echo]

I don't want to seem mean but you had your chance and you turned him down. I think that since he gas a bf you should leave him alone.

Yeah I agree with Mattie :D

You should leave him alone since he has a bf, if you ask to experiment with him then it could cause a bunch of drama and fighting bullshit since he has a boyfriend now.
So just leave him alone so there isn't any trouble.

[Sean4U]

AMEN Mattie and Bo, since you had your chance, leave him be....he is apparently happy since he has a BF and don't become the one to come between them....that isn't right....find someone else

[Lawrence P]

It seams I'm the odd one out.

I think that is is okay to do so. It's his fault if he deceives his "boyfriend", of which he may not even have. He may still like you and repress the thoughts, BUT he may not. You just have to talk to people. If you don't you loose chances and opportunities.

Just ask, there is nothing wrong with that.

[Scottydog]

If you want to, talk to him about it. Just don't do anything you'll regret!

[Gymrat17]

Nope, you had your chance and now he is with someone else. Unless he makes a move on you, it would be wrong to do something.

[Lost in the Echo]

It seams I'm the odd one out.

I think that is is okay to do so. It's his fault if he deceives his "boyfriend", of which he may not even have. He may still like you and repress the thoughts, BUT he may not. You just have to talk to people. If you don't you loose chances and opportunities.

Just ask, there is nothing wrong with that.

Yeah, there is something wrong with that.
If he does that then he could break up 2 people who might actually love each other.
There is more to life than just sex/experimenting, ya know?

[Robin99]

As my mother would say, that ship has sailed. Why wait a ton of months later when he has a boyfriend? On the other hand, he can only say is no.

[StoneColdNicky]

If he is faithful to the boyfriend, be prepared for a return on that 'no.'

[sdude]

While I basically agree that you had your chance with him, perhaps you might ask him if he knows some friend he can hook you up with? If he is truly involved with his BF, he might be able to turn you on to a hot friend...

[alexkun]

yes.. go ahead.. its gonna be awesome, i can bet you're gonna to love it.. :)

[Lost in the Echo]

yes.. go ahead.. its gonna be awesome, i can bet you're gonna to love it.. :)

What? Are you serious?
I don't think it would be worth breaking up 2 people who are in a relationship and love each other.

Like I said, there are more important things in life than sex.

[DerBear]

I don't want to seem mean but you had your chance and you turned him down. I think that since he gas a bf you should leave him alone.

Yeah, I'd agree with the you.

You had a chance and you turned him down. I don't think making a move when really all you want to do is experiment is such a good idea. He has a boyfriend and unless they brake up, he is currently with someone.

I'd suggest leaving him alone. You don't want to break them up because that would not be a kind thing to do. So I'd leave him alone and maybe find someone else.

[Aajj333]

I'd wait until he is done with the other guy first

[leafgreenangel]

Okay First of all, He has a boyfriend so I doubt that he'll be cool with experimenting on the down low. Secondly, I think he's probably gotten over you since last summer. I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic.

[alexkun]

What? Are you serious?
I don't think it would be worth breaking up 2 people who are in a relationship and love each other.

Like I said, there are more important things in life than sex.

i know that, but he is not doing anything wrong by asking, if the other guy is really committed to his boyfriend he'll just say no and that's it.

[Lost in the Echo]

i know that, but he is not doing anything wrong by asking, if the other guy is really committed to his boyfriend he'll just say no and that's it.

Yeah, but that doesn't make it right.
The OP should not compromise that relationship to begin with.

Like I said, love and a relationship is far more important than sex or "experimenting" .
Don't threaten a person's relationship just because you want to "fool around" with them, that is a very selfish thing to do, and like I said, there are several things that are more important than sex.
The smart thing to do is think with your brain, not your dick.
Sex isn't everything...

[GabAngel06]

I don't want to seem mean but you had your chance and you turned him down. I think that since he has a bf you should leave him alone.
True.

[NSoKShannon]

If you want to, talk to him about it. Just don't do anything you'll regret!

Exactaly, and just don't come straight out and say "would you jack me off" don't do that.

[chesterboom]

Your decisions your consequence.

[harsh]

I agree with everyone else. You had a shot, but it didn't work out. I'm sure there's at least one other guy at your school who's curious or bi too so maybe find him instead :)

[Aidoon123]

It seems that you only want him now because he is un-available... Make your move if you want

[Gymrat17]

It seams I'm the odd one out.

I think that is is okay to do so. It's his fault if he deceives his "boyfriend", of which he may not even have.

Wrong. It would be the fault of the person who is instigating the relationship because by not making a move, the person in the relationship wouldn't have had the chance to cheat on his boyfriend.

[Abyssal Echo]

i know that, but he is not doing anything wrong by asking, if the other guy is really committed to his boyfriend he'll just say no and that's it.

Dude the guy should not be asking in the first place.

I guarantee you would not like it if I tried to get into your bf or gf pants

[Skyline]

I agree with Mattie and Bo 100%!

[Lawrence P]

Wrong. It would be the fault of the person who is instigating the relationship because by not making a move, the person in the relationship wouldn't have had the chance to cheat on his boyfriend.

That is saying one has no free will. The person who asks is not at fault, the person who cheats is at fault. The first has done nothing wrong. In future tense you understand this. One cannot be at fault for the decision of someone else, given the point of free will.

Your view seams quite bigoted the way it is stated.

Yeah, there is something wrong with that.
If he does that then he could break up 2 people who might actually love each other.
There is more to life than just sex/experimenting, ya know?

You have lived a delusion. a vision of which all if perfect and straight forward, you see a blur of life an call it clear sight. You don't see the light all all that is the sun because you stare at your feet. You only see what seams to be. To believe two love each other and no one else is for them is quite... disturbing.

Look at how people think, see, and interact then you shall see the truth in my words.


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[TapDancer]

What? Are you serious?
I don't think it would be worth breaking up 2 people who are in a relationship and love each other.

Like I said, there are more important things in life than sex.

AMEN TO THIS! (using caps, because I can) But no seriously, I don't think it is a good idea, as many others have said, you have had your chance. This is the age for experimentation, so, I guess there is nothing wrong with it, but I wouldn't ask this dude. Like Bocefus said, THERE ARE MORE IMPORTANT THINGS IN LIFE THAT SEX. Sorry, I loved that statement so much, it also had to be in caps. :P

[Lost in the Echo]

You have lived a delusion. a vision of which all if perfect and straight forward, you see a blur of life an call it clear sight. You don't see the light all all that is the sun because you stare at your feet. You only see what seams to be. To believe two love each other and no one else is for them is quite... disturbing.

Look at how people think, see, and interact then you shall see the truth in my words.

Well, what if this guy who wants to break up the relationship isn't the right guy for this other guy either?
What you said sounds pretty stupid and illogical.

Technically, the chances are that even if 2 people are in love, then yes there is a possibility that both of those people could be in a good, loving relationship with someone else.
But life doesn't work that way, if you were deeply in love with somebody, and someone told you that somebody else was your soulmate, would you leave your current lover just because of that?

[Gymrat17]

That is saying one has no free will. The person who asks is not at fault, the person who cheats is at fault. The first has done nothing wrong. In future tense you understand this. One cannot be at fault for the decision of someone else, given the point of free will.

Your view seams quite bigoted the way it is stated.

My views seem bigoted? This coming from someone who has no problem telling a thirteen year old that it is okay to instigate a relationship with someone who is taken. Pah! The values you are advocating are questionable...

I agree the person who cheats is at fault but, Lawrence P, I am afraid so is the person who instigated the relationship and made a move in the first place. For without the first move being made by the instigator of the relationship, the person who cheats would have had no chance to cheat.

[zerosix22]

to tell you frankly,you had your chance and you just ignored him. now,it is very wrong if you make a move because he has a boyfriend(present) you just wait for the time that he makes a move again. lol

[StoppingTime]

The fighting and arguing needs to stop right now. People are entitled to their opinions, but insulting others won't be tolerated.
Please say on topic, and keep any civil arguments to PMs.

Also: P101 :arrow: Relationships and Dating.

[Lawrence P]

There are opportunities to cheat all around the person. To say the opportunities only lay with that one of "instigation", is simply not true.

I'm not saying he should divide a relationship between two people. What I'm saying is that its alright to talk to the person about how he feels. I don't think that's its incorrect to possibly give up someone that they could love a lifetime, not that it it expected (due to his age), but he does have the right to simply let the person know that he likes person.

Well, what if this guy who wants to break up the relationship isn't the right guy for this other guy either?
What you said sounds pretty stupid and illogical.

Technically, the chances are that even if 2 people are in love, then yes there is a possibility that both of those people could be in a good, loving relationship with someone else.
But life doesn't work that way, if you were deeply in love with somebody, and someone told you that somebody else was your soulmate, would you leave your current lover just because of that?

Well love is a delusion. We want a dictating force in our lives so we can feel. We want to be with others because of the error it is. I agree with this error, it is a logical error in our design, if our design was to be perfect. God made the animals different then us, but laced us with the animal to make us in his image. An image with errors so we can live and understand ourselves and him better to make us more like him.



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[Steve Hala]

i would say no you had your chance its time to let someone else

[alexkun]

Dude the guy should not be asking in the first place.

I guarantee you would not like it if I tried to get into your bf or gf pants

jajjaa.. it sound funny when you say it like that, but you have a point, he had a chance and didnt take it, now its time to walk away and wish him the best, he might comeback to him one day.

they can still be friends though.