Log in

View Full Version : Guys,...


agamemnon
December 5th, 2012, 05:32 PM
Okay, this probably is not the right place for this post, but...

Okay, so my parents insist on forcing me and my brother to do things we don't want. Then when we do, it is always not good enough or they don't even notice and say that it hasn't been done for x#of months.

Some parents that i know and am a friend with said that it is due to hormones and whatnot. Is that the real reason? It is almost the harder they push the harder we push to not do it or if we do, they never even notice.

Please help as I am getting tired of this.

StoppingTime
December 5th, 2012, 05:35 PM
Can you give some specific examples? I think this is a bit vague for people to give you advice on.

Also, I'll move this to the Family & Friends Section.

agamemnon
December 5th, 2012, 05:38 PM
okay, an specific example is the other day, i was told to mow the yard or something would happen (don't remember), and I said the i had just done it last weekend (2days prior to this conversation). They said that it wasn't cut for 4 months and it is in the middle of the winter so there isn't even a need for it. this is the sort of thing.

StoppingTime
December 5th, 2012, 05:42 PM
Well, I have two conflicting stories then. I'll believe you (saying you just mowed the lawn), in order to answer this better.

Anyway, if you feel that you're being unfairly treated compared to your brother, then this is something you should bring up with them privately.
Now, if it's just them asking you to do annoying tasks (and ones you find unnecessary), but it's fair, then I don't see what you could really do.
Sure, you could refuse to do anything. But that won't really get you anywhere but into more trouble. Honestly, it's just to best to do what they tell you to (in regard to the situation you gave me), and get it over with.

agamemnon
December 5th, 2012, 05:50 PM
no, my brother has to do the same things.

and it's not the i find the jobs trivial, it is that they never notice it or it is never good enough. Example: I had to dust my parents room and my mom came in right after she saw me finish dusting a wood shelf and dust had started to settle again (air was very dusty). She said that i had not even touched that shelf and that i couldn't do anything else until it was done to her liking.

This is the sort of thing that it is.

FergusDunn
December 5th, 2012, 10:22 PM
no, my brother has to do the same things.

and it's not the i find the jobs trivial, it is that they never notice it or it is never good enough. Example: I had to dust my parents room and my mom came in right after she saw me finish dusting a wood shelf and dust had started to settle again (air was very dusty). She said that i had not even touched that shelf and that i couldn't do anything else until it was done to her liking.

This is the sort of thing that it is.

Yikes thats annoying but yeah in your first post you mentioned hormones and it is maybe as you get into puberty - and hormones rage - it can make you short tempered and you feel a bit of rage at things.

But maybe its a two way street - and you should maybe keep a list of what you have done - like the lawn etc and try to d things well.

But maybe parents are stressed at something as well - can you maybe think about talking it over - and saying how you feel - or agree a time slot for chores.

Castle of Glass
December 6th, 2012, 02:03 AM
oh i know what you are going through, but with me it is just that my brother is tooo glued to his computer so i get every thing done before him and when my parents ask him to do something, he will say "i always do it"(even when he never does it) and then my parents make me do it. and if i try and tell them that my brother doesn't do shit, they get mad.