everyone feel this way

[gymnastgirl]

I have been getting the urge to start getting more kinda sexual i dont know if sexual is the right word because im only 13 but gettinv the urge to start kissing and everything is this normal?

[Elysium]

Completely normal. Hormones tend to do that to you, especially as a growing and developing teenager.

[gymnastgirl]

ok because i dont want to be one of those girls who are desperate but i would like kissanyone

[TheDeepestDepths]

I was one of those socially awkward girls who had about the sexuality of a teacup. As a result I was seventeen before I kissed anyone, I just wasn't interested. Boys were a minor inconvenience to be ignored and disdained when I was thirteen.

I'm probably the wrong person to be giving advice in this situation as I never put much value on 'firsts'. I got my first kiss when I was seventeen. I had sex for the first time that night. I haven't seen him since but, in essence, it got the job done so to speak. It got the extremely awkward first time over with, which meant that the next time I did it it I was far more comfortable with the whole situation and was less likely to embarrass myself in front of someone I actually liked.

When you're that age kissing can either be a huge deal or it can be worth nothing depending on what everyone around you is doing and their opinions on the subject. For all thirteen year old girls in my school kissing was something that didn't really matter, they'd go out and get the shift with several boys and it would be normal, but the first kiss was a big deal.

What I guess I'm trying to say is that it's up to you and how much worth you put on sexual activities - from something as innocent and benign as kissing to something more expressive as sex. If you don't care all that much experiment with boys you like or trust. You don't even have to fancy them. If you're shy around boys then mess around with a close female friend.

If you're experiencing sexual urges then masturbation is a good way to alleviate those and to explore your sexuality. However, since you are only thirteen I would strongly recommend holding off on sex until you are older. Intercourse is a whole different ball entirely.

About the urges: they are natural and very healthy. The next bit is according to a health website dedicated to puberty.

"During puberty, you'll start to have more sexual thoughts and urges. You'll develop an attraction to guys or girls or guys and girls, and you may discover what having a crush on someone feels like.

"You may start to feel things more intensely. One minute you may feel on top of the world, and the next minute you may feel pretty down in the dumps.

"As you get older, you begin to be able to think ahead, think about the past, and even analyze situations in a new way. Your new abilities allow you to have more complex thoughts and feelings, but one downside is that it can be harder to move on from negative emotions.

"Some teens find that they are sexually aroused a lot when they are going through puberty. While being aroused a lot can feel embarrassing or out of control, rest assured that it is normal. As you get older and get more used to arousal, it will seem less intrusive and more in control. Some teens choose to masturbate to release sexual feelings, and others just wait for the feelings to pass.

"Puberty can be very confusing. We might think a love relationship will help us feel stable. We may want it to be the one thing that does not change in our lives. But that might not be a realistic expectation."

Hope all this helps, let me know is you have any more questions. I'd also recommend going to the "Girls Guide to Puberty" forum on this site. It answers most questions people have on the changes people undergo during puberty.

Lots of love,
TDD! x x

[emily-candace]

Welcome to puberty gymnastgirl.

[gymnastgirl]

Thanks so much! and dont worry i dont think i will be having sex anytime soon.

[Heike16]

Everything is fine...that happens a lot of girls in your age! It doesn't has to mean anything...but even if, it is totally ok :)

[Clara13]

It is the same with me. For about two years I started to be more atracetd to kissing and hugging, etc.. Im not planing to have sex at my age, so I masturbate a lot, but keep kissing and making out too. I love the feeling of being all wet after staying with a boy and going home after to take care of things, you know.:yeah:

[anyone50]

I was kinda like that at 13 but the trouble is sex was like a drug and the more i did the more curious i became and now at 15 I have done things i never would have dreamed of doing at 13. not sure when I crossed the line but the cravings are always there for more daring and taboo sex

[Kwmpa]

It's normal I got the urge around 11

[Brook]

Your normal, I started much earlier. It is ok to want these things I don't think I will ever stop wanting to kiss and more

[meow2122]

its normal

[ackmedsgirl666]

hormones.... puberty
yeah it haPPENS as everybody has already said
i was the same way at that age.. i was inlove with like eminem like hardcore and i had a poster of him on my wall(when i was 13) actually maybe 12 and i used to makeout with it
actually my dad caught me once... was really embarassing

[ana1og]

Totally normal with hormones and all

Agreed

[Tiffy]

Yes completly normal. :)

[Kwmpa]

Completely normal

[danika13]

Its normal i feel that way too.

[CharlieHorse]

Teens = horny
Hormones and stuff
So yes. Normal.

[LolaHaze]

Its normal i feel that way too.

I think most of us do!

[Mortal Coil]

It's perfectly normal! These urges are part of puberty. Just remember to use your head and not let your hormones have total control over you :)

[heyChelsea]

very very normal

[collrue]

A good rule is always the following. If you feel like you should, then you should definitely explore. If something feels wrong to you, then stop.

Hesitation is good. Knowing why you're doing something is good.

Just cause a solution works for someone else, doesn't mean it will for you. BUT, sometimes it does.

Think, learn, explore, and then think again. (But don't overthink :) )

[amylights]

It's completely normal!

[Laura Crofty]

I have been getting the urge to start getting more kinda sexual i dont know if sexual is the right word because im only 13 but gettinv the urge to start kissing and everything is this normal?

It's an exciting time, hanging out and having a good time with friends will lead to more fun. I felt like this about 2 yrs ago and it's still with me now.

[rakster]

Yeah I got my first BF when I was 13. We made out and stuff and he fingered me and went down too. He never got me off and we never had sex, but I was really ready to. I didn't have an O til I was 15 tho, but after that it really took off. I'm glad i waited til I was 16 to go all the way with the BF I have now.

[AbbaZabba]

Normal seems to be the answer, it is for me.

[Mobalo]

I fell exactly the same way, so it's good to know from reading this thread that it's normal... :)