loss?

[bbychop]

i am about five and a half weeks along in my pregnancy and i am starting to worry myself over the smallest of things. when i was three weeks along, i weighed 142. i have dropped 8.5 pounds since. is this abnormal?

[RaisingSand]

Are you suffering from morning sickness? If you are, this might be why ... stress could also be another factor.
A really important thing is you NEED to take care of yourself, eat small amounts of nutricious, healthy food often. If you don't, at this stage, you risk losing your baby.

[bbychop]

i have gotten sick but i do not think it is exactly morning sickness yet. i am leaning more towards stress at any rate. i have been fighting with my mum every time i talk to her and my boyfriend is down in another state. i have had no one to really talk to about any of it and it is taking its' toll i suppose.
i try to eat small meals every three to five hours. i have not even taken any of my pills i am supposed to (although the only thing my doctor said i could take, i am allergic to), and he said that if i stopped taking those, i could lose weight but it is just anti-depressants. O_o i am truly lost.

[Maverick]

While you are pregnant it is very important that you are in constant communication with your doctor. If you have any health concerns it's best to call his office. You're under a special care when dealing with a pregnancy and it is very important that you do what the doctor says and communicate any concerns or problems with him.

As for the stress it is best you try to limit it and avoid any confrontation. Tell your mom that stress isn't doing any good and that you don't want to argue.

Don't you have any other friends or family you can trust?

[bbychop]

i was going to call the doctor today but i was reminded that it was columbus' day so i would have tio wait until tomorrow. all my doctor told me to do was call him when i decided what i was going to do with the pregnancy and not to take anything but tylenol.

my mum still does not know about me being pregnant, to be honest with you. i have barely even talked to her since i found out and i have only seen her possibly three times?

the only friends i have are friends who have no idea what to tell me and my dad is the only one in my family who knows about it at all.

[Maverick]

That's good you're keeping in contact with the doctor. Why haven't you told her yet? Holding secrets make you stressed so maybe it's a good idea to tell.

[bbychop]

well there is a problem with letting my mum know.
my dad (which i live with), my boyfriend, and i have already set it up to where i am getting an abortion because i am too young to have a kid and my boyfriend would "have to marry me" and "doesn't want to have a loveless marriage by the time he is 21."
my mum would disown me if she knew what was going on.

i guess i am just worried about the next couple of weeks before i even get this procedure done. i am afraid of losing it on my own...

[Maverick]

It sounds like you have very little say in your future. Is an abortion what you want? Also, it's your decision whether you get married or not if you decide to keep the baby. You don't have to do anything except for what you want to do. It's your life.

[Underground_Network]

Yeah, what Ant said.. Do you want the abortion, or are you being pressured into it? I think you should tell your mom, its better off that you tell her than she finds out some other way. And if you have the abortion and she never found out that you were pregnant, it would probably seem awkward when talking with her, especially in the future when you actually are older and she would be fine with you having a kid. And with the weight thing, I have no idea, but as Ant said, you should probably contact your doctor as early as possible tomorrow.

[bbychop]

in ways i do want it but in ways i do not
the ways i do not want it outweigh the ones that make me want to keep it
i am probably going to end up telling my mum after it is done.. but i do not know...
i plan on waking up early to call him and see what he wants me to do
i am just not wanting to end up in a hospital due to it

[RaisingSand]

I agree with Ant 210%. :)
It's really important to keep in contact with your doctor during a pregnancy, especially if you're feeling unwell or experiencing weight loss, because if something's wrong with mum, it could be affecting the baby.
Best of luck!!!! :hug: x infinity.

[bbychop]

:hug: thank you.
i am just ready for all of this to be over.
i have to call my doctor in the morning.
like right when i wake up.
even the only person up at the office that i get along with does not know all of it.
so it should be interesting.