Christmas

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

i havent talked to my dad in two months and im afraid for Christmas because he might expect me to say something to him. idk if i shouldn't take any gift my mom gets for me to avoid him or just say something like thank you


EDIT: What has happened has been going on since i was very young and some before I can even remember but my family has filled in the missing pieces. The things that I remember before anyone told me about other things were when I had my sixth birthday after everyone left my dad started a fight with my mom. He started screaming and yelling then he tried to force me out of my bedroom window and run to the car so he could leave my mom. I just stood there because I didn't want to leave her.

Then anytime my uncle was at home when we went to my grandmas house my dad would start fights with him. Everytime I would run out of the door to get away but I always heard them tumbling down the basement stairs.

My dad has split my family in two. I can't go over to my uncles house anymore because of him and he has no good reason for that. My uncles house was where I was safe, where i felt good, I didn't have the urge to cut when i was there because I was happy and my dad took that all away from me.

He has beaten me, he has almost killed me if it weren't for my mom. He turned my mom into a mirror image of himself because he threatened her.

There is so much more to this, but this is most of what I remember of my childhood. My uncle is my father figure and my dad is just a biological father because of everything he has done.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

I dont wanna intrude or get to personal, but if you arent talking to him for this time cause of a event that happened, bad one... I wouldnt. But if its just something you know came up... Then Id just take the gift to avoid it. Sorry if its a little confusing.

[ackmedsgirl666]

agreed with what above poster said
and it is the holidays so maybe you could try and make ammeds with him unless there is something personal inbetween you guys that would stop that

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

I dont wanna intrude or get to personal, but if you arent talking to him for this time cause of a event that happened, bad one... I wouldnt. But if its just something you know came up... Then Id just take the gift to avoid it. Sorry if its a little confusing.

what do you mean (second one)

[runnerz]

I guess I would have to know more about why you're not talking to your dad to say. In some cases, getting a gift can be a gesture saying "It's time to make up and try to move on from our problems." Other times it could just be underappreciated by him if the problem is a big one and is still there

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

what do you mean (second one)

Something recently, last few months happened to cause it.

[Mirage]

Nirvana nailed it.

Avoid it if you can

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

Something recently, last few months happened to cause it.

Yeah this has been going on for a really long time and I finally had enough of it so I stopped talking to him.

[Caver]

If someone was violent like that no matter who it is I'd hate to see the sight of that person and it will bring back flashbacks and memories which I hate.
If I was you I would stay away; because If it was me I would never ever forgive someone for being violent towards me or someone I truly love.

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Yeah this has been going on for a really long time and I finally had enough of it so I stopped talking to him.

Okay, I dont remember what I wrote but Id say go with what I said to do if this is been a long time problem.

[VictoriaGotaSecret]

thanks