My friends dad

[Brook]

My friends dad flirts with me. I flirt back. Is that bad of me? I admit I like him, yes in that way.

[honeybear]

i don't think there's anything wrong with flirting really

[Mortal Coil]

While there is nothing inherently wrong with thinking of an older man in that way, if this goes any further it will become very complicated and while I personally have nothing wrong with relationships where there is an age gap, this could get very, very ugly. It's not bad of you to reciprocate his behavior necessarily, but it is irresponsible and risky of him to flirt with you. I hope you end up okay.

[Taryn98]

I think it's not appropriate.

[ana1og]

I will admit I have a thing for older guys, but you don't want to mess things up with your friend.

[Zoe16]

Is there a mom? If not go for it. Like they say age is only a number. I kinda like older guys- just sayin

[FreeFall]

Nothing's ringing out to you that he's got a thing for girls his daughter is friends with? You're probably not the first and you most likely will not be the last. Imagine, if somehow you end as his wife. He'll be on his way to being a grand-dad and you'll have just had your first child. Well, now he's interested in you daughter's friends. Hell, he could be interested in his son's girlfriends.

His mind and brain and levels of varying "maturity" and life experience far exceed your own. What have you two to connect on aside from sexual tension?

You're young, it sounds. Flirting cannot be just flirting. You flirting with him, sends him a message.
You're reciprocating his actions, you're saying to him "I am open to you."
He'll take more than flirting. Soon he may touch you. He may stand closer. He will toe the line and see how far you will let him go, and since you're flirting with him he may assume you're more than willing to go where he wants if ever he decides so. He'll think you'll want whatever it is he wants to do, whether you want it or not.
So it can be harmless today, but think about the bigger picture and how real future outcomes can be. Think about what could happen, an older man liking a girl his daughter is friends with. You open the door for him, he barges in. Be smart.

[Heike16]

I don't think this is good...really!

[holagurrl]

Horribly innaporopriate. No grown man should be interested in young girls, espcially girls around his daughters age. It's disgusting and illegal for a reason. You should keep your distance.

[Caver]

I'd find it disgusting and creepy if an old man flirted with me.

[anyone50]

I think it's kinda the nature of older guys to want to flirt with younger girls

[Brook]

Thanks everyone for your honesty and advice.

[Haybay]

Touchy situation n i do see how it could be dangerous. Just the thrill of it would be exciting tho

[Josie95]

I would say it's just innocent fun if you are both ok with it. If he's not making you uncomfortable then there's no harm as long is it doesn't become more than that. If it's making your friend uncomfortable that's something to consider too.

[britt69]

I would say it's just innocent fun if you are both ok with it. If he's not making you uncomfortable then there's no harm as long is it doesn't become more than that. If it's making your friend uncomfortable that's something to consider too.

I agree i myself have a thing for older guys but you wouldnt want to mess things up with your friend, and becareful if its only flirting well ok but if he makes you uncomfortable or touches you then you gotta stop!

[abp1999]

I think it is kind of creepy. Definitely way inappropriate at least to me. I'd be sooooo uncomfortable is a friend's dad flirted with me.

[missbehavin]

I would say just be careful and be sure you know what you are getting into.

[kentucky girl]

Just don't give him the idea that anything else could happen except flirting.

[peytongrrl]

Think that its really inappropriate on his part ... he is way to old for you and he should realize that. Just keep it at the flirting level.

[tifferslove13]

The only real thing to worry about is your friendship... don't mess that up. Everything else is secondary (and dependant on if he is cute)

[hip ky 65]

i love an older man...SEXY! ;) i flirt with my friends dad all the time...even more than flirting before...not sex, but we've kissed before and touched each other. :D MM-MM-MM!

[matthewethan97]

Yes actually it is bad but when you feel like doing it, use a condom for your protection. Why don't you try to go to jiopo[dot]com and get a single guy.

[FunGirl_]

flirting is too much fun to be bad.. have fun with it :)

[Natalie]

Will if you flirt its ok but nothing more with a that age man..

[anyone50]

Will if you flirt its ok but nothing more with a that age man..

I agree and one thing i haven't seen mentioned here is the legal consequences for the man. it's been said that guys & men as well do most of their thinking with the little head when it comes to sex and when that happens they don't think any farther down the road that the sex even tho they ussually pay the price when discovered

[ana1og]

flirting is too much fun to be bad.. have fun with it :)

Ahreed!

[ali98]

Flirting with hot experienced men is great! Take care of consequences (especially for him)...

[Jen Jones]

its pretty inappropriate

[Laura Crofty]

Not sure I should say this but I flirt with a friends Mom, she flirts back. Not sure what I should do.

[randomnessqueen]

if hes married its very inappropriate.
if not, just remember how easy it is for him to go to prison.

[LolaHaze]

Flirting is flirting (whether its a man or a woman). Just be careful!

[collrue]

Flirting is flirting (whether its a man or a woman). Just be careful!

Agreed. Plenty of people flirt. It's good practice. However, the fact that you like him, makes it complicated.

Nothing wrong with liking attention from someone, even if older. But, it definitely is weird if you let him think there's something more there. Especially as it's your friend's dad.

Think of how you would feel if it was her flirting with your dad.

[AbbaZabba]

I've thought about older men, but being your dad's friend, I think I'd leave it at thinking.

[LolaHaze]

Agreed. Plenty of people flirt. It's good practice. However, the fact that you like him, makes it complicated.

Nothing wrong with liking attention from someone, even if older. But, it definitely is weird if you let him think there's something more there. Especially as it's your friend's dad.

Think of how you would feel if it was her flirting with your dad.

Excellent advice.

[freakyindiangurl]

There is nothing wrong with that. But I wouldn't go any further especially if your friends dad is married, and might lose a friend.

[rakster]

I think he just wants a nice fantasy he can jack off to. He'll find some pics on the net that look like you or take some himself when you're around and then just go stroke his rod. I guess if you want to be his inspiration then go for it. Flash ur boobs and let him see ur nips or cameltoe sometimes.

[Tiffy]

There is nothing wrong with flirting, just be careful. Dont let it get away from you

[holagurrl]

Is he married? How would your friend feel if she found out? How would you feel if the situation was reversed? Are you even taking into consideration that your actions could potentially break-up a family, and ruin their lives? Wow some friend you are...

[candabear17]

If you like each other and you're ok with it then go ahead (as long as you're of age). Just keep in mind that you can lose your friend and the fact that, if things get serious between you, you could become your friend's step mom!

[amandamanda]

My friends dad flirts with me. I flirt back. Is that bad of me? I admit I like him, yes in that way.

How old are you?

Anyway I think if its really just flirting its not a big deal. anything more could be big trouble!!

[LilKelli69]

Flirting is me, always. I'm not much into my friend's dads though. That is scary.

[Amber Bi]

Flirting is soooo much fun and older guys rock. but not mad old like 40's
I've seen my dad's friends checking me out and I take it as a compliment

[PandaLeah]

To be honest there is nothing wrong with "controlled" flirting.. that means if you keep it to flirting that is.

[Alley_Cat]

Yes I agree technically it is inappropriate but, who hasn't thought of a much older man in that way and masturbated...Brad Pitt (49), Johnny Depp (49), Bradley Cooper (38), James Franco (34), Jake Gyllenhaal (32), Channing Tatum (32)...lets not be hypocrites here girls. Just cause her friends dad isn't a movie start doesn't mean he isn't m-bate worthy.

[dadspatsy]

i lfert with my friends dads too espically wehn we have the famlies over for our nudist parties or go to the nudist camps

[Jinxxy]

It's not appropriate. Are you even old enough to have sex? Ans what happens if his flirting advances into inappropriate touching/rape? Are you mature enough to report him and potentially ruin your friend's family life forever?

You're playing a dangerous game.

[Wanderer_]

American Beauty - didn't end well for anyone I think

[Amanda567]

My friends mom died three years ago and this year he started flirting with me, at first I was uncomfortable but now I want to sleep with him, I think we will tonight

[redneckgal]

I don't see anything wrong with that as long as you don't do anything else.

[XxcaseyxX]

how old is he? for some reason i like girls my age but the only guys i like are older. like out of highschool older..

[tigers45]

Not weird you are cute

[sarahmalone98]

Has your friend said anything about it? I mean I think flirting is ok but if more than that happened it would be really awkward for you and your friend and then like if you tried to have a relationship with him, you's would probly have to leave where you's live. I bet your family would be really upset too.

[Kochanek]

You are both old enough to decide by yourself, whether to have sex or not.
As I had a look at your photos, I really understand, why he flirts with you... Must be really really hard for him, not to come closer ;-)

[Evaboo]

It's ok

[San1998]

I think flirting is ok. But I wouldn't do more. I think there is a time when you think older guys are atractive and stuff like that, but never would do more than flirting.

[Wanderer_]

Has your friend noticed and said anything?
Do t do anything that would land him in jail

[Eliza93]

If he's married then it's not OK

[Reanne]

Yeah I've been in this situation and as much as it's a turn on and I used to fantasize alot about this guy, I now if anything ever happened it wouldn't be good. I think as far as you could go would be some exposure, either you letting him see you or you see him. The problem is controlling the urges to go further. Like I wouldn't want him to get in to trouble, but the shit would hit the fan if anything did. If something was about to happen I would just say... we can't go further, just enjoy the show and enjoy yourself later because that's what I'll be doing ;)

[San1998]

I would say the same like the most here. Flirting is ok as long it stays with flirting.

[missfortune]

it depends how much older he is coz if he is near 40 then stay away coz thats perverted and a bit efed up!

[GigglyAbby]

It's your choice if you want to flirt with him and if you feel okay with it [I won't judge] -- though I would NOT recommend you do it. I'm a little concerned that it may lead to something you're not counting on and if it got out of hand -- it could affect your friendship.

[jheaven96]

My friends dad flirts with me. I flirt back. Is that bad of me? I admit I like him, yes in that way.
i do this as well, not a bad thing

[Roni]

I think this can only end badly.If we're going to play the father utilize.If you do what he wants then he will not need it, and if this gets you no longer want you and your friend.I think it is better not flirt with him more.

[JessZ]

Yeah, I'm gonna have to go with kind of weird.

[Lost in the Echo]

I don't really see how this thread is appropriate, puberty, or sex-ed. It has definitely run it's course. :locked: