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JackShephard
November 29th, 2012, 01:42 PM
This is a second thread relating to a previous one. I went out on a date with this guy I met (my first date with a guy.) and I've done some thinking. I don't think that he would be someone I want to get involved with. Quite frankly he's too effeminate for my taste.(did I spell that right?) And he seems to be clingy right from the get go. Now he has my number and my Facebook and is constantly texting me and hoping that we are going to meet sometime today. He's not a bad guy but after some thinking, I just can't see the dynamics between us working out. I have nice guy syndrome which means I will talk to him just so he doesn't feel bad. But I don't want to go on a second date and I don't know what to tell him. I can't just lie and say I'm busy because he'll just try to make plans later. Ugh!! How can I give him a hint without hurting his feelings? I know it was only one date but he seems awfully hopeful that it is going to continue and I hate to just crush him.

ackmedsgirl666
November 29th, 2012, 02:48 PM
well just try and be easy on him...
just be like "hey i really like you and your a nice guy and whatnot... but right now im not ready for anything serious because im having some personal problems and i dont want them to effect my relationship with you so i am wanting some space for a bit just to clear my head. i dont want to hurt you and makes things unclear. i still care about you but i hope you understand"
try that and hopefully if hes a good guy he should understand

JackShephard
November 29th, 2012, 03:42 PM
I don't want to lie. Is there something I can say that basically tells him I'm not interested?