Fantasy just came true tonight!

[TurboDieselBandit]

I have a good friend that I meat recently and we immediately became great friends within a few days. We are very similar, have a lot in common and have grown closer over the last 2 months. A few weeks ago I started feeling physically and emotionally attracted to this guy friend and had a few dreams about it but ignored it. We have had deep conversation before but today we began talking about friends of the same gender liking each other and we eventually found that we both had feelings of attraction to each other in contrast to our strong religious beliefs. After a few hours of talking about everything and opening up, we contemplated kissing for a while and were 5 inches away from kissing at one point but couldn't gather the courage to do it even though our bodies said to go for it. Well we did end up masturbating together, well each other, and even gave mutual BJ's. We both really got into it and really enjoyed it however, now he feels guilty and ashamed and I'm still in disbelief. What can I do or say to help him feel better?

Its crazy to have your usual wild fantasy, that you believe will never realistically happen, come true in the same day you find out that your friend had the same feelings. It still feels so surreal.

[Stig]

First off congrats! Second if he feels guilty and ashamed, talk to him about it see how he feels and share your feeling with him about what happened. Maybe u talking to him will make those feelings go away.
Hope it works out for you and your friend.

[IAMWILL]

Never has the saying "Be careful what you wish for, sometimes it may come true" been more relevant. I'm not surprised that you both feel this way after it, both of you were pretty infatuated with each other at the time. I'd talk to him about it, and just tell him how it made you feel. If you guys want to do it again, go ahead. If it was just a one time thing, just remember that experimenting once or twice is totally normal, and move on. But its important that you guys talk about it, because if not it could make things really awkward between you two, and when that happens it can sometimes ruin a relationship.

[drummerboi987]

Congrats dude! Thats awesome!! But I think talking about it would be the most logical thing to do.. If you don't feel bad about it then tell him why you dont feel bad... that might make him feel better about what you did and will hopefully want to make him do it again! It sure sounds like you want to :)

[PrimedPenguin]

Congratulations I wish like that would happen to me. The best thing to do in this situation would be to talk to him and see why he he feels guilty and find ways to make him feel better about it. If this continues to go un talked about it could ultimately ruin your guys relationship and make things awkward between you and him.

[TurboDieselBandit]

Its our religious beliefs and the fact that our families don't agree with homosexuality what makes it so difficult. Socially we would be considered those social nerdy kids and are "goodie" teens that wouldn't do this. Not sounding arrogant, just stating how others say they perceive us. I don't want anyone here to feel bad because they wish it would happen to them, this whole thing is surreal still. I was saying those same things here just earlier this week when I was sure he didn't like me. Hes one of those really nice, but very innocent guys so to think he was into me I felt was a misjudgment. Anyways, we texted last night, today and are chatting now. We both enjoyed it and even though he texted today to say it was a mistake and we let our hormones take us for a ride, I think he's considering a "Round 2" for this. Even though kissing is one of the thinks I would like most, I cant. He hasn't kissed anyone before and I cant take that from him. I made sure to let him know so that our feelings are transparent. He should have his first kiss with a GIRL he loves, not this.

Update 2 hours later
So it definitely seems he wants to do it again after we both admitted to thinking about it during the day. What would one of you do in such a situation? I really don't want to do something he or I'd regret but everything seems to line up well.

[Oukakystan95]

Congratz and well i would bring it up in privet and if he dont want to talk about then just drop it ... thats what i would do

[TurboDieselBandit]

I'm just kinda ranting now about the day and what happened. I'm so conflicted and it sucks....

So we were studying again, like we should, in a small hidden study room that has a glass wall with a clear door. Anyways, all was good until we got on to a subject that ended with a lot of caressing and touching everywhere, pressed against a wall. Definitely not the best idea or place, especially given that there was a high chance of being caught, but boy! temptation and hormones are a bear to control!

Unfortunately, this all came when we should have been leaving to meet his sisters who drive him home and as you may have guessed......we were late. His sisters were very upset and I'm sure he had to take a lot of heat; though I tried to take the blame and calm them down.(they were not out of control or anything, but they were mad)

I feel terrible because I should have been the one to say, thats enough and we have to go. Yet at the time, every nerve in your body wants to keep going, making that almost impossible. I don't know how to make the situation better without seeming suspicious. This is so hard because we both know its a sin but cant/don't want to resist. Please help... any suggestion is helpful at this point.

[trystan10]

Thats awesome im glad that your fantasy finnally came true :)

[GabAngel06]

Well, you must show him that you're not affected with what happened at all. Treat him exactly the same as how you treat him before the incident happened. He must see for himself that he shouldn't be affected with the really awkward moment. After all, you're friends. It should not be too hard for you to talk to each other again until you let the past fade away into the shadows.

[Scottydog]

Talk to him, see how he feels about it all!

[TurboDieselBandit]

Whats funny is that talking and hanging out is not awkward because we are comfortable talking about it and know how each other feel about it. Its when the conversation gets quiet and we both know what the other one is thinking that becomes very tense. We both want it and know the other one does too but we also feel we should stop; though neither of us regret last night and really want it to happen again. Its a cross road situation I suppose, to stop or enjoy it. I guess we will have to see where this goes.

[TurboDieselBandit]

I really don't know if I should say this but WE GOT CAUGHT BY MY ROOMMATE!!!

I knew this could end bad!!! I'm so ashamed and in a daze now. I feel like I'm in a dream. As for my roommate.....

Some how my roommate is more cool about it than I am; he's not even phased by it and is trying to calm me down a bit saying "Stuff happens, its college you have to find yourself. Dude its not that big a deal, it really isn't." HOW THE HECK IS HE SO OKAY ABOUT IT!?!?!?! I'll add more info later tonight....

[Sean4U]

well it possible that your roommate has had a similar experience before and may know what you were doing and knows there is nothing wrong with it
...and as far as what you and your friend are doing keep the communication going and talk through it...if you both enjoy what is happening why stop?...its between your two, no one else...and your roommate is cool with it you should let him know when you and your friend might need the room to yourselves...I'm sure he'd leave you two alone to do what you want....

[Nellerin]

Believe me God doesn't give a **** about whether or not you are gay or doing something that is considered gay. Don't worry about it too much and tell him to do the same.

Also, just tell the roommate to shut up since it is not a big deal. Congrats though for doing what you wanted and not letting beliefs get in the way.

[sdude]

Its our religious beliefs and the fact that our families don't agree with homosexuality what makes it so difficult. Socially we would be considered those social nerdy kids and are "goodie" teens that wouldn't do this. Not sounding arrogant, just stating how others say they perceive us. I don't want anyone here to feel bad because they wish it would happen to them, this whole thing is surreal still. I was saying those same things here just earlier this week when I was sure he didn't like me. Hes one of those really nice, but very innocent guys so to think he was into me I felt was a misjudgment. Anyways, we texted last night, today and are chatting now. We both enjoyed it and even though he texted today to say it was a mistake and we let our hormones take us for a ride, I think he's considering a "Round 2" for this. Even though kissing is one of the thinks I would like mst, I cant. He hasn't kissed anyone before and I cant take that from him. I made sure to let him know so that our feelings are transparent. He should have his first kiss with a GIRL he loves, not this.

Update 2 hours later
So it definitely seems he wants to do it again after we both admitted to thinking about it during the day. What would one of you do in such a situation? I really don't want to do something he or I'd regret but everything seems to line up well.

If you want to go for it, but talk to each other afterwards cause that is where silence can destroy a friendship...share your feelings and support each other....Your families and the church are NOT the ones that have to live your life...YOU DO!!!

[thatguywhosaysEH]

If you have feeling about the guy, go for it. you never know what good can come about from it. The only place it could go is uphill

[Aaron Y]

Just spend time to talk to each other.. hope u will go through all these

[TheRev]

Trust me... i had to go though this as well! one thing that i did that helped was i sat down and we talked. i just let everything happen when it should.. meaning just go with what your heart tells you! also remember, God loves you for who you are not who you do! hope it works out great between you two!!!

[Michael Anthony]

i wouldn't worry about it. that's a cool fantasy to have come true.

[Jakejjj]

Someone's lucky

[CharlieHorse]

Edit, peoples posts were deleted

[ImCoolBeans]

The original poster of this thread did not ask for you to debate whether homosexuality is a sin or not. He did not ask you to childishly insult other members and he did not ask you to blow up his thread and derail it with arguments.

If I see one more post in such a manner infractions will be given out. This is a help site, if you cannot respect that then I ask that you do not post in the help sections.

Your ridiculous arguments have been removed and I don't expect to see any more of that.

[ImAJock]

i apologize to everyone who read that. i lost my cool. it wont happen again

[wish_master_TWA]

Well done, bro! :D I envy you in the fact that this all happened! As for your buddy being ashamed and guilty, you should talk it out with him, and explain that you loved it and want to do more of it. And if it's religion that's holding him back, I feel that if you want to be more than friends despite religion you should go for it! God loves all of his children, and there is no real evidence saying that homosexuality despite common belief. :D Just go for it and see what happens! ;)

[ULeon]

just talk to him tell how how it made you feel and what you honestly think about all of this, he might feel the same way too again

[ThatGuy69]

Well done that is a really cute story, maybe you should talk to him and maybe ask him out and see what happens