its my fault...

[ackmedsgirl666]

i didnt mean it.. it was my fault
i taunted my boyfriend literally. i thought we were playing...i kept poking him. hitting him playing around

THEN HE BLACKED OUT... AND HE JUMPED ON ME AND LITERALLY PUMMELED ME
PUNCHED ME SEVERAL TIMES.... MY RIBS. MY CHEST.. MY FACE...

im scared..... not of him exactly but of what happened
he blacked out.... and he felt extremly bad for hurting me and he asked me to call the cops and he cut up his arms...
what should i do.. he says hes a monster....
im scared... that this monster might come back and hurt me again
he has never ever done this to me before.. never

im still kind of sore... ribs and chest hurt. but i dont wanna leave him :(

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

This isnt good! I really have no idea what you could do! I mean he blacked out then just lost it... I cant give any idea of what happened. I mean if you know him, he would never under normal circumstances lay a hand on you, you shouldnt call the cops. He isnt a monster, he didnt intend to do this to you. Try and talk to him about it and what happened, he could of had some attack? If you know him and love him, you will know what to do. You dont need to leave him.

[ackmedsgirl666]

thanks nirvana
atleast u didnt come on here and right away say"dump him"
i get that alot

[CharlieHorse]

Are you in a safe location currently? Is he with you?
Can you give a little more detail about what happened?

[ackmedsgirl666]

Are you in a safe location currently? Is he with you?
Can you give a little more detail about what happened?


i live with him.. and i pretty much told all that hsppened
he grabbed me then pummeled me

[Jules97]

thanks nirvana
atleast u didnt come on here and right away say"dump him"
i get that alot

Dump him....sorry

[Texas warrior]

We can't judge people on there darkest hour, but if he does anything like that again dump him in a heart beat.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I APPRECIATE YOUR ADVICE EVERYBODY
im trying to cope with it and figure out his triggers and what causes him to actually black out

[CharlieHorse]

How'd he black out? Did you slug him really hard? Did he hit his head?

I've heard that some people can become violent after waking up after forced unconsiousness.
I think it relates to ptsd, but I'm not sure...

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

How'd he black out? Did you slug him really hard? Did he hit his head?

I've heard that some people can become violent after waking up after forced unconsiousness.
I think it relates to ptsd, but I'm not sure...

In many cases people can wake up from unconscious if you ever saw it in movies or real life, they just lose it basically and grab people, things, what ever. They are just scared, dont know whats going on. And if its PTSD, very understandable there.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Exactly what nirvana. Said. One second he was himself next second he had me pinned to the bed and he kept sending blows to different parts of Ny body
today Ny ribs are hurting and my shoulder too. Hes still not happy with himsself and what he dis and keeps saying. Hes a monster

[ackmedslayer556]

I am a monster!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I deserve to die or go to jail!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[ackmedsgirl666]

No hunnie. You don't
Like Nirvana. Said it wasn't your fault
You lost control and blew up
Don't be so hats on yourself
Things will get better soon I hope

[CharlieHorse]

Wait, you both are on VT?

[CharlieHorse]

I am a monster!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I deserve to die or go to jail!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

What do you remember feeling as this happened?

[ackmedsgirl666]

What do you remember feeling as this happened?

He blacked out so he doesn't remember
And yes I made him an account

[CharlieHorse]

I'm comprehending little with the pieces and bits previously given.
If it's not too hard, can you write the story with as much detail as possible?
It would help so we can calm down your bf/help him realize it wasn't his fault.

[ackmedslayer556]

What do you remember feeling as this happened?

look all i remember is one sec she sacks me and i jump on top of here and then the next im sitting on the couch hearing her cry. and when i did i just knew i did something to her and so she told me what i did and iv bin beating myself up about it ever since. :( :( :(

[ackmedsgirl666]

And I feel really bad
I cried and I tore me to pieces

[CharlieHorse]

If you feel remorseful, and you don't even remember what happened, then how can you blame yourself? I think we know that something else did this, and your girl wants you to know that she's ok and that she knows that YOU would never do that. She forgives you and she wants you to know that she loves you.

[Texas warrior]

A monster has total control over there actions, YOU DID NOT HAVE CONTROL. You are not a monster just mildly miswired.

[Jaded Cobalt]

I think he has a multiple personality disorder. Friend of mine has this. as for the calling himself a monster thing...I know that feeling. if you want I could try to talk to him. one monster to a person who thinks he is one.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I think he has a multiple personality disorder. Friend of mine has this. as for the calling himself a monster thing...I know that feeling. if you want I could try to talk to him. one monster to a person who thinks he is one.


Alright that's perfecto thanks :)

[CharlieFinley]

I assure you that I am not saying this to be an ass, I'm saying it because I don't feel it's right to withhold sincere advice in this situation.

This is not a healthy relationship. I urge you to make a change.

[brianabyington]

I don't think he is a monster either. It may be a trauma that happend a long time ago. My dad has done that to my mom this was before me & my brother where born, yes they told us about this. They got in a huge fight and started pushing each other and my mom knocked my dad down and hit him a couple of times really hard. He didn't know what happened that triggered up a memory until a little while after this. He started crying and shaking and yelling leave me alone, he had his hands and a pillow over his butt turned out my dad was gang raped by a bunch of guys when he was younger and that was the cause of it. They worked through it and talked through it and they are still together today. It will be 17 yrs for them. It hasn't happened since. I hope that helps.

[Jaded Cobalt]

Alright that's perfecto thanks :)

You're welcome :). Like I said, I been through this before, and it is hard to deal with. The constant idea that you are a monster or not. I am easily convinced though that he is not a monster.

[ackmedsgirl666]

I don't think he is a monster either. It may be a trauma that happend a long time ago. My dad has done that to my mom this was before me & my brother where born, yes they told us about this. They got in a huge fight and started pushing each other and my mom knocked my dad down and hit him a couple of times really hard. He didn't know what happened that triggered up a memory until a little while after this. He started crying and shaking and yelling leave me alone, he had his hands and a pillow over his butt turned out my dad was gang raped by a bunch of guys when he was younger and that was the cause of it. They worked through it and talked through it and they are still together today. It will be 17 yrs for them. It hasn't happened since. I hope that helps.

now that you mention this i believe growing up he witnessed his dad abusing his mother but im not 100 percent sure... but if thats the case then what you say makes sense

[brianabyington]

Yes it would. I hope things turn out all right!!!

[CharlieFinley]

I don't advocate making excuses for abusers. It's a classic victim behavior.

[ackmedslayer556]

I don't advocate making excuses for abusers. It's a classic victim behavior.

ok honestly what on earth is your problem man. all iv seen u do on here is put people down and make them feel worse then they with the bad advice u give. like to u have a hate grudge with the whole world or something?

mods please do something about this member.

[CharlieFinley]

What would you prefer I said?

"Don't worry about it! A little smacking around never hurt anybody."

Or we could go with,

"What doesn't kill you makes you stronger."

Or, my personal favorite,

"He's just misunderstood."

I am abrasive. I am harsh. I am not nice. However, I am not unfair, and I usually am correct. Don't play the victim.

[CharlieFinley]

Seeing as how you're not a mod, I don't see that you're entitled to say what this forum wants or doesn't want. If a mod has a problem, I will, of course, stop.

That said, it's a bit hypocritical of you to call me a bully, no? I only used my words, and I did so out of a sincere desire to be honest. You used your fists, and did so out of a sincere desire to beat the shit out of your girlfriend.

[ackmedsgirl666]

Seeing as how you're not a mod, I don't see that you're entitled to say what this forum wants or doesn't want. If a mod has a problem, I will, of course, stop.

That said, it's a bit hypocritical of you to call me a bully, no? I only used my words, and I did so out of a sincere desire to be honest. You used your fists, and did so out of a sincere desire to beat the shit out of your girlfriend.


ok i have had about enough of this internet spamming crap k
you are being disrespectful to my boyfriend and your advice is not of any use or helpfulness so please stop- commenting..

mods please lock

[StoppingTime]

What has gone on in this thread is unacceptable. Not because people are stating their opinions -- that is perfectly fine, and I commend those who did this in a respectful manor.

What is unacceptable here are the members that think they can dictate what "good" advice is, and then bash others because they don't agree. If you don't like what someone says, be mature and ignore them. Don't start bashing and flaming them, you'll only end up with warnings or infractions.
There has been no "internet spamming crap" by the member you quoted, Kenzie. Rather, you don't agree with him, so you therefore think he's "bullying" you. But in reality, I think you're just not willing to listen to what he says, because it would mean big changes for you.

Any of you, PM me with further concern -- this is over. :locked: