Girls, is it bad?

[Tony070]

Hello. I've been reading a little and I have a question. I had a girlfriend and i told her i masturbated (she found some sperm in my room), and a few days later she cut the relation.
Do you think is nasty that a boy masturbate thinking in his girlfriend? Am i weird for doing that?

[ackmedsgirl666]

no its perfectly normal
my boyfriend does it often... if she dumped you just for that then im sorry but you deserve better... keep doing what your doing theres nothing wrong with it

[Lost in the Echo]

no its perfectly normal
my boyfriend does it often... if she dumped you just for that then im sorry but you deserve better... keep doing what your doing theres nothing wrong with it

Yeah, I agree ^^^

Dumping you for jerking off is really stupid, just about everyone who is going through puberty does that because the raging hormones brought on by puberty causes you to be horny, she should be more understanding.

You can do better than her, she really didn't love you if she dumped you over something like this.

[Taryn98]

Totally normal. I would actually think it strange and be more concerned if he didn't masturbate.

[Bri-Bri]

seems compleatly normal to me!
shes just crazy! that was really a pointless reason to end the relationship!

[xMr.CoolGuyx]

Sooo normal.
I don't see why ANYONE would have a problem with that. Stupid, you deserve better.

[Heavyrain4life]

It's absolutely normal, but I can see why she broke off the relationship. The though of some guy pleasuring himself to her... It's generally an awkward affair when it's brought into the light, as it's typically a private thing, supposed to be done in secret. If she got mad that you were honest with her... Well, she's not right for you. Maybe she could find an asexual guy. That might fix that problem.

[Heike16]

Absolute over reacting!!! It is ok to masturbate...even in a relation!

[Tony070]

Absolute over reacting!!! It is ok to masturbate...even in a relation!

Wow thanks. Its interesting reading a girl saying this it turns me on a little. The other guy said that it might wasn't a good idea in telling her what i did in my mind with her pictures?

[Mortal Coil]

Maybe she was only weirded out by the fact that you didn't properly clean up afterwards, I mean she did find sperm in your room. Or maybe she assumed you jack off thinking of someone else and didn't like that. Whatever the case, you'll find someone else and it's not a big deal. I'm sorry she left.

[woozie]

When my ex found out, I had to promise I'd let her watch every now and then...find a girl like that and you'll be safe ;)

[stoneflowe96]

Very normal. Your ex-girlfriend was a bit strange

[Gymgirl]

No that's normal I do it when thinking of my bf. and if I'm masturabtng with my sister and brother I think of them

[Tony070]

No that's normal I do it when thinking of my bf. and if I'm masturabtng with my sister and brother I think of them

Really? I'd love to have a sister like you. Or a friend. Can we be friends :D

Very normal. Your ex-girlfriend was a bit strange

Well thank you. I wish i had more friends like yourself. You sound openminded

When my ex found out, I had to promise I'd let her watch every now and then...find a girl like that and you'll be safe ;)

There seem to be a lot of girls like that in this forum. And how did she found out what you did?

Maybe she was only weirded out by the fact that you didn't properly clean up afterwards, I mean she did find sperm in your room. Or maybe she assumed you jack off thinking of someone else and didn't like that. Whatever the case, you'll find someone else and it's not a big deal. I'm sorry she left.

I do clean up. I guess I fail in one of those. But do you think is an excuse to dump me? :-( well i guess she was a little different.

It's absolutely normal, but I can see why she broke off the relationship. The though of some guy pleasuring himself to her... It's generally an awkward affair when it's brought into the light, as it's typically a private thing, supposed to be done in secret. If she got mad that you were honest with her... Well, she's not right for you. Maybe she could find an asexual guy. That might fix that problem.

Ha ha. I guess I'm too sexual for her then. Once I asked if she wanted a picture of me without anything but she didn't say anything... And I sent it. That was a little bit before i told her the other thing... Maybe she didn't like it either :S

seems compleatly normal to me!
shes just crazy! that was really a pointless reason to end the relationship!

Yeah :s . You are so free in your mind and body. If there anything you don't like or ir there somethig that you think is bad?



please use the "multi quote" button instead of individual posts. -StoppingTime.

[Emerald Dream]

It seems like it would be a normal thing to me (at least I hope so :lol: ). If she broke up with you for that reason she was probably looking for an excuse to do it anyways.

[Tony070]

Totally normal. I would actually think it strange and be more concerned if he didn't masturbate.

So you don't care that your boyfriend masturbates thinking in you?

[Tony070]

Yeah, I agree ^^^

Dumping you for jerking off is really stupid, just about everyone who is going through puberty does that because the raging hormones brought on by puberty causes you to be horny, she should be more understanding.

You can do better than her, she really didn't love you if she dumped you over something like this.

Yes, and the thing is that is hard not to get horny to a girl, they're so wonderful and marvelous. I've seen some of the girls here and wow... they well... to be honest.. they turn me on.. :$ ...

[Tony070]

no its perfectly normal
my boyfriend does it often... if she dumped you just for that then im sorry but you deserve better... keep doing what your doing theres nothing wrong with it

Well thank you, comming from a girl, it feels wonderful. So do must girls do that alot or you think is bad to do it to many times?

[Tony070]

It seems like it would be a normal thing to me (at least I hope so :lol: ). If she broke up with you for that reason she was probably looking for an excuse to do it anyways.

Ouch, I hope that's not the reason, or i will feel i am horrible. :S
Do you mstb a lot?

[Emerald Dream]

Ouch, I hope that's not the reason, or i will feel i am horrible. :S
Do you mstb a lot?

I don't think you are horrible, and I apologize if my comment seemed a bit harsh. My point was simply that masturbation is NOT a legit reason to end a relationship - especially if you let her know she was the inspiration.

[Human]

1000% normal she doesn't deserve you if she thinks that...

[Tony070]

I don't think you are horrible, and I apologize if my comment seemed a bit harsh. My point was simply that masturbation is NOT a legit reason to end a relationship - especially if you let her know she was the inspiration.

Hahah, don't worry, I didn't say you made me feel bad, but the thing is, WHY don't you live close to me so we could be boyfriends :D . You girls around this forum are so free, that's just great. Do you like the feeling of being inspiration for someone?

[Tony070]

1000% normal she doesn't deserve you if she thinks that...

Man, thank you. I need a girl that like's to do those kind of things, who likes me...

NOw, is it bad to have more girlfriends? I mean, I've heard other boys having to girls at the same time or stuff like that? I don't think girls like that... do they?

[Tony070]

That depends how close I am with someone. It can be very flattering, or pretty creepy :lol:

Then if it was me it would be creepy because you don't know me or... It could be flattering?

[anyone50]

Sounds like there is more to this story than you posted unless your girlfriend was like 1 or something. sure she didn't catch you masturbating to pictures of her best friend or something like that

[Tony070]

Sounds like there is more to this story than you posted unless your girlfriend was like 1 or something. sure she didn't catch you masturbating to pictures of her best friend or something like that

No. I liked her, but she didn't like me masturbating to her. So i was thinking that it's bad to do that.

[ana1og]

no its perfectly normal
my boyfriend does it often... if she dumped you just for that then im sorry but you deserve better... keep doing what your doing theres nothing wrong with it

Completely agree. It's normal. Healthy. And if I were her I would be flattered.

[Gymrat17]

Normal and if she dumped you for that, you are better off without her.

[Tony070]

Normal and if she dumped you for that, you are better off without her.

Well. If that's so then I guess I'm ok. But now I feel kind of lonely... It felt great to have a girl on your side, girls company is just wonderful, but well I guess if you say that masturbating is not bad... I will keep doing it... but.... I don't really understand why she did it... I hope my next girlfriend don't do it :S



Completely agree. It's normal. Healthy. And if I were her I would be flattered.

I like you. :wub: :P Do your boyfriend do it? And you don't think is bad at all that he masturbates thinking on you...? Is not bad right, I mean... you like the idea of being center in a Fantasy... ? Anyone's Fantasy, or only people you know?
Am i confusing?

[darkie]

Man, thank you. I need a girl that like's to do those kind of things, who likes me...

NOw, is it bad to have more girlfriends? I mean, I've heard other boys having to girls at the same time or stuff like that? I don't think girls like that... do they?

Well, that would be a reason for a girl to dump you. For me, having two girlfriends is a big no no.

I think that it's a given that guys at this age are pretty horny all the time, and it's also a given that girlfriends are, at least, rather attractive. That would eventually lead to guys masturbating to some fantasies with their girl. I think that it's a better outlet for you to release that sexual tension about girls than actually acting upon it. However, I can see where she may be coming from, because if someone told me that they get off on pictures of me, that would make me feel quite uncomfortable.

I think it's quite funny. Masturbating seems to be like this open yet unspoken secret among guys. Everyone knows that most, if not all guys do it, but people don't go around and talk about this in public, and it's not very often that there's a right time to be talking about that private thing you have with yourself.

Which leads to my point. Girls/girlfriends can have an implicit assumption that their boyfriends have a pretty good chance of getting off to their photos, but saying/discovering it straight to her face might be quite awkward. Some girls might find it sexy or something, but others don't. For me it's quite an overreaction, surely she could've at least warned you or talked to you that she isn't comfortable discussing your jerking habits with her?

[Tony070]

Well. So it ir bad to tell a girl a do it to her pictures? I mean, is better to keep it as a secret? Then girls don't really like to know this things?

[StoneColdNicky]

(she found some sperm in my room)

This is the part I find odd. How would she find it? Were you doing it while she was over? Storing it up somewhere for using later? I don't really get what you mean.

[Tony070]

This is the part I find odd. How would she find it? Were you doing it while she was over? Storing it up somewhere for using later? I don't really get what you mean.

The thing is that i just had masturbated and i used a sock, then i heard my mom was letting her in, so i acted a little fast, i didn't know she was coming so i put the sock in plain view (ups :s). So after a little while that we were talking she found it and asked me what was the white sticky stuff, maybe i was a little too honest

[darkie]

Well. So it ir bad to tell a girl a do it to her pictures? I mean, is better to keep it as a secret? Then girls don't really like to know this things?

For me it's kind of better to keep it as a secret, but then like what I said, it's pretty much a given that guys this age do that, however it's pretty awkward and weird when you personally tell/mention to her about that.

[Elysium]

I don't think it's a problem that boys masturbate in general, but if the nature of the relationship isn't sexual, then it can be unsettling to be sexualized. If you're going to do it, I suggest not telling.

[Tony070]

I don't think it's a problem that boys masturbate in general, but if the nature of the relationship isn't sexual, then it can be unsettling to be sexualized. If you're going to do it, I suggest not telling.

Ok... Thank you. But tell me, if you had a boyfriend or if you do, what would you do if you find out that he masturbates, either if he tells you or if you find out on your own.

[Elysium]

Ok... Thank you. But tell me, if you had a boyfriend or if you do, what would you do if you find out that he masturbates, either if he tells you or if you find out on your own.
I assume every boy masturbates, so I wouldn't have a reaction. I've never had a boyfriend, but I have guy friends that masturbate. It's completely natural. I imagine that the only unsettling part is learning that your boyfriend sexualizes you when you've never done anything sexual together and weren't intending to or talking about it.

[Tony070]

I assume every boy masturbates, so I wouldn't have a reaction. I've never had a boyfriend, but I have guy friends that masturbate. It's completely natural. I imagine that the only unsettling part is learning that your boyfriend sexualizes you when you've never done anything sexual together and weren't intending to or talking about it.

Well ok. I learned, not to tell my next girlfriend and to be careful with the room door ha ha

[Josie95]

I don't think it's weird. I expect it.

[Lock]

She broke with u 4 another reason not the mastubating,a reason deosn't want you to know

[heyChelsea]

my question is, just how exactly did she find "sperm" in your room?

[Tony070]

my question is, just how exactly did she find "sperm" in your room?

I said this before. I was masturbating in my room and she came to visit. My mom let her in and i didn't had time to hide it well. So i used a sock, which she found.

[Cassygurl13]

Its weird she thought it was bad - i'd be flattered!

[Tony070]

I don't think it's weird. I expect it.

Ha ha thank you. I hope to know more from you. I guess you don't care that a friend of yours masturbates?

[Josie95]

Ha ha thank you. I hope to know more from you. I guess you don't care that a friend of yours masturbates?
Boys jerk off. It's not exactly frontpage news lol. I'd rather my bf was f-ing his own hand and not another girl. I can live with that.

[ItsChelsea]

My ex bf mbated thinking of me and I thought it was hot, and flattering.

[anyone50]

Thats kinda weird that your gf would check to see if your sock had been used to jerk off into but i agree with the view she broke up with you for reasons she didn't want to disclose. unless she's jelouse of your hand. Maybe if you explained to her you were thinking of her while you jerked off

[Christine.]

I wouldnt break up with someone bc of that.But why did you have sperm in your room?