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Inzanethingy
November 27th, 2012, 11:42 PM
So Ive known this girl for a while now ( since 7th grade now we are in 10th). I talked about her in the first thread I started and how I started thinking she wanted me to be her boyfriend. Well After that we became even better friends and a lot of people noticed we were talking a lot and hanging out and told me I shoud go out with her. Later at a track fundraiser she helped around and we basically worked together with everything and somebody there told me I should ask her out and this conviced me to actually do it so 2 days latter( the sunday of thanksgiving week) we let our dogs play at the park and I asked her out. I told her I was intrieged by her beauty, humor, intelligance,smile, personality and then asked her out. She said no because her Parents said she is to young to date. She said it like it wasnt a big deal. We left talked to her like it didnt happen. I then texted her the next day and when I brought up about that she stoped. I didnt talk to her untill the day back from break and it was weird. Our conversation wasnt like our previous conversations in the past. It was weird and strange with no tone to our conversation. When we were walking to class(we have the same class that period) i was walking with her and her friend. She stoped to whisper something to her friend and she told me to go along. I dont know what she told her but I think she told her I asked her out. Now I havent talked to her and she doesnt stop to talk to me after school when were training for track and field. I really do like her she is perfect. What do I do to get to talk to her again? I really miss her already? Advice would be awesome. I do not want to lose her :(

FreeFall
November 28th, 2012, 12:30 AM
She said no and gave you a reason, why'd you feel the need to bring it up? Pushing the issue probably made her feel awkward. So here's what I'm thinking.

She's either consulting her friend on whetere she should give you a chance. Or wait until she's old enough.

or

She's venting about how she's worried that things have changed and you're going to keep trying to be her boyfriend, pushing to date, and how she thinks letting you go so you get over her would be good.

It's possible she doesn't feel the same. She saw you as one of the girls or herself as one of the guys as they say.

Give it some time. Drop contact for a few days, and then try again. If she contacts you when you're on the down low, respond. Go from there if that is to happen. She may want some space away to think and sort things out in her mind. A bit of space for you wouldn't hurt eiher, you need some you time (:
Once the couple of days have passed, try to greet her the way you usually would have. No flirty intentions, no "I still like you" hint, none of that. Just be the friend you were. I'm not sure if you should just give up your feelings at this point in time, since I'm having trouble reading her from what you have posted. But maybe just be her friend and not the guy that has a crush on her and is friendzoned at the moment.

Inzanethingy
November 28th, 2012, 12:52 AM
Yea I will keep out of touch but it will be hard because of track and we have a same class. I really dont know why I brought it up. I really do like and I cant think of a day within the past year I have not thought of her. If you want to know more FreeFall feel free to ask or look at my first thread.

FreeFall
November 28th, 2012, 12:58 AM
I'm not saying ignore her or give her the cold shoulder. Just take yourself some personal time and resume in a few days. 1 or 3 days shouldn't affect things too much (:

Inzanethingy
November 28th, 2012, 01:55 AM
Thank you again. This means a lot to me

CharlieFinley
November 28th, 2012, 01:01 PM
I do not want to lose her :(

Too late, I'm afraid. I know that's a bitter pill, but I wouldn't say you've really got a future together. On the other hand, if she couldn't at least be honest with you, she's not perfect after all.