im confused

[big guy]

ok. I AM CONFUSED! Although i know that I'm not gay, I always get hard or aroused when ever I see guys' stuff, but when i see a girls boobs, although i get aroused, I dont get hard from it. plus, i want to be with a grl and have thought about having sex and making out, that sort of thing, but have also thought about having anal sex or oral to, but not making out with a guy. i know im not bi, cuz i look at girls in magazines and stuff like that, and i get aroused, but it's a lot more intense when i see a guy portryaded in the same way. Can someone please, PLEASE EXPLAIN THIS TO ME. I would really appriciate it.

[RaisingSand]

It is possible you could be bi-curious, which means you want to experience sexual activites with another guy, but not the physical AND emotional relationship you'd want with a girl.
In my opinion, fourteen is too young to determine your sexuality, because the hormones are still going crazy from the changes of puberty, I'd say wait a few years, take some time to sort out and determine how you feel before giving yourself a label of straight/bi.

[Gumleaf]

It is possible you could be bi-curious, which means you want to experience sexual activites with another guy, but not the physical AND emotional relationship you'd want with a girl.
In my opinion, fourteen is too young to determine your sexuality, because the hormones are still going crazy from the changes of puberty, I'd say wait a few years, take some time to sort out and determine how you feel before giving yourself a label of straight/bi.

exactly as angie has said. if you still feel those same feelings in your early 20's, then you may be gay or bi. most likely you are just curious and that is complely normal.

[Atonement]

I feel the same way, and I believe that our age is too young and people just need to wait out and let your hormones chill. I knew a friend that came out, and turned out not being gay, and he made a huge mistake because he overreacted to wait society tells us is gay. The only person that can determine you are gay is you.

[Maverick]

Boys Puberty :arrow: Teen Sexuality.

[grimlip]

Honestly you could be gay, straight, bi. It's to early for you to determine one or the other. Your hormones are freaking out right now so don't worry.

[Underground_Network]

I'm the same age as you, and have most of the same thoughts/feelings, except I don't get hard around guys, and I do get hard around girls. But yeah, I fantasize about both sexes, more often girls, and I fantasize about the same things you do, making out, vaginal sex, anal sex, and oral sex. But occasionally I'll fantasize about a guy giving me oral, or me giving a guy oral, but I've never fantasized about giving a guy anal or receiving anal, and although I know its too early for me to decide my sexuality, I know for a fact that I'm not emotionally attracted to guys, and to me it seems I'm not very physically attracted to guys either; I also know for a fact that I am emotionally and physically attracted to girls, so for now I'm leaning towards being about 80-90% straight, but then again, I'm one of the people who believes that there's no such thing as being 100% straight, so who knows. I think its too early for you to know you're sexuality, but you're probably more straight than not, but again, as grimlip said, who knows, you could seriously be gay, bi, straight, or even narcissistic, but again I think you're more straight than anything else.

[jtr41n]

bi-curious is probably the way to describe the way tat you feel at the moment.
That's all. if you feel sexually and emotionally attracted to males
then you may be turning in the homosexual area.
but there's is nothing wrong with that.
ur fine however u r.

[big guy]

im still a little confused though. how come i always get hard when i see a guy's penis, but not when i see a girl's breast?

[byee]

Well, if you must label this, the correct label would probably be just '14'. That's when the hormones are really new and really powerful and mess with your mind. I don't like labels (for many reasons), but largely because they are often inaccurate and negative.

You might get hard looking at penises because penises are sexual. Sexual things are arousing. And with all those hormones coursing thru your body, it's only natural that anything that's sexual will be arousing.

Now, breasts are arousing, too. But the thing is, they're attached to girls. And, that makes them both arousing and scarey at the same time. Anxiety is the best antidote to arousal, so you might not be getting as hard as often looking at breasts because of some of the anxiety.

Because you have more experience with your own penis, and feel mighty comfortable with it, seeing another penis reminds you of this (both the 'fun' part, as well as the accustomed to it part), so when you see another penis, bingo.

It does NOT mean you are gay, curious, curious-bi, or a vegetarian, for that matter. Just fourteen.