Alone?

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I've been having some problems lately. I feel alone. Like I never have anyone to talk to. No family. No friends. Not even a single acquaintance. But, my family & friends problems are very different. Starting off ....

Family

Ok, so recently I've been having family issues. First off is my mom. My mom has become quite an over-bearing pain in my side. It might be because she cares, but she has no idea how annoying it is. And when I try to talk to her, about ANYTHING, she seems to ignore everything I say, and never even take what I say into consideration. For example, once in 5th grade I came to her, crying, because I was being bullied at school. What does she do? She tells me that everybody judges everybody, and to deal with it. She doesn't even try to make me feel better. She might has well told me to man up and stop crying like a bitch.

Second, is my dad. My parents were divorced a long time ago, so I only see him once every 2 weeks. That's not the issue. The issue is that I cannot, and I repeat, CANNOT, talk to him. At all. Like he puts up some giant invisible wall, and I'm too afraid to cross it. I have tried to come to him with similar problems as my mom, but from previous experiences (won't go into detail :rolleyes:) know that he'll just say the same as my mom.

Last, but not least, is my brothers. Now, I've posted another thread about how my brothers make me angry/sad about how much they judge me. And it really gets to me. And we wouldn't be able to talk about it. I couldn't imagine having a serious talk with them, because I can't even trust them with the little things. If I can't trust them with my bag of chips, how can I trust them with my secrets/problems???

"Friends"

Notice how "friends" is in quotation. I don't even consider anyone real "friends" anymore. And all the people I did, I'm starting to distance myself from them. I can't talk to them, can't trust them. If I did, they'd just judge me. Make fun of me. Mock me. I can't even imagine telling my feelings to them. One reason for this is last year. Now, I used to consider my best friend my friend Harold, and my closest friends Aaron and Paul. (Fake names) Until I learned how they really felt about me. I found out that they judged me behind my back, and said things about me (that I don't really want to repeat). I never told them I knew, but I knew from that point that they weren't my friends.

I don't really know what to do for either of these problems. And I can't really talk it out, I've tried in the past. I can't really take much more judgement, and if they knew any more about me, it would be alot worse.

Am I an outsider? Does anyone else feel this way? Or am I really alone :(

[GuillaumeBordeaux]

You aren't alone. Many people are in that we (or they) get stuck with assholes for parents and people who we feel are friends really aren't. Also, yeah....siblings will always be like that, always. All the advice I can give you is choose your friends wisely. As for your parents, I would seek out a school counselor to discuss your problems with as your parents seem emotionally unavailable. :l

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You aren't alone. Many people are in that we (or they) get stuck with assholes for parents and people who we feel are friends really aren't. Also, yeah....siblings will always be like that, always. All the advice I can give you is choose your friends wisely. As for your parents, I would seek out a school counselor to discuss your problems with as your parents seem emotionally unavailable. :l

While I totally appreciate and understand you saying I should see a counselor, at least 1 good friend would probably be better. I'm not depressed, I just need a friend. And most adults aren't my friend. :whoops::whoops:

[GuillaumeBordeaux]

I can't help you there. Finding good quality friends is only something you can do. :l

[FergusDunn]

The friends thing you never told them you knew - how do you know it was even true or just as you heard - maybe just maybe you have lost friends cos you believed some one else

I know every family is different but maybe you could work on how you feel your Dad is
you feel this wall - hey does he

[IAMWILL]

Well, I can certainly tell you that its not going to get any better if you try and hide from the pain this problem is causing you. The only way for this to be fixed is if you face your fears and not be afraid to try and meet new people. I understand you feel like you cannot trust anyone, that is because you have been betrayed in the past. Sometimes to understand why you are treated the way you are you have to put yourself in the bully's shoes. The only reason people bully is because they were or are bullied themselves. Know that no matter how much they hurt you, they are being hurt just as much by someone or something else. Your parents are divorced and are trying to raise a kid together, my parents are the same and believe me they get stressed out. There is so much behind the scenes stuff you don't realize at 13 that goes on, you just have to remember that your parents love you and would do anything for you, even if it doesn't seem like it. You just need to sit them down and be honest with them about how you feel, and they will listen, because you are their number 1 care in the world.

[StoppingTime]

I merged the answers you received in the P101 thread here. Please don't intentionally misplace threads so more people will see them, and, don't make duplicate threads.

[Felimenta97]

I think my situation isn't as bad as yours, but I think I can say something:

If you don't trust your friends, and they don't trust, move out. I mean, you (just like most of us) is a teen, so wait until the high school end, get a good grade and go to the other side of the country, or even another one.

My family isn't like yours, and I do have some good friends I trust, but I'm sick and tired of this city, this state, this country. I plan on finding a way to move away. I'm promising myself to only keep contact with a few friends, and remove the rest once for all.

I wish you good luck :)