what should I do...

[ackmedsgirl666]

so i just found out the other day that my boyfriend and my bestfriend have feelings for eachother. and i am a little worried now.... my boyfriend developed feelings for my bestfriend shortly after having sex with him... even though my boyfriend says he regrets the sex and it made him feel dirty.. i am worried theyre feelings might go further because this weekend were all supposed to get drunk and i k now that if anything goes down even if it involves me i will feel guilty.. what should i do.. should i let it happen.... my boyfriend has mixed feelings towards me.. he says he loves me and would never leave me but my friend apparently gives better blowjobs and gives better sex than me...

im so confused :$

[FreeFall]

Wait. What? Did you guys not break up?

What are you doing? Better yet, what is it you even think you're doing?

Bah. Well, I give up. You two cannot work together. You alone, cannot work by yourself and you cannot work with whomever it is you're dating. You're going to go in circles, you'll keep doing so until one day it just stops.

Let your boyfriend sleep with him. It makes him happy. He doesn't know how he feels about you and apparantly, you're either now poly or you're checked out and are clinging to him so much that you don't care who it is he's hurting, even if it's himself.

Stop your boyfriend. Finally, FINALLY, work on your relationship. Finally work as a team. Finally put effort into each other. Finally be committed to each other. Finally be secure to each other and safe with each other and transparent to each other.

Or let him sleep with whomever. Find out you get an STI. Take some medications for that. Find out somehow one of you managed to get HPV and both have it. Go thrugh the motions for that. Drop whatever relationship and responsibility you two have to each other, just throw your hands up in the air and let yourselves run free. Call each other boyfriend and girlfriend but always be confused about your feelings, and security, and emotional attachement. No work involved, just be free without any sort of relationship responsibility.

Or fight for what you as a girlfriend are entitled to, what your relationship is entitled to. Smack yourselves upside the head and figure out how you two work as a team, together, and how this relationship is alive or say "damn we're pretty dysfunctional" and walk away to better yourselves and find thos that better you.

In the end, what you say does not matter. He doesn't know how he feels with you. He knows how he feels about your best friend. He knows how it feels with your best friend. But with you, he has no idea. No stability, no security. He'll find where his wind will take him. I wouldn't be surprised if the question of a threesome comes up.

Hope your life works out well for you, and you find what it is you need.

[CharlieFinley]

For anyone interested in contributing who doesn't speak Middle Schooler, here's a translation:

so i just found out the other day that my boyfriend and my bestfriend have feelings for eachother. and i am a little worried now....
I recently discovered that my best friend and my boyfriend have feelings for each other, and this worries me.

my boyfriend developed feelings for my bestfriend shortly after having sex with him... even though my boyfriend says he regrets the sex and it made him feel dirty..
My boyfriend developed feelings for my best friend shortly after they had sex, but he says he regrets cheating on me and that it made him feel dirty.

i am worried theyre feelings might go further because this weekend were all supposed to get drunk and i k now that if anything goes down even if it involves me i will feel guilty..
I am worried their feelings might go further [than having oral and penetrative sex] because this weekend we plan to get drunk. I know that if they have sex, even if it involves me, I will feel guilty.

what should i do.. should i let it happen.... my boyfriend has mixed feelings towards me.. he says he loves me and would never leave me but my friend apparently gives better blowjobs and gives better sex than me...
What should I do? Should I allow [my boyfriend sleeping with my best friend] to happen? My boyfriend apparently has mixed feelings towards me. He says he love me and would never leave me but has either strongly implied or directly stated that my best friend is more sexually satisfying than I am.

Dump his loser ass. Next question.