Cousin touching me..

[Peter11]

My cousin stayed over two nights ago and he slept in my room. In th middle of the night I randomly woke up and I suddenly felt a hand on my stomach. My cousin was touching me thinking I was asleep. I did not know what to say so I pretended to still be asleep when he suddenly slid his hand down my basketball shorts and underwear. He started massaging my crotch and it got hard. I dudnt want him to know i was awake so i pretended to be asleep. Should I say something to him about it? Why did he do it?

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Talk to him about it, and express your feelings ...

[giles2603]

Maybe he wanted to experiment but he's to scared to ask. Or just wants to have some fun.

[DerBear]

I'd personally think you should talk to him. I mean it isn't really right (in my moral opinion) for someone to do that to someone while they are asleep. I mean even if they are curious they still should know not to touch someone in their sleep, its an invasion of privacy and trust.

However since you knew it was going on and you could have stopped it if you really wanted to then I don't think you are bothered by the whole event. Its up to you really, talk to him if you want but you didn't seem so prepared to jump up and defend yourself when he was doing these things to you.

[Cicero]

Maybe he wanted to experiment but he's to scared to ask. Or just wants to have some fun.

You make it sound like it's perfectly normal and alright. Which its not.

To OP:

I think you should either talk to him or your parents. He probably was curious, but you should definitely mention it. But don't make him feel awkward or bad. Just bring it up and express how you feel. Now, if you too want to experiment or anything, this is a perfect time to make the move. You can say whatever you want to say, but be sure to bring up the incident. Then say something like "I didn't appreciate you doing that while I was asleep. If you were that curious you could've asked and seen what I said". Experimenting has to have the consent of both parties, not just one, but both. If you aren't like most people here who want to experiment, and if you feel you were molested. Tell your parents immediately.

[giles2603]

I wasn't saying it was alright, but like you also said, he may be curious like every other teenage boy, so may of wanted to experiment. Maybe he just didn't know what to say.

[appel1234]

did u like it cause you make it sound that it was unexpected but that u lett it still happen like u might have liked it. i think that u should not say anything to him and if u like it do what ever

[curiousme]

If you felt uncomfortable about it tell him but if u liked it and u were ok with it just leave it alone

[The Mechanan]

Definitely should talk to him. Only he can tell you why he did it. It's obviously something he will never initiate if he did this to you in your sleep. Whether you wish to continue with it is for you and him to decide. But he needs to be put in his place. That is an invasion of personal space. So just pull him in private and tell him what you know.

[jbm1776]

Wow. You should definately talk to him, especially if you didn't want him to touch you in your sleep. If it were me, I would be kinda weirded out. If you liked him touching you, then don't say anything. But be careful when bringing these things up with family members, especially close ones.

[nachodragon5]

Honestly, i think you should really ask your cousin why he did that when you two are alone and if he tells you its best not to talk about it again. If you liked it, its really up to you to decide what to do

[drummerboi987]

If you are interested, ask your cousin if he wants to experiment.. you sounded like you enjoyed it so why not go a little bit farther and see what happens?

[PrimedPenguin]

In my personal opinion is that you should talk to him. I'm not sure how you felt about it nor does it matter but this should not go without talking to to him and expressing your feelings on the situation.

[sdude]

You must talk to him...he might try this with someone else that could get him in BIG trouble with the law or perhaps beat up by someone not as caring...He needs to understand that this is sexual assault. You may have allowed it, but it doesn't make it right.

[alexkun]

well, first of all.. you have to be honest with yourself. did you like it?.... if you did talk to him about it and tell him you liked it and what to do it again and do new stuff.. or if you didnt.. just tell him not to do it again and thats it..

.. it doesn't have to scale up to his parents.. you can handle it between you two..

[Luke91]

The reason is pretty obvious. He was curious and wanted to experiment and did not know how to ask. Whether you talk to him is up to you. By not stopping him that night you must of been enjoying what he was doing.

[Oukakystan95]

I would most definatly bring it up ... but in a privet place just you and him

[Lost in the Echo]

Well, if you liked it, then I don't really see the need to tell him.
If it made you uncomfortable, then you should tell him how you feel.

Just do whatever you think is best :)

[devyn704]

lol wish i was u but ya talk to him see why he didnt just say lets masturbate togeter or something

[trystan10]

Talk to him both ways. You liked iit you guys can keep going without pretending and if you didnt tell him and he will have to respect you

[Syler]

I would let it go if it was just once

[ULeon]

His reason i do not know, but you should deffenatly find out what it was. Talk to him tell him how this made you feel and make sure that you are both in the same page... feel free to message me something like this has happened to me before, so i think i could help you out

[Steve Hala]

I would talk to him cause what he did was wrong...

[Scottydog]

If you want to talk to him about it, do! He might want you too

[klhohman16]

you should to talk to him about it and express to him on how you feel. he probably just waned to experiment and is to afraid to say anything about it to you.

[joeyboy24]

if you feel uncomfortable about it then tell your parents if you dont then just let it go

[acurasrock]

What he did was wrong, it's not right to touch someone while they are sleeping. I would talk to him privately about it and see why he did it and what his intentions were. Once you clear things up, you can decide if you want to experiment while awake. It's up to you, I'd not mess around with a cousin though, personally.

[PetrusRomanus]

I think he got very horny that moment. It will be awkward for him if you will tell him.

[Throwaway24]

I would talk to him about it and ask him y. Be prepared for him to ask to experiment and try and let him down easy unless u do things with him. He sounds like a nice guy who just needs to get it out his system. If u want you could always send him to me :P

[Lost in the Echo]

I would talk to him about it and ask him y. Be prepared for him to ask to experiment and try and let him down easy unless u do things with him. He sounds like a nice guy who just needs to get it out his system. If u want you could always send him to me :P

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