Should I?

[QueenOfTheOutcasts]

Hey, I was just wondering, should I come out to my parents?
I know a lot of people think others should come out, but I've heard that it can lead to the worse.
My parents aren't homophobics or anything, but I don't have the slightest idea if I should tell them.
I still want to be their daughter.
If I should, how?

[Noirtier]

Hey, I was just wondering, should I come out to my parents?
I know a lot of people think others should come out, but I've heard that it can lead to the worse.
My parents aren't homophobics or anything, but I don't have the slightest idea if I should tell them.
I still want to be their daughter.
If I should, how?

Should you? Well that's a decision that no one can make but yourself. You know when you're ready, and when that time comes is when you should do it. Don't let anyone tell you to come out if you're not ready to yet. Also don't let anyone tell you not to come out if you are ready. It's not something we can tell you to do or not to do. My personal opinion? You said your parents aren't homophobic or anything like that, so if you feel like you should tell them--which you should eventually, but only when you are ready--then tell them. If you don't feel you're ready to, then there's no need to rush things as they are right now. I'm sure if you did tell them they would still love you and you would still be their daughter, but the choice is totally yours and all dependent upon how you feel. If you do choose to tell them, I would tell them that you want to talk to them both about something one evening, when you know there's not much else going on. Then you all can sit down, and you can tell them. But you make sure that you're ready when you do it. We're all here to help and support you hun!

[Voodoo]

Well.... What Noirtier said.. Only you can decide if you want to come out to them. Remember you are their child; gay, bisexual, lesbian etc. you are their child, thru will love you no matter what.

Noirtier you jerk.. You didn't leave room for others to post..

[teen.jpg]

Not really... you would already know then. You dont have to, unless you feel the need to...

[aldabanana]

Same here, I don't fully know your situation but all those feeling might just be the crazy hormones teens face during puberty, so you might grow out of those feelings maybe?

[Ryhanna]

That's really not something that we can answer for you. If you feel like you're ready to come out, then you can. You don't need to feel pressured to do it if you don't really want to, though. It's all up to you.

[DerBear]

I have two pieces of advice here.

First of all, if you think your parents aren't going to re-act badly then I say go for it. I think it would be good to get this off your chest.

Here;s my second piece of advice. Do you want to come out now? and do you think it is necessary to come out now?

Many Teens say that they want to come out but fear their parents won't accept them but many come out and regret it and can't cope because they don't have the physical and emotional support. So do you intend to bring home a Girlfriend or something? Do you need to come out now? you have to answer this and be sure its the correct answer.

I am not wanting to bring you down. I just think you need to think all of these things through.

My personal opinion would be though, to go for it and hopefully all things will go well. I think by the way you describe it that your parents are very accepting people. So good luck and I hope everything stays positive for you.

[dontfiguremeout]

Why wouldn't you be their daughter anymore? I think parents at first are kinda broken a little and don't know how to react when their kid says their gay. So in the beginning they aren't happy really, and I don't think at you they aren't, they aren't happy because they weren't expecting to have a gay child. But parents shouldn't be not happy, instead they need to support their child 100% of the way, so their child can feel secure about who they are! And honestly I don't think that is worse than telling your parents your pregnant. Now they don't have to worry about their teen girl getting pregnant at 16.

[RCT109]

personally I am not coming out for a while to my mom
but if you feel you are ready and think they can handle it then go ahead if not then dont