Bringing up a past traumatic event

[Gaunt965]

Well, I just got done talking to my Girlfriend, she is the sweetest, most beautiful girl, but the more I talk to her, the more I feel she's hiding something. Almost every time any sort of gun or talking about a shooting event, she seems to get really uncomfortable and she hints at some past event that she won't talk about. I'm concerned about this, especially since she has depression, I just don't know how to talk about it without upsetting Ashley.

[Noirtier]

Alright, I know you're concerned about her, but do NOT try and make her or trick her or manipulate her into telling you something that she very clearly isn't ready to and isn't comfortable talking about. I mean, you don't know for sure that such an event even happened, and a lot of people get uncomfortable talking about guns and shootings, especially if they had someone they knew die in one. If an event like that did happen, then you just have to give her time. Eventually, when she's ready, she will tell you about what happened. Until then, you just have to wait. I know you don't want to, but it's really the best thing, I think, to do.

[Gaunt965]

Alright, I guess I'll just have to be patient with her, I've just known her for so long it bugs me that I haven't noticed this earlier..

[West Coast Sheriff]

If she doesn't want to talk about it then don't make her, understand her feelings that she doesn't want to bring it up. :D

[squibles976]

I know exactly how you feel, a girl I dated for awhile was the sweetest girl I ever knew but we had a falling out then a few months later when we started dating again it felt like she was hiding something, well after another month of two of a rough patch caused by her evasiveness she told me, and all ill say is sometimes what you want to know will HURT, I STILL have strong feelings of anger sadness guilt and pity