Paranoid

[Discomposure]

I don't get it. One minute i'm absolutely fine, next everything is doom and gloom and I go back to my miserable self!
Things have been okay the past few months, up until now.
I'm not sleeping right and i'm not eating right.
All I do is wonder what she is doing when i'm not with her (my girlfriend)
I don't see any of my friends because I know i'd be no good company, i'd be too busy sat wondering who my girlfriend is with, or what she's doing.
I do have reasons not to trust, and we're trying to work with that. It's just so hard, how do you learn to trust someone again? How can you believe someone when they've lied many times before. I want to, I really do but it's too hard. I can't be without her, and I can't trust her it's ridiculous.

But it's not just her who i'm constantly wondering about. It's everyone, I make up things in my head what people are thinking of me it's so stupid but I do it.
At night I think someone is out to get me, someone is coming. I realise they aren't but when I'm thinking that it feels so real.
I feel overwhelmed by constantly worrying about whats going to happen to people I love and care about. I hate it.
I have this fear of people dying who I love and it's like every day I assume they're going to die. It sounds so daft, and this post doesn't make much sense but I just need to get it out so go away if you do not wish to read this.
But yeah, be nice if someone could reply? Or maybe not... whatever.

[Wambambam]

Have you ever tried taking a breather and just relaxing a bit?
If you've tried that and that hasn't worked and this is a consistent problem with different peers I would advise you speak to a therapist could be suffering some averse type of paranoia..

[Gandalf]

Have you ever tried taking a breather and just relaxing a bit?
If you've tried that and that hasn't worked and this is a consistent problem with different peers I would advise you speak to a therapist could be suffering some averse type of paranoia..

"just relax a bit" is very unhelpful, as somebody who has been in these positions it's the worse thing to hear. It's impossible to 'relax a bit' because tension is often an uncontrollable side effect of mental health issues of any severity.


back to the OP, is it possible your worry for your girlfriend is perhaps worsened by these feelings? I know there are others best equipped to advise you but I'm guessing most will say if you need to just be honest and speak to a professional doctor.

I do think being open and honest to somebody you do trust would help.
Hope I helped :)

[Wambambam]

@Gandalf

We don't know if it's a health issue yet or your normal dosage of paranoia. The OP hasn't validated the sort of information. On another note I was advising a relaxing method. When I feel tensed I just lay in my bed, tune into my Mat Kearney album and fall asleep bahaha. People have different methods of finding tranquility can’t say you don’t have a method unless you’ve tried searching one before.

[Gandalf]

@Gandalf

We don't know if it's a health issue yet or your normal dosage of paranoia. The OP hasn't validated the sort of information. On another note I was advising a relaxing method. When I feel tensed I just lay in my bed, tune into my Mat Kearney album and fall asleep bahaha. People have different methods of finding tranquility can’t say you don’t have a method unless you’ve tried searching one before.

Just to clarify for everybody's beneift, I didn't mean to imply the OP had a disorder, nor that anything that would relax them would be a bad thing. However I did mean that when a person is having intense feelings such as the OP stated, that it may feel annoying to be told to.


Apologies to the OP, I hope all of this is constructive in helping you :)

[Discomposure]

Thanks for the replies. I get what you're both saying, I think i've just posted in here because i've noticed it more recentely like it's stopped me doing things which I usually would e.g. seeing friends, going out, sleeping...
I don't know, just wanted some views.
Thanks for the replies :)