They Keeps Staring At My Scars

[xXoblivionXx]

I'm not sure if I'm just being paranoid or if he's actually constantly looking at my arms. But since my school social worker told my dad about me cutting he keeps looking at my arms. I can be talking to him and his eyes just run down to my arms and looks at them. No one ever noticed my scars before but now it's all they see. My dad mastered in psychology when he was in college but he still doesn't understand why I did it, why I used to cut. I don't think he will ever understand because it doesn't make sense, creating pain to kill pain but I did it anyway. I just feel like my parents thing that my past defines me.

[Noirtier]

Hun, it's something that I'm sure was utterly shocking to your parents. They would have never expected their young daughter to cut herself. And, when he does that, he may be wondering why. Wondering if it was his fault. Why he didn't realize it sooner. It's an uncomfortable thing for other people, especially for those close to someone. I would recommend that you sit down with your dad and mom and talk to them about it, see if they have any unanswered questions that maybe they never dared to ask before. Tell them that you love them and it wasn't their fault. Alleviate their minds a bit. I know what you're dealing with hun, but you've been doing great lately. You've gone so long without it, and I'm proud of you! We're all here for you hun! :hug:

[Discomposure]

The fact you said, 'why I used to cut' shows me (who doesn't even know you!) that your scars are simply something from your past that you have achieved in gaining control over.
You managed to stop cutting, which can be so difficult.
Maybe your dad just doesn't like the fact that although he works within Psychology, he can't fully understand why you did it.
Only you can, because whether you like it or not at one point it in a way helped you.
You shouldn't feel embarrassed about your scars, try and see them in a more positive way - you managed to stop your self-harming which is absolutely amazing and takes a shit load of willpower and all the scars are doing is showing what you've managed to overcome.

Ignore me if you dislike the reply. Just thought I'd reply..

I would recommend that you sit down with your dad and mom and talk to them about it, see if they have any unanswered questions that maybe they never dared to ask before. :

Aw, and I totally agree with this. Talking can do so much for everyone!

[dingo006]

ive got two scars from knife wounds (one on my belly one on my arm) and they arent that big but sometimes in the summer id cover them with foundation. its easier than to explain them to every person who notices the slashes. I get the desire to cover up because you want to be more than your past.

[squibles976]

Just be happy your face isn't scarred like mine, and quit making dumb choices, and I can see the guy above mes point, ppl always ask about my scars, but they can't be covered up

[West Coast Sheriff]

I'm sorry that they are that way and I'm sorry because I really don't know what advice to give. I just hope everything goes well for you. Oh and one more thing, here's a big giant hug :hug: