How did people react

[Fallen Angels]

*Sorry if this was already made I didn't check*

But, I was wondering how did people react when they found out you hurt yourself? Only 2 people in real life know. I talk to 1 person about it often because she does it to. I've told a bunch of people online... most of them do it to or used to. I've noticed that no one told me to stop. 1 person said "Don't cut yourself -.-" Never mentioned it again. The people who pretend to care forget about it and go on with their lives.

Everyone says that you're hurting those around you when you hurt yourself. No one seems to be hurt by it. It doesn't seem to affect anybody. I guess that's why I tell people and why I started on my wrists. Part of me wants someone to find out... and for them to show that they care that I hurt myself... You know? I wouldn't be offended if someone told me to stop. (if I knew the person well) To me, it would show how much they care.

How did people react to you?

[Desuetude]

First (best friend) I told went "what, suicide?" even though she denies and 'can't remember ever saying that'.
Second (other friend) took it well and went on to tell me her twin self harms.
Third person (youth worker) just asked me if I was keeping them clean and all that crap.
-hell unfolds- parents found out. Mum started crying and spewing out all this bullshit. Went to dads, he asked for the knives, told me not to do it again and it was one of the most awkward, embarrassing and uncomfortable moments of my life.
Most up to date friend I told after she told me she had psychosis and depression, she was the most understanding.

[project_icarus]

My mum went absolutely ape shit. She threatened to call the police and even had 000 on the line at one point.
My dad acted, weird. Not overly friendly but not angry. He would (and still does) talk shit about me and how I'm a little fake bastard to his girlfriend and their friends.
Along with my dad, his girlfriend had the same opinion. Although she just kept making disgusting jokes.
People at school didn't know until the my school counsellor (of the time) decided to release that to the entire motherfucking year group. They all asked weird, fucked up questions...
My friend, who was the only 'real' person that I intended to find out, just kept getting angry at me for not "trying to get help." (Why did he think I was talking to him.)
Online people... Well, there's VTers and most of the people who I've spoken to have been helpful.
Extending on the above, there's other 'online' people that I've told but they were pretty much indifferent to the whole 'thing.'
And then there are the two people I've met in 4H (psych ward), them being in a somewhat similar position... Didn't really have much of a reaction. It didn't surprise anybody, sadden anybody, or have any actual outcome.

[workingatperfect]

Only like 4 people know.
Best friend - she does it too, so we talk about it a lot and is really understanding
Our other good friend - just wants us to stop and is freaked out by it.
Mom- didn't have much to say at all, aside from one or two rude remarks recently.
Guy I was seeing - didn't have much to say other than wanting to know why.
Boyfriend - has been incredibly helpful with me quitting.

[Noirtier]

Everyone says that you're hurting those around you when you hurt yourself. No one seems to be hurt by it. It doesn't seem to affect anybody. I guess that's why I tell people and why I started on my wrists. Part of me wants someone to find out... and for them to show that they care that I hurt myself... You know? I wouldn't be offended if someone told me to stop. (if I knew the person well) To me, it would show how much they care.

How did people react to you?

The first thing I want to say is that continuing to self harm is not a good way to get someone's attention. It only hurts you more and more, and it's something that can be very uncomfortable and that people don't want to give attention to. That all being said, I've struggled with self harm for a while. People on VT that know handled it well--many of them struggle with it as well, and they've all been tremendously supportive.

My best friend- When I told him he said "Oh, Clint..." and didn't really know what to say. But he's been supportive in it regardless, even if he didn't have the right words to say at that moment. It's something that can really catch people off guard. Like,

My teacher- When I told her, she was in a state of shock at first. She said that I was the last person she would have ever expected to self harm, and she had absolutely no idea. In all of it, though, she has been very supportive as well, helping me through it just as my best friend has. And,

Another friend- He found out earlier in the schoolyear, and he's been supportive, but he's brought it up a looooot more than he probably should. It's one thing to be supportive, it's another thing to ask you in front of other people how many days clean you are.

[ReverseFall]

my ex girlfriend- used to do the same thing and was really helpful but now told me it was ok to kill myself, she wouldn't care

her sister- used to be really helpful but drifted away and doesn't talk to me anymore

a girl at school-acted really concerned and wanted me to quit. so i did for a week until i relapsed tonight. Shes never mentioned it since

another girl at school-started out helpful for a few weeks but then told me she couldn't take me talking about cutting anymore so she just ignores it now

a couple of my friends suspect, but they've ignored it

my parents know which i hate because they keep trying to make me talk to our pastor and i really don't like religion but they don't know that so I'm forced into awkward meetings with him and they recently signed me up with a therapist that i don't want


so basically everyone that Ive told has either turned to hate me, ignores what i say, or uses it against me (my parents)

[MisterNobody]

People I've told:

My ex, who always wanted me to quit, cried when she saw my scars, and got mad at me when I relapsed.

My kinda best friend, who didnt make me feel bad about it at all, but offered ways to distract myself.

And few good friends online, who are cool about it.

And a friend (the only person who knows IRL) who also struggles with it.. I only told her so she wouldn't keep doing it :/

When I first started, my mom found out, but that was back in '08. I got caught again a few years ago. I haven't been stupid enough to SH on my arm or wrist since then. Now I cut/scratch primarily on my shoulder.

[Imfeelinglostagain]

I've only told two people. My best friend and this other guy friend. When I told my best friend he was really upset like not angry, but more disappointed. After He found out hes been there for me and checks on me every now and then. We are closer because of it :)

As for my other friend, he really didn't have much of a reaction to it. The topic was kept short (it was over text) and we changed it quickly and we don't mention it alot.

I was going to tell my parents but my mom tends to overreact about things whenit comes to me soI've chickened out of that idea. And hey, if you want to talk I'm here for ya!

[LoveMe_HateMe]

Where to start...

My ex found out, he was kind of indifferent about it, I guess. Freaked out when I relapsed and tried tonight me to quit but...

My ex best friend knows, she tried to support me and I her. But we drifted apart. Her ex fiance knew aswell and bless him - I had a bit of a breakdown when I was at his and decided to go sit outside in the street, it was cold, wet and around this time of year, he came and gave me a duvet and a cuddle and chatted with me. I think he's been one of the most helpful people. It's just a shame that I don't see/talk to him anymore.
Friend who lives down the street supported me, locked me in one of the classrooms until I told him what was wrong, chatted a bit found out he's got loads of scars on his arm - helped knowing that there was someone else going through it.

Other friend - talked about it abit and how she went throughout a couple of years ago - not spoke about it since.

Another friend knows but it was a "I'm here if you want to talk" and then hasn't been mentioned since.

Girlfriend knows, she supports me and knew before we got together so it wasn't much of a problem. She only found out because my ex had told her.

My doctor knows, and my counselor that I went to see... uhm... once...

Lastly my parents. My ex had decided it was a good idea to tell them. My dad cried (only time I've ever seen him cry was at my nans funeral, other than that he's like a stone when it comes to that), they both kinda cornered me and asked me why, what with, where, asked me to stop (and to their knowledge I have), they gave me choices of either doctors, therapist or counselor at college. Since then it's been mentioned a couple of times by my mum. But other than that it's been forgotten about.

Oh and my girlfriends mum knows, although she's never confronted me about it.

And holy shit, there's a lot if people that know, too many :( didn't realise it was going to be this long, sorry!!!!