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TurboDieselBandit
November 23rd, 2012, 05:36 AM
I saved my situation and rambling for the end. I think I'm about to do the unthinkable because its 4:30am and I cant sleep knowing what I read an hour ago.

Read more: http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/one-towns-war-on-gay-teens-20120202#ixzz2D2Mchny0

My Summary
This article basically tells the story of the Anoka-Hennepin school district in Minnesota where there is currently a war on sexuality which has been going on for sometime. Many people accuse the district of "cultivating an extreme anti-gay environment" and argue that they continue to ignore this blaring issue. Within the past two years, 9 students have committed suicide and many are linked to the result of sexuality based bullying. Local evangelicals inspired by congressional representative Michele Bachmann have created much of the lack of sexual toleration and support school events like "Day of Truth" and "No Homo Promo" that build on their "Anti-gay" ideas.

Highlights you should read:
Halfway down the first page, a girl named Sam takes her life.

Halfway down page 2 a 14 year old bisexual boy comes out to his parents and tells you their accepting reaction, especially from the fauther.

Halfway down page 3 the story of the 14 year old boy's mother finding him in his room.

Page 4 continues to show how terrible the "straight" students can be and shows the continual denial of administration responsibility.

Page 5 near the end is a touching story that one student is courageous enough to share with the class.



This has really helped push me to do the unthinkable, to come out to my mom and sisters who I know doesn't support homosexuality; though they are NOTHING like the people in this story. I've had these bisexual feelings for over 8 years and shouldn't have to hold it in anymore. :cry2: My mom is very loving and a great person, I just don't know what to expect since no one in the family is Bi. We are a Christian house hold, not extreme or conservative, but it still stresses me out even more. I know I must "live the life I love and love the life I live" and I'm pretty sure I'm bisexual, I don't know how it happened but I cant deny its the case. My family has been the last people on my list of people to come out to because I admire them and don't want to loose their approval but who knows, maybe its my turn to have a my own "Just came out" thread.!!!

I'm so confused and its making me restless, I value anything you all may post so please post if you wish. I don't want to make a big mistake but I also want to live the life of total acceptance. It really shocked me to read about this and I would love for you all to share any of your concerns as well; its not all about me.

TigerBoy
November 23rd, 2012, 05:47 AM
Telling your mum could be a good move to give you a safe space at home, but I'd only do it when you are 100% ready for it. If there might be a time she could catch you with a guy, that would be upsetting and make things more difficult, so telling her before that happens could be good, otherwise don't feel you have to rush it.

Given how completely fucked up some parts of the US are with the hate being practised by those who claim to be Christian, I'd personally keep my head down and keep safe in general. I'm all for being out and proud, but if your wider environment isn't safe it may not be appropriate. Being closeted doesn't stop you standing up against hatred, if you felt you wanted to contribute you could still join a GSA or similar.

Good luck :hug:

TurboDieselBandit
November 25th, 2012, 02:08 AM
I see what your saying. I feel confident I wouldn't have to worry about being bullied for it at school but I also don't want any negative unexpected surprises. Sometimes I wonder why it even matters but I don't want to have to hide things about myself from my family.

Sorry for the long original post. I hope to get more comments.

Jon Doe 401
November 26th, 2012, 12:57 AM
Edit.

TurboDieselBandit
December 3rd, 2012, 12:41 AM
In some cases the link doesn't work so maybe this will help... http://www.rollingstone.com/politics/news/one-towns-war-on-gay-teens-20120202

Conqueror of Hearts
December 5th, 2012, 05:07 PM
If you are ready then you should tell them. They love you and even if they find it hard to. Understand or accept your decision they will eventually support you. It is horrible to live carring that on your shoulders. You should live your life the way you want out of that secret. You are still you, that doesnt chane anything. You shouldnt be labeled as bi , you should be labeled as happy. Good decisions are always hard to make and this one really is but once you tell them you will feel better. Good luck !!