Is it a compliment or not?

[Sir Suomi]

Alright, I had this conversation the other day with 2 girls I know. I asked if they notice a guy checking them out, if they take it as compliment or not. One said that she thought it was flattering if she got a guy to check her out, and that it sometime's is even a turn on if the guy is hot. The other said that she didn't like it, unless it was someone who she really liked. So here's my question: girls, you see a guy near your age checking you out, do you take it as a compliment, or the complete opposite?

[Mortal Coil]

It depends on the situation, really. If the guy is substantially older than me, I get defensive. If the guy's eyes flick towards [insert body part here] for a second, it's one thing, but I'd rather not walk down the street with every guy's face practically buried in my cleavage (this has happened to me.) In general, passive appreciation is fine, but if a guy catcalls me I will unleash the fury of hell on him. Don't fucking catcall.

[crashing]

I'm a guy, so possibly from my perspective. Pretty much every guy I know {myself included} checks girls out. They type of linger and the length depends on what a girls wearing, and your attraction to her. I generally try to look every girl in the eye and smile, even if she's not someone I would find sexually attractive. A nice, simple smile can go a long way. However if she is someone I find attractive I will say I will check out her body. IT's alot easier for guys to check out a girl and get an idea of what's under her clothes, a girl can check out a guy but it doesn't reveal the one hidden thing she might want to know. Girls are generally pretty out in the open. I personally feel that girls should never take it as an offensive gesture, or feel badly about it. If guys walked around in something that revealed our penis shape/size im sure girls would look. it's simply human nature

[Sir Suomi]

It depends on the situation, really. If the guy is substantially older than me, I get defensive. If the guy's eyes flick towards [insert body part here] for a second, it's one thing, but I'd rather not walk down the street with every guy's face practically buried in my cleavage (this has happened to me.) In general, passive appreciation is fine, but if a guy catcalls me I will unleash the fury of hell on him. Don't fucking catcall.

.....Remind me to never make you angry...

[Christine.]

I think that it's flattering, but I guess it kinda depends on who it is

[dingo006]

I always do it secretly. its like poker ... you dont want to tip your hand. i mean flirting is one thing but the cleavage peek is an art.

[Sir Suomi]

I always do it secretly. its like poker ... you dont want to tip your hand. i mean flirting is one thing but the cleavage peek is an art.

A very dangerous game is more like it...

[dingo006]

A very dangerous game is more like it...

life is no fun without a bit of risk ... AND girls wouldnt put them out there if they didnt want us to look.

[LouBerry]

Well, It depends. A year ago, yes I would love the attention. But now, it just gets on my nerves.

[Emerald Dream]

I would take it as a compliment if someone was checking me out. However, if I know they have been staring at me for awhile...it gets kinda creepy.

[Mortal Coil]

.....Remind me to never make you angry...

Haha, it's just that catcalling is especially bad because it demonstrates that men see women's bodies as public items. Like, it's fine to have your opinion of something, but you wouldn't yell to a kid, "hey kiddo, nice socks!" and nobody says to a man, "dayum, that bald spot is smokin'!" It makes women extremely uncomfortable and is harassment. Compliments are one thing, but you aren't even doing it in a respectful way and are treating women as sex objects when you catcall.
Okay, rant over.

[StoppingTime]

Puberty 101 :arrow: Relationships & Dating. This question fits better here.

And I'd have to agree with the others (though I'm not a girl), I think it would depend on the situation for most girls.

[AutumnDae]

I think it's flattering, for the most part. Staring is a bit creepy, but I've made a few connections with guys by glancing over and noticing that they're looking at me, and then catching their eye a few minutes later. It's kind of like a game, especially when it's mutual attraction and flirtatious.

[Jalinta]

It does generally depend on who it is, but the majority of the time I find it flattering ;)

[ReginaGeorge]

Opposite.

A compliment is supposed to benefit me if I'm the one being complimented. If some guy is staring at my butt from afar, he's getting all the 'benefiting', and I'm just being objectified, and having my privacy invaded.

It's not a compliment unless someone goes out of their way to make me feel good, not to satisfy their 'eyes'.

I have to add though, while it still most definitely not a compliment, being admired is different than flat out ogling my boobs.