normal ?

[star_face]

is it just me or the longer you cut for the more normal you convince your self it is ?
becuase now i just look at my arms and it's like yeah i don't have a problem those cuts are ment to be there, and sometimes i find my self cutting for no reason at all except for the fact i want to do it, were as before i would do it becuase something had set me off. it's like a habbit.
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[ArtistInNeed]

i used to do that all the time, dont worry its not strange. its probably just your mind is so set on that feeling that its wat you first turn to. dont worry, just stay strong and try techniques to help you not cut. some of them dont work at first but its better than going straight for it. take care. <3 Jamie

[Hyper]

Cutting is not normal, but that doesn't mean your abnormal.. You just need to find the strength within you to relieve your pain in a normal way..

[Sapphire]

I found that the longer and more regularly I did it, the more I tried to justify it. The more I justified it, the more I thought of it favourably and subseqently I cut more. It is a downward spiral.

Maybe try to reduce the frequency with which you cut. Lets say you cut every day, try to reduce that to once every two days. Then when you find that easier reduce it again to once every three days. And so on.

[byee]

Well, there's a diff between 'normal' and 'typical'. No, there's absolutely nothing 'normal' about cutting. It goes against everything we're wired for, like self preservation and avoidance of pain.

However, for you, cutting might be 'typical', it's your typical (or standard) way of dealing with certain feelings. However, it's still not a good thing. You need to stop, completely, with the help of a therapist, so you can learn other ways of dealing with whatever it is that's stressing you out. Eventhough it's a habit, you can (and still) need to change it, don't excuse it b/c you've 'always' done it.

[grimlip]

after doing it for months i felt like it was nothing and it was normal.. dont convince yourself it is because when i did thats when i started cutting deeper and my scars got worse

[star_face]

i never think about other people and how they might react to all my cuts becuase i think of it as normal, becuase i don't tend to hide the cuts on my arms when i'm out and last night i was getting on really well with this guy and i dunno he must of seen my arms and he freaked out and was asking me load of question as if i was suidical or something, but the point is becuase i think it's normal i expect everyone else thing it's normal and then don't becuase it's not really. i also hate how people sterio type self harmers , becuase i cut i must be "emo" werid and crazy when truth is most self harmers are really normal people .

[ctw4451]

I'm not experienced with the "Cutting" topic, but I'll try to help you.
Cutting isn't normal. That's been said, and will be said. People are willing to help you, let them. Cutting can and possibly WILL affect the way you think about situations later on in life. You might think that other people can't help, and they only make things worst, well, I have something to tell you. They only make things worse for you because you won't let them help you in the first place. You have to let down your wall, clear your mind, and think about the situation. Family, friends, VT, authority, etc. can all help you get through it. :)

[star_face]

thanckyou ! i am really trying, i'm just finding it hard to trust anyone that won't drop me and i don't want to find help in someone like that becuase i'm scared it will only make me worse and push me to my limit. it's not like anyone care's enough to try and help me though no one is interested in whats going on inside my head but everyone else seems to enjoy watching me crash and burn but yet i somehow seem to pull a blanket over everyones eyes and make my self out to look like i'm completely stable, and without the perfectly painted picture i'm scared my whole world could turn upside down and what i do still have might be ruined just becuase i come clean to get help and i don't want to risk that. this weekend has pretty much been as worse as it could get so sorry if i sound a bit perfetic :[

[ctw4451]

That's why you come to VT, to get help. We're here for you. We can help you. We sure as hell can't diagnose you with something, but we can give you our opinion and try to help you. That's what life's about - love, relationships, and risks. People come and go. As I've seen in these forums, cutting is addicting. In life, you're going to see good and bad. You're going to find yourself, and you're going to have a time in your life when you're confused about everything. You're going to be scared about who to trust and who not to trust, and it's not always going to be easy. I'm hard-headed. I have to fall down to realize not to do something. You have to open up to the people closest to you, and if they don't accept you, they weren't true friends to begin with.