Obsessed with friend, how do I get him out of my mind?!

[crowdlost]

So the title pretty much says it all. I have a friend (maybe a best friend, even) and he is on my mind 24/7. Not in a sexual way or anything, no not at all.

I live far away now (moved away 3 months ago) but we still see each other weekends and we text during the week.

But when it's been 3 days or more, i tend to freak out. I was just sitting in class today and i swear like 20 minutes passed by with me just thinking to myself "oh my god i hate everyone here, i miss him so much" and i keep telling myself that people go through this and they miss other people but my problem is that i have a HUGE problem initiating "talkIng to him". Like, i could literally go on for a week without texting him as long as he ends up texting first (which he does eventually). But during that whole week i would really be freaking out and obsessing about him so freaking much.

He HAD been an ass to me in the past (weve been close for about 3 years) but i let it all slide and we're greater and closer than ever when we see each other weekends. Problem is, im always thinking to myself "god, what if hes waiting for me to txt and ask abt him or what if hes having a bad day or even worse, what if he just doesnt give a shit?"

Sorry for the rant. I really needed to vent. I miss him and this honestly just made me feel so much better.

[saul1026]

just stop obsessing about it and just find other ways to keep yourself busy and not think about him

[Elysium]

I completely relate. I don't think there's a right way to resolve it; just keep yourself busy, I suppose.

[Steve Jobs]

I feel the same way about certain people dude. Honestly, the people I feel I'd be the closest friends with are the ones like that. When we talk, it's awesome and then there's that whoooole time when I dunno how to initiate :/

[TheSocialInspector]

Just make more friends and talk to them about the friend you miss. Create a system and layers of friends, increasing in personal matters and you have a friend system you yourself can reach in and grasp, feel happy and talk and bask in the everlasting sunlight that you yourself has created.

[DerBear]

I think you just need to stop worrying about him. I know best friends/close friends worry about each other all the time. That always happens and it can consume a large amount of your life. However really he is living his own life and so should you. You two meet up at weekends and text through out the week (for the most part). So you are worrying over something that doesn't need to be worried about.

I think you need something in your life to fill this worry. I also think you haven't gotten over the time he was an ass to you and your fear of loosing him is too great to see that you worry way too much.

Have you tried talking to him and expressing how you feel? I know it would be hard but seriously you could do it and I think it would benefit you and your friend and keep your friendship healthy.

[crowdlost]

I've thought a lot about talking to him about the way i feel and everything (especially when im feeling really down that it literally affects my ENTIRE day) but the problem is that i nver get to tell him all this stuff bcz whenever we ARE hanging out, its fine and awesome and i dont even think about these things. Its when im alone that i sit and worry and i swear, sometimes i even create a problem in my head that wasnt even there to begin with! I sit and create scenarios in my head of him treating me like crap or talking behind my back or using me and then i get mad at him--as if he'd ACTUALLY done these things to me!

Im such a weird person lol. And i guess the only reason we ARE close friends is because being around him makes me feel normal. I miss that feeling.