Everyone Forgets About Me

[sillyrabbit43]

My friends very rarely invite me out with them anymore. It's probably because when my parents got divorced two years ago, I didn't want to do anything but I think they should know I'm over it by now.

My mom is already remarried. I can rarely get her to do anything where it's just her and me. Just today she told me we could go out for dinner. I fell asleep and she went out with my stepdad instead. I can't talk to my dad. He always tells me what I did in the situation and doesn't let me vent. I don't have any siblings.

I would try to talk to my friends even after this, but they tell me that my life is perfect: I have straight As, everybody at school loves me, etc. They seem to forget that I have terrible allergies that prevent me from doing a lot of stuff. They also don't know how stressed I am.

It's starting to really bother me and some of my classmates have noticed but none of my friends. I don't know who to talk to. Please help.

[Penteract]

Well, I'd suggest speaking with another family member of which you might be close with or you just know he or she is trustworthy. If nothing works, well, I'd usually recommend a counselor but this isn't a life threatening issue or something. Although if you really end up resulting hurt or emotionally distressed then it'd be the best option.

My apologies for not helping out much, but this isn't a situation I have much intel about. If you have anything more specific to say, please do tell and I'll try my best to answer them in detail.

[Shaka]

As your goal is to get relaxed, content, and involved again I can suggest you try and change your focus from the things that bring you down into things that you like and make some friends out of the classmates you mentioned that showed perception of your feelings.

With them you'll find understanding and won't have to talk yourself raw about unhappy things for them to know how you feel. Empaths are great friends, but some long-time friends tend to paint over the uncomfortable stuff if they go through stress with an uncomfortable situation like your old friends did with you a few years ago.

So, plain and short, don't let everybody's memories of stress invoke your own (or vice-versa for that matter)
And try to let yourself be okay with the other people in your life. I understand what kind of frustration a boy can have with a clock ticking by and allot of stunted relationships, but get out there! Turn your head up and try to find some fun things to share with new friends who are more emotionally matured then your current group. You might have to change, but who wouldn't want to change into horse-riding, hiking, boardgames, philosophical discussions, and whatever more you might find a liking in common with a few weird new friends.

From what I know of my good old friends is that while I was having extremely hard times they didn't share anything in common with me, but when a few years of distance passed and time had grown us up, joining back to them and discussing discoveries was a surprising treat.
Don't be too sad, all things wax and wane at some times, that can be said for friendships as well as expectations about life.

Well, peace and wellbeing Rabbit. Keep looking around you too, sometimes people care more then they say, or say more then they care, and often it's just that they're nearly as stressed as you are and can't handle any more.