I'm not sure if it's abuse, but I'm not happy.

[VinylRecord]

Like I said above, I'm not sure if it's abuse. Mother never hits me or anything, she just yells a lot and has a lot of rules. Either way I'm sick of it. I'm not allowed to cry, have my own money, or even talk to people without supervision. Right now she thinks I'm doing homework. This is my fist year doing online schooling. She pulled me out of my old school once she found out I was talking to the school counselor. I'm sick of it though. I want to leave but I can't. I have no money or car to take me anywhere or any sense of freedom.

I want to leave this household, I just don't know how. CPS was been called multiple times by three different people. A neighbor, a friend's mother, a social worker and the school counselor. Each time a call was made CPS said that since it's not physical abuse and I'm not in immediate danger they won't do anything. I know that they would if I actually talked to them and told them absolutely /everything/ but I don't know. They're right, I'm not being physically abused.

Honestly, I'm not what to do or even what actually is going on. I don't know what I hoped to accomplish by posting here, but I found this site about ten minutes ago, and hoped it might make a difference for me.

[Noirtier]

Hun, first of all I would like to say welcome. We're here to support and help you, and we care about you. Now, it sounds like your mom is engaging in what is called verbal abuse, or emotional abuse, which is still a very real and damaging thing. Physical abuse isn't the only thing that can hurt people--often times words cut very deep. The fact that you said you didn't tell CPS everything tells me that there is something more behind this, and I would advise you to tell them what you've been keeping secret. They may be able to help you more in that way, and get you to a place that you need to be in. Whether that be in counseling or in a different, safer household. Remember, we're all here to help and support you, and I wish you the best of luck! :hug:

[VinylRecord]

Thank you for your reply, but I'm not really keeping anything too important from cps. There was one instance where I was have a severe allergic reaction to some medication she said would help the flu and refused to take me to the emergency when I couldn't breathe but instead yelled at me for overreacting and then for crying which only made breathing that much more difficult.

It's just that I have mixed emotions about bringing CPS into the picture. I do want a way out and everything, but I've heard that CPS is rather blunt and I don't want her to find out that I've talked to someone about it before I'm gone. However, since the accused has a right to see/know the accuser, that'll be very difficult to say the least.

Also, I'm not allowed counseling.

[project_icarus]

I'd like to reaffirm what Clint said...
Hun, first of all I would like to say welcome. We're here to support and help you, and we care about you ... Remember, we're all here to help and support you, and I wish you the best of luck! :hug:

Keeping you from accessing medical help is one form of abuse.
And what you originally said is another – psychological and emotional.
Having 'too many rules' alone isn't, but the obsessive, over-controlling nature of it, is.

...I've heard that CPS is rather blunt and I don't want her to find out that I've talked to someone about it before I'm gone. However, since the accused has a right to see/know the accuser, that'll be very difficult to say the least.

With those services it really depends on the specific person you have to deal with. If you have a particularly difficult time with them, you can request to have a different case manager (the person you'd usually be seeing).
If she's the one who's abusing you, you don't have to put up with seeing her. If they take you out of that home situation, then you won't be seeing her at all for
For them to act accordingly, you really do need to tell them everything, as hard as that may be.
And then there's dealing with it while you're still there. Try not to trigger anything. If something does happen, you can always talk to anybody on here or start a thread. And there are numbers that you can call, if you can get to a phone (you can call the toll-free numbers from Skype, or a public phone box for free). (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1106146&postcount=2)

I'm sorry that you have to put up with this :( :hug:

[Stronk Serb]

WOW! And I thought my parents were strict, not giving you proper medical treatment and causing allergic reactions on purpose IS abuse, over strictness can be treated as invasion of privacy/personal space, call the CPS, tell them she was not giving you adequate medical treatment, she did not call an ambulance when she needed to, is hovering above your head as a friggin' helicopter, almost never leaving you alone and mention the conversation supervision, if you do not want her to see your history of visiting this web-site, use Google Chrome Incognito, it does not track your history. To access it go to the wrench meny (a little wrench icon in the upper rightt corner) of Google Chrome and click "new incognito window" it should open a new window, and your PC will not file any visits while browsing in Incognito windows.

[Texas warrior]

Your mom is a Tyrant. I don't know you, but I know you disirve better than this. You need to get help.

[its.me.akshay]

mmm..sounds lyke your mom thinks she cares about you loads... Maybe she thinks you are someone unique and the outer world may spoil that... Its not like it... Being friendly.. Well known.. And freedom is what life is... And note this point too... Everytime you need not have to listen to your mom... Thats why every human has bee gifted with common sense or the idea of thinking... Think and act on your own... The really bad consequence it may lead to might be thrashing... And thats a physical abuse and then cps may help you from there... Otherwise at dinner open your heart and pour out everything you have... Everyone has emotions... And girls... Loadz... Cry.. And that helps you feel better... At ure dinner say everything you have.. Bolding the points you feel really hurting with a tear or two... Your mother wud be convinced if ure really able to pour out everything in a sensual manner... I do it in my home... Usually the same stuff like going out with friends on long journies... Try what i said and perhaps it can help you... All the best... And take care...
And if she says stop crying... Say her this point.... 'every human has feelings... If youre born as one.. You should cry... And you dont know the weight of my tears.. The pain my heart has'