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sophierocks
November 18th, 2012, 06:12 AM
I know I'm a bit old to be on here, and I haven't been on in ages, but I don't know what to do and I need to say something.
If you don't remember me from past threads, here is my story:

When I was only just born, I was a twin. Unfortunately, my sister died within the first month of our lifes. This probably is the part that pains me the least as I never really knew her.

When I was 7 I was diagnosed with lung cancer. After many months of chemotherapy the cancer was dehabilitated enough for it to be surgically removed. I was healthy again. But you can't forget being in the clinic where half of the people you see didn't make it.

When I was 14 my whole family, including me, were involved in a car crash. A truck ran into us on the highway at 110 kilometres an hour. I was the only one who survived. I had twin brothers next to me in the back and I still remember one of them giving up his last breath with a piece of metal stuck in his chest. It is so difficult to watch your family die in front of you while you live on.

I wanted to end it then. I was on the edge of a building about to jump when my best friend Jessica found me. We had been best friends for our entire lives. We were born on the same day in the same hospital. I would do anything for her. She managed to talk me out of it and even got her parents to adopt me as I had nowhere else to go.

Then, barely a year later, Jessica was gang raped. They totally destroyed her. She was in hospital for a month. I barely left her side until she could get out of bed and walk again. But even then I only left for school. She was so distraught. She became suicidal. One day when I was with her, she told me she was going to the bathroom, but she was gone for a very long time. But then I realised she was going to kill herself. I had been trying to get her out of those feelings but she was too determined. I managed to catch up with her on a 12th story balcony. I tried to get her to come back but she just looked at me, smiled and told me it was meant to be this way and to not worry about her. Then she stepped off.

I watched her fall and I was so angry at myself for not being able to help her like she had helped me. I jumped onto the ledge myself as she was still falling and was about to jump with her but she looked up at me and shook her head and I saw her say no. Those were Jessica's last words before she hit the ground.

When her parents found out they both went down the same path as she had gone. I was left with everyone who I had ever cared about or who had cared about me dead. I had no family, no friends, nothing. But yet I had to live on. After seeing my first and longest friend use her last moments to stop me from going over the edge I was determined to live on. I enrolled in a boarding school and met 5 girls who I am still friends with today. But no one could be a friend to me like Jessica had been.

When I was 16, I discovered that I had cancer again, in my lung again. I again had to endure long days in the clinic seeing people come in one day but be dead the next. A week before my 17th birthday I underwent surgery to remove the last of the cancer.

Only Jessica and the memory of her have managed to keep me getting up everyday and living life. If it wasn't for her I wouldn't be around today, alive and healthy. I owe it all to her but I couldn't help her in her time of need. That is the thing that has been toughest to me.


Well it gets worse. Last year, my cancer came back again. It's gone now but if my lungs lose any more tissue there will be some serious problems. But I can deal with that. This is the real problem.

Remember those 5 girls I mentioned earlier? Well they are gone. We were so close for so long that when something happened, it got bad quickly. At a party, we got drunk and it got wild. Two guys were trying to pick me up but when I refused, they got pushy. Rachel (one of the girls) told them to back off and they got up in her face. Eventually a fight broke out, Rachel was bashed to death. All because of her defending me. To make maters worse, Stephanie (another girl) drunk so much she got severe alcohol poisoning and also died.

Two of 6 in one party? That is ridiculous, but it didn't stop there. The two girls who were closest to Rachel and Stephanie chose to end it themselves. I lost another two of my only friends. But then it got worse.

It was down to just me and my best friend of all the girls, Katie. But on the way home from the last of the funerals, I was in another car crash. Katie didn't make it home.

And then there was one.

I have got to be the single most unlucky person on the planet. I just don't know what to do anymore. Everybody is gone. This time, there is nobody to stop me at the top of that building. But I don't know if I can even bring myself to do that. It would be an insult to Jessica and everybody else. But what else can I do? It's like I'm cursed. Everybody I have ever loved is gone. Am I eternally cursed to repeat this cycle where I find some people to be with, to care for and have care for me only to have them taken away from me? What can I do?

Felimenta97
November 19th, 2012, 11:11 AM
I honestly don't know what you can do, but I can say that I'm moved by your history. Seeing your family and best friend die in front of you must be really hard.

I always thought my life was really bad. I really need to review my concepts. I just ask you: keep going. For the worse it can be, you will find something that will make you at least a little better. All for Jessica. She stopped you from losing your life. You couldn't do the same. Now you have to return the favor for her.

Best of everything.

Philleeep
November 19th, 2012, 12:56 PM
I have no idea what you are going through and bet most people wont have gone through that. I will ALWAYS be here to talk to you if you EVER need someone just to say something too. Someone to turn too and be like "and how was your day today" or someone to just spur you on and say, "keep smiling!".

Please don't make that journey to the 12th floor, or any floor or any way that will lead you to knowingly cause harm to yourself. You have been strong, very very strong. You're brave and commendable to be able to go through something like this. Just try and think about the good things that have happened, the good times you've had with those around you. Maybe try moving and starting again. New people new faces. Try and find something that works for you (Hobby).

I know I'm not the best advice giver or the best encouragement. But I have a heart and a heart that wants to care. Right now, that goes to you. You're probably thinking "yeah right like some silly little 17 year old cocky git want's to actually talk to/help me" - But I actually mean what I'm saying and if i'm the only person who you don't want to talk to, find someone else that will be there just for a friendly chat or a cheer up.

sophierocks
November 21st, 2012, 12:29 AM
Thanks, its just, I have had to start again before, it only worked because it was still in school. I dont know where to go, or what to do. Im a complete wreck. My only relatives left have moved to France and I don't know how to contact them. I have no more friends in Australia and an empty house full of 6 girls possessions. I just dont know what to do

Heavyrain4life
November 21st, 2012, 05:18 PM
I can honestly say... Your story made me cry. I thought my life sucked. But... I can honestly say that.... I have a new look on how things are. I want you to know... If you ever want to talk, about anything... I'll be here for you. I can't offer magical solutions to every problem... But I can offer my care. Just remember... I'll be here. For you... For anyone.

CharlieFinley
December 2nd, 2012, 04:20 PM
I'm praying for you, man. I know it seems impossible, but the best thing for you isnt to think about what's gone wrong and try to make up for it, it's to go have good experiences to pile atop the bad.

Drew5
December 2nd, 2012, 04:52 PM
meh, you're fine

eeee
December 3rd, 2012, 10:50 PM
I just read your post and there's a few things I want to say.

First of all, you have incredible strength. I have only been through a fraction of what you have and can barely stand it. You have handled in 18 years what most people have in their whole lives. That is a gift and you are using it well.

I can't imagine what you have been through, but I can try to sympathize. I can't begin to imagine what cancer and chemo and surgery must be like. I was, at first, amazed at how strong you were during this, but I became more so as I read on.

My biggest fear is something happening to my family, most specifically, my dad dying. I'm 14 now, and can't imagine what I'd do without my family. The fact that you have stayed strong through this is nothing short of superhuman. I admire that so much.

I am so sorry about your family and your friend. I wish both of them could be with you for your sake, but I don't have that power.

This cycle isn't going to keep going. Most of this is freak accidents, and that won't keep happening. You are obviously someone wants to have as a friend and you will have no problem finding someone who cares about you and will for years.

You are an incredible girl who has the incredible ability to withstand all of this, and I can't tell you how much that amazes me. It will get better, you will have a lifelong friend soon, and they and you will be fine. Don't even think about ending it all ever. Listen to Jessica. You're obviously a person worth caring about, don't do anything to hurt yourself.

I hope you're doing fine now and that it stays that way. I hope I can help just a little.

sophierocks
December 7th, 2012, 09:44 PM
To all of you saying im strong, im not. Im just an ordinary girl who has been put into the most horrible situations. I wish i had extraordinary strength, but i dont. I just have to struggle on with what I have. But thanks for all your support, it feels like there is at least a couple of people who care. But a few well wishers from the internet is all I have going for me at the moment. That and memories to help me go on.

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December 10th, 2012, 11:12 PM
To all of you saying im strong, im not. Im just an ordinary girl who has been put into the most horrible situations. I wish i had extraordinary strength, but i dont. I just have to struggle on with what I have. But thanks for all your support, it feels like there is at least a couple of people who care. But a few well wishers from the internet is all I have going for me at the moment. That and memories to help me go on.

With all due respect, you're wrong. You HAVE to be strong. You wouldn't be alive if you weren't. You really are amazingly strong. Believe me.

sophierocks
December 18th, 2012, 04:50 PM
I am slowly getting over it, as usual. I have decided to take a long holiday. I dont know where, or for how long, but I need to get away for a while,

eeee
December 19th, 2012, 10:21 PM
I'm glad it's getting better.

gayboy97
December 20th, 2012, 01:22 AM
Dont let the suicidal thoughts win, i had a friend who has lost everyone they cared about but they managed to pick up the pieces and now theyre fine and she now has a new family with her husband, never give up because it really does get better, your not cursed dont worry <3<3

Sir Suomi
December 20th, 2012, 01:00 PM
Wow..... That really just opened my eyes.... I've always thought my life was terrible, and I thought it was getting to the point to where... But after reading this, and seeing how you've stuck through it, I'm ashamed in myself.

Here's my advice: Don't ever give up. No matter how tough it gets, no matter how much you want to give in, don't give up. Keep on fighting. Honor you friends and family by living your life to the fullest, no matter what happens.

Aajj333
December 20th, 2012, 11:13 PM
I have to be honest, this post made me cry. I never thought so much lose could be in one persons life. I am there for you. We are there for you. Just remember, someone always cares and loves you. Don't give up. Think really hard, "What so I have to be happy for?" And I guarantee you you will find something, weather it's a memory or a friend, or simply being alive. I wish you the best of luck and God bless you.

You say you are not strong, but you are the strongest person I have ever heard of. I would have giving up by now.

eeee
January 1st, 2013, 02:38 AM
I hope the new year brings a lot of good in your life.

sophierocks
January 15th, 2013, 06:31 AM
Its been nearly a month now and i'm back. I really needed a break. Thanks so much to all the people giving me support, it does really mean a lot to me. I now have this new channel of help that i have never had before through vtf.
I think i can get back on my feet now. although as many of you know, these things never leave you, the pain does dull after a bit. wounds can close, but scars dont heal. I still cannot have a good nights sleep, but i can get some rest out of the night. I cannot yet smile, but i can find things funny again. I am ready to try to resume normal life.
To everybody out there, i hope you never have to experience half of what i have been through. i do not understand why it has been me but i accept the fact that i am the one forced to deal with it. It is an unbearable pain and I do wonder why i stopped myself all those years ago. Every day it is a struggle not to end it but i am getting better at it. my only hope is that i am the only one ever forced to deal with this much suffering. and to anyone who has read this, if seeing what i have been through has helped you in any way, i am glad.
Sophie

eeee
January 28th, 2013, 12:59 AM
I came back on this thread to check on you. I'm so glad things are better.

Like I said, your strength is amazing. I can't even imagine what you've been going through but I am amazed at how you're still here.

Please don't end it all. I few days after my last post, someone I barely knew took her own life. It hurt people she barely knew and the people who really knew her were in great pain. People care about you a lot more than they show. BTW, you were smart to talk about it. Don't EVER feel scared to talked about it.

teen.jpg
January 31st, 2013, 06:27 PM
I thought that my life was driving me to a certain point, but your's. First off, I would like to say that I'm sorry for all of your losses. Second, just try to remember them all. Live for them. Live the lives they didn't get to live, and be grateful for that. Enjoy life while it lasts.

I hope the best for you. Stay strong!

Sudds3
February 3rd, 2013, 01:49 AM
I dont think anyone feels complete and true empathy for you, you honestly have been through too much to handle. Yet you handle it! You are so strong and so brave. You make me feel like i want to live too, your story is truly inspiring. Yet you still feel all the pain. And yes, you are strong. You may not feel like you are, but you are. You have taken so much pain and suffered through it when almost everyone would have been destroyed by it. All this pain and suffering has made you strong, but it all started because you were born a fighter.

If i were you i would turn all my pain and suffering into building, whenever i get upset...i build. It burns off the heat and everything. I would advise the same, go for a walk or run or get a punching bag and destroy it. Transfer all the bad energy into something better, right a book or draw a picture. Do anything to prevent this from completely crippling you. There are still people who care about you and want you around.

If you want a true friend, well that may be hard to find, but dont let it prevent you from trying. There are so many people who would want to be your friend. You are beautiful. You are amazing and special and YOU are the light at the end of the dark tunnel. Shine bright and people will come to you, you will be easy to find and easy to befriend. Take the pain to fuel your light. And never, ever let anyone try and put you out.

Lots and lots of love

Sincerely,
-Adam

jayyy-lmao
February 3rd, 2013, 07:24 AM
You poor soul. All that stuff makes my life seem easy.