Nobody understands

[unicorn772]

:mad: Okay so me and this boy were texting I sent an inapropriate photo to him(we were also talking dirty).....my parents found out about it...we had a looooong talk...they wont speak to me,look at me, anything. I cant stop crying :blue: I dont even know what to do ( I've tried killing myself but that wont solve anything, I still want to live life)....And i dont even want to see his face at school..... WHAT SHOULD I DO?

btw... I stay locked up in my room all day :(:(:cry::cry::cry:

[xXJust Jump ItXx]

Youre the new gal, first, welcome to VT! Its like a virtual family here haha, youll enjoy it. But as for this... Its tough, I mean well can we call it "sexting" I dont know if its illegal or not, how parents may deal with it. But parents finding out, Im sure any they are gonna be kinda upset, especially since youre 13... Please dont kill yourself though. :( I dont know what you can do... Just let things chill for a while, they wont be like this forever.

[unicorn772]

Youre the new gal, first, welcome to VT! Its like a virtual family here haha, youll enjoy it. But as for this... Its tough, I mean well can we call it "sexting" I dont know if its illegal or not, how parents may deal with it. But parents finding out, Im sure any they are gonna be kinda upset, especially since youre 13... Please dont kill yourself though. :( I dont know what you can do... Just let things chill for a while, they wont be like this forever.

And my parents wont take me seriously...i just cry all the time...how do i improve my behavior?

[DarkMatter]

I know things may seem bad now, but they won't always be like this - I promise. So please don't do anything rash that you may later regret.

I'd suggest for you to talk to your parents. Explain how sorry you feel, and see what happens.

I hope you feel better soon.

[unicorn772]

I know things may seem bad now, but they won't always be like this - I promise. So please don't do anything rash that you may later regret.

I'd suggest for you to talk to your parents. Explain how sorry you feel, and see what happens.

I hope you feel better soon.

I DO talk to my parents,but they just make things worse...everyday i wake up and feel terrible

[Shaka]

Hey, what I say might sound too obvious to be the only working solution I can think of, but this kind of thing is something you cannot attack head-on, namely, the only way you can effect things for the better is by steadying your own opinion of yourself. You are NOT shameful, or bad, or anything of the sort for what you were doing. You've got to live your life and if you wanna do it well then shame isn't gonna help you.
They feel shame too, or else they could face you, and they sure don't know anything to do that would help but to feel bad and make you feel bad for it, but are you sensing this isn't a very good solution?

My advice to you is to take yourself out of the blame-game. You weren't inherently wrong for whatever you did, neither was your boyfriend, he's no more guilty then you. Your parents aren't guilty of parenting badly, they're just no more ready to face the emotions and feelings of life then most people are. Don't hate or blame them, or your boyfriend, or most of all yourself. What's natural is anyone's guess, and that's everyone's made, guesses and assumptions. Don't make the assumption that just because they're all unsure, guilty-feeling, or mad that there's anything wrong or bad with it. Most of all, forgive yourself, you didn't hurt anyone on purpose, and nor did your boyfriend, but the adults in society have been raised to feel and spread feelings of guilt for anything like this, the best way you can help them is try to improve yourself, examine your thought patterns and shift them out of guilt and pain and into raw awareness. Compassion for anyone around you and compassion for your self, because your true self is really quite alright. She is young and proud just to be a loved part of the world around her. And you can make for a loving world only by forgiving and loving yourself and your fathers, your mothers, friends and past lovers and by letting yourself make each day a new start.

You're okay Doll, you've got a problem though that can't be attacked head on, since it dwells in feeling, but it's as physical as a wall. You've said that trying to talk to them hurts, that is because they don't want to acknowledge its there. there's shame all around them and your not going to cast that out of them quick. But as you said you need to find some way to steady yourself so you can be alright again and I have to say that you need to, in your heart, forgive yourself and Your boyfriend, being promiscuous didn't hurt anybody, didn't hurt you, didn't hurt him, didn't hurt your parents even, but the idea that shame should be felt still does hurt, it hurts all of them and not just you, its like an infection that hurts a wound that needs to heal, but its an infection of the mind, most rooted in your parents and any older folk as well.

There's a long tradition of shame and closed-emotions that's long been passed down and it needs to be stopped. The reason this whole thing happened is because society has broken the natural flow, we don't know what to do about things like this anymore, when, as humans, love and forgiveness, or love and non-judgement are all that we needed from the get go.

Try to physically forgive yourself. There is no shame in nature until a person or an animal thinks so. Do for yourself the right thing and continue to find the way of living you like. I advise to take an interest in human history, psychology, and philosophy, when you get better and are in the right space again, because this problem isn't just yours, it's just an example of what the whole world's going through in some different way or another.

Take care, have a happy life & Inner Peace.

Whoops, i sent two of these cuz I thought the first didn't get through, so take both, maybe the other can help too.

Please don't post consecutively. -StoppingTime.

[unicorn772]

:wub::wub::wub:You're okay Doll, you've got a problem though that can't be attacked head on, since it dwells in feeling, but it's as physical as a wall. You've said that trying to talk to them hurts, that is because they don't want to acknowledge its there. there's shame all around them and your not going to cast that out of them quick. But as you said you need to find some way to steady yourself so you can be alright again and I have to say that you need to, in your heart, forgive yourself and Your boyfriend, being promiscuous didn't hurt anybody, didn't hurt you, didn't hurt him, didn't hurt your parents even, but the idea that shame should be felt still does hurt, it hurts all of them and not just you, its like an infection that hurts a wound that needs to heal, but its an infection of the mind, most rooted in your parents and any older folk as well.

There's a long tradition of shame and closed-emotions that's long been passed down and it needs to be stopped. The reason this whole thing happened is because society has broken the natural flow, we don't know what to do about things like this anymore, when, as humans, love and forgiveness, or love and non-judgement are all that we needed from the get go.

Try to physically forgive yourself. There is no shame in nature until a person or an animal thinks so. Do for yourself the right thing and continue to find the way of living you like. I advise to take an interest in human history, psychology, and philosophy, when you get better and are in the right space again, because this problem isn't just yours, it's just an example of what the whole world's going through in some different way or another.

Take care, have a happy life & Inner Peace.

Whoops, i sent two of these cuz I thought the first didn't get through, so take both, maybe the other can help too.
:wub::wub::wub::wub::wub: OMG THANKS I LOVE YOU SO MUCH...YOUR MY NEW BESTFRIEND...Thanks for helping me get through this

[Shaka]

Anything that can help, ;)
If ya have anything more that you need ta talk about to feel better, reply or message me. I'll be around here and again. I know some things about following the right feel to get out of a bad loop. -When you would get sad, go get some space, take some fresh air and sit barefoot on the grass or wherever you feel comfortable and just affirm that you will be okay. You have so much left to live for and this stuff hardly gets in the way. Things might border on how they were before but that's okay, you can't decide how other people will act or feel but you can help them to heal over it by showing them you've moved on. A step at a time if you have to, move on, and one day you and even your entire family can put all that strife far below what really matters. love, inspiration, unity,and good times.