Should I try to move on?

[Halcyon]

Well, me and the guy I mentioned in my last thread (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=157171) decided to make our relationship official about a week ago, the night before we met up. We had an amazing time, we arranged to meet up again, we got along really well. I was just so happy with it and he seemed to be too.. But on Thursday night he seemed off, and when asked he told me that he didn't know if he was up for another long-distance relationship as it hurts far too much not being able to see the one you love everyday. He said that he was telling me this now as he didn't want me to stop at his house, lose my virginity to him, then him realise he isn't able to cope with the distance, dump me and then I feel used. I said I respected him for that, but he needed to make the decision. It was only then that I realised quite how much I like him. I mean, he helped me so much in terms of confidence, getting over exes who were a horrible influence on me.. He made me happy for the first time in a while. Later that night he told me that he did want to split up from me and that he didn't think it could work. He wants to be friends, maybe with some benefits, but I want more than that.. I want him. I saw him crying as he typed the message breaking up with me, so I do think he likes me a lot too. According to him, I'm too good for him anyway, so I should just move on and live my life with someone who deserves me. I told him all that was bullshit obviously. Some of my friends think he used me - we did blowjobs on Saturday, he splits with me on Thursday, they think I've been stupid and naive. But I don't think he would do that, he just doesn't seem the type.. I've tried mild flirting with other boys since then and in doing so I just make myself feel worse. Should I carry on trying to move on and find someone else? Should I spare myself the heart ache I'll probably get by still being in love with him? Please help :(

[Noirtier]

At this point in time, I think that you should honor his decision and try and move on the best you can. I would advise you to take some time to let things cool down, and to just spend time getting over him before you started flirting with other guys and getting back out there again, because otherwise you'd just be making yourself feel worse by guilting yourself unnecessarily. Do your best to try and get over him, I would stop talking to each other for a bit while you take some time to get over each other. I know it's hard, but we're all here for you, and I think that it's for the best in the end.

[Ryhanna]

I think you should move on. At this point in time, the relationship is over, and there's no use being hung-up on someone who isn't around anymore. Overall, I think you'd benefit much more and just be generally happier in the long run by sparing yourself the heartache of hoping this guy will change his mind.

[Halcyon]

Okay, I think everyone agrees I should get over him, but there are two problems..
1) He still wants to meet up with me regularly and be friends, so that will make it a lot more difficult for me.
2) How exactly do I go about getting over him?

[Noirtier]

In all honesty, I would probably stop meeting up with him for a while. Let him know that you need to take some time to yourself to get over him, and that you don't think it would be a good idea to keep meeting up right now. Once you've begun to get over him, you can start meeting up again, but I would stop and focus solely on beginning to get over him before I started meeting up with him again. Just based on my own personal experience.

[brianabyington]

So how long is the distance between you too? My boyfriend & I spend as much time together as we can. we live about 20 minutes away and go to seperate high schools. It work for us but u guys might be further in distance then us. Y ou may still be able to work out something together.