How To Break Up With Her

[Lukac101]

iv been seeing this girl now for (1 year on october 10th) she was my 1st girlfriend.

im a sophmore in high school and 16 years old
shes a senior in high school and almost 18

At first i loved her to death and wanted nothing but to be with her
but over this time we (well iv drifted away from her) iv found out that she can be quiet mean and i feel im being forced into this relationship

heck im pretty whipped

shes mean every day of the month except when shes on her period! i thought chicks were sposed to be mean when they were on it but she works in reverse or something

we started doing sexual things around 3 months and didnt get to the real deal until about the 5th month in

she took my virginity and i took hers

but i dont love her anymore

iv thought long and hard about this and i no longer love her

everytime she wants to hangout i make up excuses not to

i havent talked to her for 5 days(her teacher has her cellphone)

and those have been the nicest 5 days iv had in about a year

iv already broke up with her once but she whined and cried so much that i instantly got back together with her (we were broke up for about 2 minutes :( )

she acts like it never happened

but i really really want out of this relationship girlfriends arent supposed to make you miserable

but she always talks about what i need to do better in this relationship

I REALLY REALLY WANT OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP

girls i know u dont want to be broken up with but if a guy did break up with you what is the way youd want him to do it

or guys if youve succesfully broken up with a girl how did you do it?

[bbychop]

if it is that horrible like you say it is, just tell her "i do not think this is working out." and do not take her back when she starts crying and whining. basically let that be that and just move on. no guy deserves a girl who does that to them.

[Lukac101]

thanks for the advice

im probably making it out to seem worse than it is

but even all my friends want me to break up with her cause "im not the same (mood wise) when im around her"

and our 1 year anniversarys coming up so things are really complicated for me

[byee]

A year is a long time, maybe in your case, too long. I wouldn't actually break up on the anniversray date, but I also wouldn't put too much significance on it, either.

It's good that you can realize this isn't working out, eventhough it's been a year, and even with the sexual piece. You have to assume that she might be as unhappy in this as you are (perhaps that's why she's being 'mean'). So, breaking up might not come as much as a surprise as you might think.

[Serenity]

Alright, I know they say you shouldn't fight fire with fire, but here's my personal POV:

You can't be subtle with a nonsubtle person. She's mean, so you've got to be mean. Tell her without any sugarcoating whatsoever how much she's put you through and how she makes you feel. Tell her that the days you didn't speak to her were like a breath of fresh air because she literally never has anything nice to say. Tell her that she has caused you to drift away from her because of her complete and total lack of compassion and consideration towards you and your feelings, and thus ruined any chance of a continued relationship. She a) needs a slap back into reality so that maybe she can shape up her attitutde and not continue to ruin peoples' lives and b) needs to understand the pain and hurt she put you through. She owes you that much, at the very least.

[byee]

Alright, I know they say you shouldn't fight fire with fire, but here's my personal POV:

You can't be subtle with a nonsubtle person. She's mean, so you've got to be mean. Tell her without any sugarcoating whatsoever how much she's put you through and how she makes you feel. Tell her that the days you didn't speak to her were like a breath of fresh air because she literally never has anything nice to say. Tell her that she has caused you to drift away from her because of her complete and total lack of compassion and consideration towards you and your feelings, and thus ruined any chance of a continued relationship. She a) needs a slap back into reality so that maybe she can shape up her attitutde and not continue to ruin peoples' lives and b) needs to understand the pain and hurt she put you through. She owes you that much, at the very least.

Ouch! I sure hope I never, ever piss you off, Valerie!

I think a gentleman says only what needs to be said, and as politely as possible. Lettng her know you're unhappy, that it hasn't been working, and think it's time to say good bye should do it. In this situation, if she needs specifics she's probably in the ozone.

[Serenity]

Ouch! I sure hope I never, ever piss you off, Valerie!

Lol yeah, I've been known to become quite monstrous when angry, but then again it takes ridiculous amounts to bother me even a little bit so it's generally deserved :P

I think a gentleman says only what needs to be said, and as politely as possible. Lettng her know you're unhappy, that it hasn't been working, and think it's time to say good bye should do it. In this situation, if she needs specifics she's probably in the ozone.

Indeed, that sounds like a plan.

[Gumleaf]

Alright, I know they say you shouldn't fight fire with fire, but here's my personal POV:

You can't be subtle with a nonsubtle person. She's mean, so you've got to be mean. Tell her without any sugarcoating whatsoever how much she's put you through and how she makes you feel. Tell her that the days you didn't speak to her were like a breath of fresh air because she literally never has anything nice to say. Tell her that she has caused you to drift away from her because of her complete and total lack of compassion and consideration towards you and your feelings, and thus ruined any chance of a continued relationship. She a) needs a slap back into reality so that maybe she can shape up her attitutde and not continue to ruin peoples' lives and b) needs to understand the pain and hurt she put you through. She owes you that much, at the very least.


i agree val. sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind.

[Hyper]

Or just cut the drama and tell her ,, I'm dumping you ''

That's pretty mean :)

[Sapphire]

I personally think that when breaking up with someone and the situation is similar to this then just tell them the bare bones of it. "This isn't working out. I'm not happy. Let's go our own seperate ways." That sort of thing.

Chances are that you aren't going to hang out afterwards but that does not mean that it is ok to get spiteful. It is not nice. It is not big. It is not clever.
Just be considerate and keep the spitefulness to a minimum.

[northskater110]

let her down nice and easy