First Relationship

[commikid]

So I've not been one to jump into the whole relationship thing, I always wanted one but never actually gave the whole thing as much effort as some do and now I'm almost 20 I have found myself in one but a long distance one and the only way that we can stay in contact most of the time is by phone but the only thing is that I feel as though we have talked about almost everything now and I don't want it to go all flat an boring so what do other people talk about I ask???

Thanks XD

[Apollo.]

The only thing I can say is if you have a real connection with someone then there is always something to talk about, I've never done long distance so it might be different but if its becoming flat and boring then maybe it's not working out. I don't mean to sound all doom and gloom though so just ask how the persons day was and then when they tell you ask questions about what they did how it was stuff like that. The conversation usually just flows and makes itself. I wish you all the best!

[commikid]

The only thing I can say is if you have a real connection with someone then there is always something to talk about, I've never done long distance so it might be different but if its becoming flat and boring then maybe it's not working out. I don't mean to sound all doom and gloom though so just ask how the persons day was and then when they tell you ask questions about what they did how it was stuff like that. The conversation usually just flows and makes itself. I wish you all the best!

True true,, we doo seem to end up talking about all sorts of random things that we have done through the day but I'm just a bit scared of it getting to the point where either of us could find it "boring" thats all :/. Thanks though :D

[Emerald Dream]

Random is a good thing sometimes! It doesn't have to be about things you have done during the day. A good relationship consists of people who can talk about just about anything. Keep a positive attitude :)

[Gordo]

True true,, we doo seem to end up talking about all sorts of random things that we have done through the day but I'm just a bit scared of it getting to the point where either of us could find it "boring" thats all :/. Thanks though :D

You could bring up your concern as a topic and see what she thinks about or if she has the same thought. You shouldn't really have to work too hard in the early part of a relationship, it should just kinda flow. Once you get to know her better or for a longer time, then there will be times when you have to compromise or alter what you end up doing. Hopefully, she's the same way.

[commikid]

well I have just come back from going to visit her and we have spoken about this matter but she always aims to reasure me which is good I guess but I can never tell what her true thaughts are when I'm not there. Thankyou everyone for your help on here I have read all comments and will bare all that hhas been siad in mind :D

[Hunter_Steel]

Another thing is, I am also in a long distance relationship. I have not seen my girlfriend in about a year now. But we have come a long way. Alot of the times, the conversations will be a little quiet and awkward. But after a while they will begin to pick up again. Particularly when a mutual understanding is reached on one topic then it will just go with the flow as most say. :)

But sometimes in a long distance relationship, its often the guy that has to put in a little more effort than when it is a relationship with physical contact. But in the end, if both of you are willing to keep it going, then it will keep going. When two hearts are connected, distance does not matter.

And when things like this do happen, sometimes you have to make it aware but most of the time just dismiss it and something will popup that you guys can talk about.

~Hunter